RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind?

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thetammyjo -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 8:30:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! Massage, Jaquzzi, Swiming, Reading. etc. KISS ME Misty Since I'm one of these "live it 24/7" people I can say that often it isn't Ds or BDSM that relaxes me but something completely other. Like playing WoW or Diablo or watching a movie. It can be relaxing to not have the responsibility of the Ds relationship obviously there as it would be in a planned scene. Planned scenes can be relax or energizing in some circumstances but not all of them.

Submotive -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 1:00:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistyMenthal How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! When i'm not in service to Master, i do many things that are relaxing and fun. Now that the weather is getting warmer, i love to go to the lake with my 10' boat and just read and sleep and be a lazy girl. At home i play music, do yard work and gardening, watch movies, chat with friends, dance, read, play with my dogs, write and of course there are daily household chores etc. M/s is like anything - it is always present whether i'm doing things for or with Master or not. i have many interests and hobbies that add to O/our relationship but don't necessarily require attention from it.

composer83 -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 1:02:44 PM)
i make music.....im told much of it is good dungeon music..... it can be heard at the link below...

juliaoceania -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 5:41:12 PM)
I have many interests, most of them are not relaxing...lol I find that I love physical activity more than I ever have in my life and I am not sure why this is... I guess I think too much and it is my way of shutting off my mind. I swim, stretch, run, and that sort of thing I also recently started playing a massively multiplayer RPG game that is relaxing at times.

twicehappy -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 5:45:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin Just a note....I also did all these things when I was living 24/7. Being 24/7 doesn't mean that you think about whips and chains every moment of the day. EXACTLY! We are always aware of who we are but funtion like everybody else, well put.

Bearlee -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 5:52:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse ... 24/7 doesn't mean I spend all day every day with my girl tied to the bedposts, it means the dynamic is in place as much when we are doing the shopping or walking in the park as it is when we are playing. There is no 'down time' for the dynamic, Dom and sub isn't hats to be worn at playtimes, it is just who we are and how our relationship works. ... Here here!!! Well said, Sir. It would be the same for me... The question is like saying "How do you unwind when your marriage is not on your mind?" or if I may stretch it a bit... "...when you're not consentrating on breathing?" Okay, I'm not really trying to be a snot, but I couldn't agree more with RM. BDSM is not an extracurricular activity for me...it's always with me.

Eir -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 6:17:20 PM)
Writing... I write and listen to music to get my mind of things and to unwind :)

Eir -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 6:19:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MstrTiger I eat pies and talk to my dog. hehehe On a more serious note, I live, I breathe, I dance the dance of the mystical llama while basking in the glory of the mid day sun, I go out into nature and commune with the butterflies, I become one with the leaves and the water, I marvel at the wonderment that is a furry bee while at the same time I pour scorn on any none furry insect type creatures. I marvel at the majestic cow at play and I see glory in the plumage of any none standard type ducks, I sit in the shade of a big oak tree and muse upon its fabulousness etc. [:D][;)][:D] You be funkey! :D

Najakcharmer -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 7:41:46 PM)
NeverWinter Nights! There's even a couple of BDSM-oriented online servers where you can do classic dungeon crawls with monsters and loot, and come back to the social areas for another kind of dungeon crawl. LOL

Sinergy -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 7:48:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ArchangelMichael I think it's more the pet mindset. My pet is trained to be useful to me in my life. Think of a hunting or working dog. Perhaps it is just me. A pet which does what I want it to do when I want it to do it has a much greater value than a pet in a cage I can go "oooh" and "aaah" at. Just me, etc. Sinergy

Reflectivesoul -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 9:13:00 PM)
How do I unwind.... ok this is prolly going to sound weird but I'm weird so its all good to me lol but I love being read to.... theres just something about it. Being in the company of another, their voice just wrapping you up in a blanket of whatever tale they are telling. grins On other notes, I love to read, write, draw, curl up in a hot tub with a good book, watch a movie..... anything that is a far away from reality as I can get for a few minutes to save my sanity. grins

truesub4u -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 10:33:30 PM)
I don't know about unwinding ..... BDSM isn't on my mind a whole hell of a lot. I'm more of a ... think i'll think of BDSM to unwind from my day... week... life... LOL No seriously.... I just simply live... whatever life throws me... is what I do daily when i'm not serving or submitting. When I am.. I do still deal with daily life until called upon.

LdyS -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 11:24:09 PM)
Sometimes, at the end of very stressful days, I am surprised at just how relaxing coring rope and planning for the next time I get to torment my favorite morsel can be. It seems he can tell how stressful my week has been by how complex the knots and rope harness I put on him when we get together on the weekend. It totally relaxes me to think about BDSM while I am seeing to the details of my day. Of course there are times in the world that I am called upon to use my basic dominance for other purposes and so far, I seem to have managed well. I do occasionally relax in perfectly non BDSM ways, (theatre, fine dining, hanging out with friends) Most of my friends are either involved in BDSM or know that I am --- those that don't know, would not be surprised if they ' found out ' that I am. Life is too short to spend too much non-BDSM D/s time. Best wishes. LdyS

ArchangelMichael -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/15/2006 11:32:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sinergy quote: ORIGINAL: ArchangelMichael I think it's more the pet mindset. My pet is trained to be useful to me in my life. Think of a hunting or working dog. Perhaps it is just me. A pet which does what I want it to do when I want it to do it has a much greater value than a pet in a cage I can go "oooh" and "aaah" at. Just me, etc. Sinergy You have a point there. But not all pets are like that. Some people having hunting dogs and some people keep birds in cages and kitty cats in their homes. So it really just depends on what the needs of the Master are.

mons -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/16/2006 12:50:21 AM)
hello all I am an artist and stamp collector, this still does not take my mind off of it lol but am also a collector and maker of miniatrue food adult doll houses these types of house are very nice I enjoy it so much, lol but my mind is still that of the Domme. My twin just bought me a doll 4ft tall with all of the miniature piece with it oh my goodness i felt like i just whip my pup ( my slave) lol ok i went to far lol but it is something that is so fun I made a loaf of bread no bigger then a tip of a nail. happy thoughts mons/jane

BitaTruble -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/16/2006 1:05:11 AM)
quote: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? I know some people here live the lifestyle 24/7. But for the ones who don't, what relaxes You when You need it the Most! I don't really have stress in my life. I'm pretty even tempered, have some medical issues but it's not like reading or something is going to make them go away.. so, I guess I don't really need to unwind because I'm not generally wound up. If I could have made myself a fairy tale life, it is the life I'm living anyway. Himself has a very stressful job though, so part of my duties are to make sure that everything outside of his job runs ship shape and smooth. I'm pretty good at that and I'm happy he allows me to do it. I get sad sometimes just like everyone else, but .. no.. can't really say I get stressed. I'm blessed, I know it and I appreciate Himself for allowing me to serve and love him. When he gets really stressed, he'll beat on me.. so there are some perks to high pressure jobs. ;) He feels better, I feel great.. win-win. Celeste

wandersalone -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/16/2006 6:01:07 AM)
I find that I can't think about problems/stressors AND keep my balance on the treadmill at the same time so the gym is a great way for me to unwind - and that is me only walking on the treadmill... and very slowly at that!!!!! regards wanders

understud -> RE: How do You unwind, when Bdsm is not on Your Mind? (5/16/2006 6:20:35 AM)
...unwind...write mostly, about anything. try to write a few lines of poetry...Go for long secluded walks in the mountains, away from everyone, especially my conscious mind. Look at trees and try to watch the local wild life. Read travel magazines and then sun bathe, letting my imagination carry me to the faraway places i may never visit. i like to meditate as well. to reach into my inner self as far as i can see and try to remain tranquil while doing it. Ah...sleep; yes...long uninterrupted peaceful sleep...then to dream about being able to fly, to soar like a bird and just enjoy the sensation...sometimes it can feel so real...very relaxing... i think I'll take a nap now, thanks for the post, probably wouldn't have thought of that today...

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