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BonesFromAsh -> The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:11:00 PM)

Here's a topic I haven't come across lately whilst perusing the old threads....the elusive Platinum Unicorn.

When you realize what you seek most likely doesn't exist....how do you chose to respond?

Do you change your criteria?

Do you put your wishes on the back burner?

Do you just give up...or do you do something in between these?



*Note....credit given to sunshinemiss for the "that shits Golden Eggs" part. [;)] She's great like that!

ETA...Unicorn does not imply a poly situation. Unicorn means an legendary creature...as in possible myth.



juliaoceania -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:14:09 PM)

I have seen more than one couple on here pout because they were having trouble finding their third.... you are right, haven't seen it lately.

I do not know how impossible it would be to find such a creature, there are several such couples that have frequented the boards.



littlewonder -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:16:12 PM)

I've never felt like what I seek doesn't exist.

I have felt like it was just the wrong time or place for what I exist though.

I guess if I ever felt like it doesn't exist then I would look at maybe how unrealistic my qualifications and expectations are and maybe wonder if I'm trying to sabotage myself or maybe I'm too scared to move on with my life.





SylvereApLeanan -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:18:23 PM)

I have done all of those, depending on the circumstances of my life at the time.  I can't give one set answer to the question.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:25:33 PM)

If I ever encounter such a GEM, I'll post about it. In the mean time, I'll continue looking under the Rocks and Stones. Every once in awhile toss away the cheap ass plastic Unicorns full of defeats. I'll be happy finding a copper or Bronze Unicorn, one that I don't mind polishing up a little. Long as it's all still in one piece. It does not have to lay any Eggs, I'm happy at going to the store to buy those.



sunshinemiss -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:28:25 PM)

Hello Bones,
I think that one of the things we are talking about is maturity.  At some point we realize that no in fact we are NOT going to be a rock star / the president / an astronaut.  And we have to give up the end point of that dream.  However, what is the *essence* of the dream?  To use the "rock star" part, the question is why do you want to be a rock star?  What are the things that make up being "rock star".  I'm sure that Freddie Mercury of Queen had a different perspective than Emilio Castillo of Tower of Power has.  Do you want to be a rock star for the chicks?  for the adulation?  for the drugs/fame/money?  for the lack of "authority"?  or is it for the music? 

Anyone who has a goal of any kind has to assess the realism of that goal.  I can WANT to be an astronaut, but I'm a 45 year old woman with a bum ankle living in Asia.  I don't think NASA is gonna come calling.  More's the pity. 

When we want a goal, I think the answer is not definite - as Sidhe pointed out.  It is fluid and it changes.  I think also the beliefs / needs that underpin the goal are really the crux of the matter.

Thank you for starting what has the potential to be an interesting discussion.

best,
sunshine



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:30:40 PM)

BonesFromAsh,
Do you truly realize how screwed up a lot of people are to begin with? Even more so online? and Even more so on a site such as this? Are you sure these people are really Looking for Platinum Unicorns that shit out Golden Eggs, or perhaps just looking for somebody half way stable and with it to begin with?



BonesFromAsh -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 5:51:31 PM)

~Fast reply~

Okay...let me try to clarify this a bit. Bear with me, I've just come off a horrible 8 hr shift and am grumpy and tired but with a mind that is full of thoughts.

The Platinum Unicorn, for me, signifies many different things....a partner in life, the dream career, that perfect living situation and, given the venue, the ideal kink dynamic. It's true, the older you get, the more things change...including you. Sometimes, though, there's that one dream...that one elusive creature myth...that you just can't let go of.

At what point do you accept there is no Santa Claus and that Brigadoon isn't going to suddenly appear when the mist clears? Or do you?

Make sense?

ETA...thanks everyone who've posted so far. Good stuff there.



juliaoceania -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 6:07:46 PM)

quote:

At what point do you accept there is no Santa Claus and that Brigadoon isn't going to suddenly appear when the mist clears? Or do you?

Make sense?



We have this choice in life, we can mope about what we do not have, or we can look at what we have right this moment and look for ways to enlarge it. I would rather focus on what I am grateful for.

Most of us have had dreams that did not come true, but then some of us are still working on our dreams, or we make new ones as life changes. I am still working on one dream that I cannot believe I am making happen. It may take the rest of my life to accomplish, and that is okay with me.

There are two ways to approach a goal.... one is to look at the process and the journey, and the other is to focus on the goal. I am more of a journey sort of gal than a goal oriented person. I think I am happier for that perspective. I am not in any hurry. My life is not a race. I do not need something to "happen" to be satisfied with life.

A few years ago I was reading one of my sister's online journals about how she realized that all of the dreams and plans that she and her hubby had made were accomplished. They had their dream house. It was decorated just as they wanted it to be. And she had what she worked for her entire life. She missed the way it felt to dream about it, and the realizing it was a bit of a let down.... And I realized I never want to feel that way about something as big as a lifetime goal.

As far as relationships, I approach them as a journey and not a destination. Enjoy people for what they are to you and the time they are in your life. We are not here long enough to get hung up on the small shit, and most of it is small shit. I would be satisfied with a companion at this point, and if it turned into my unicorn, well wouldn't that be lovely? I wouldn't want to miss out on some other gilded mystical beast because I was hung up on the one I had formed in my mind.



coookie -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 6:25:34 PM)

I am not one that strives for things that are impossible for me to achieve. I have a friend who has been battling now for quite some time to get her gpa up to get accepted as an undergrad into a uni. I personally think that she should examine this goal and perhaps redirect her energies in another direction. I don't say anything because that is not in her personality though if it were me i would look at other options. I don't want to half ass something and be adequate. I would rather do well.



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 6:39:41 PM)

LOL, BonesFromAsh your last post makes sense! However, if I can't at least a get a Cooper Unicorn that can cook eggs...then I'd rather stay single for the Rest of my Life. LOL



aromanholiday -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 7:40:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh
When you realize what you seek most likely doesn't exist....how do you chose to respond?


I never feel that way, unless it's about something I know is impossible (such as bringing someone dead back to life). I have given things a rest before when the all-out throw-everything-into-it search doesn't turn up anything. But I don't ever give up belief or hope that it's out there, I just think, "it's rare" or "my search methods must be screwy." And after I rest, I start looking again, with renewed vigor and new ways of seeking. I am like a very persistent Pollyanna.

I don't give up for two reasons (a) I've found from past searches that persistence eventually yields results and (b) when it comes to something very serious, like a certain type of relationship, I can't live with the consequences of giving up.



KnightofMists -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 8:25:51 PM)

I guess that depends on the way a person lives their life.

I tend to be a realist and rather practical in nature. This is not to say that I don't have an eye to the horizon on occassions. But my eye tends to be directed to a measured realistic goal on the horizon than some pie in the sky dream.



peachgirl -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 8:40:50 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

I guess that depends on the way a person lives their life.

I tend to be a realist and rather practical in nature. This is not to say that I don't have an eye to the horizon on occassions. But my eye tends to be directed to a measured realistic goal on the horizon than some pie in the sky dream.



Ditto this. I focus on what is real to me and attainable, I am very goal oriented. I don't fix my sights on anything hard work won't get me.



sexyred1 -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 8:45:42 PM)

I think your question depends on what the platinum unicorn is.

If it is something achievable like a job or money or traveling somewhere or having some material thing, you can likely keep trying to get it.

If it something like finding your next true love, then you really cannot do anything about that; it is something intangible and happens if it happens.

So if that is a dream of yours (as it is mine), you should be realistic that no matter how proactive you may be, it may not happen. You can choose to be ok with that or depressed or sad or angry or any combination of those emotions.

You can give up or keep hoping; I keep hoping, but temper that with a major dose of reality.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 8:46:39 PM)

I got to that point. I am not sure how, but I did. A dear friend died suddenly, and as part of the aftermath I reassessed what I was doing, why, and what I really wanted. It was kind of surprisng. After nearly 20 years, I just *stopped*. Quit going to events, put away my toys, hid my profile. It's fantastic.

Because yanno? There really isn't someone for everyone. In my part of the world, there is no one for me. And tthat's actually fine! I honestly have NO desire to disrupt my life for a "relationship" right now. I am not interested in sportfucking, or casual play. If someone comes along that lights my fire, spiffy. In the meantime, I'm enjoying life, and building a future for myself.



peppermint -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 9:58:43 PM)

Just two weeks ago we were standing in a parking lot outside our car looking at the lovely new visitors' center at Old Faithful in Yellowstone Park.  We wanted to go inside that building as we were sure the inside would be as lovely as the outside.  Unfortunately there was a set of stairs leading up to the front door.  Gary had a single lung transplant 10 years ago.  I have COPD.  We just got done spending the cooler months in Yuma, AZ at 400 feet.  Yellowstone if over  6,000 feet.  We had one bottle of oxygen to share between the two of us and just standing there we were having a hard time breathing.  Sadly we knew getting into that building was beyond what we were physically capable of doing.  We got back into our car and continued to drive the park.

A short time later we came to a field of mommy and baby bison.  They were right next to the road.  Some were napping.  Some were eating.  Some of the babies were playing.  If we had gone into that visitors' center we might have missed this lovely scene.  We took tons of pictures and movies. 

We never worry about what we can not do.  We enjoy all that we can do. 



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 10:10:16 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh

...the elusive Platinum Unicorn.



It's "elusive" because it doesn't exist.  There's absolutely no such thing as "perfect".

Thus, the answer to your question is to first accept that perfection doesn't exist... only from there can each find what they seek -- in love, life, or otherwise.




ResidentSadist -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/5/2011 10:39:38 PM)

I’m sure there are lots of masochistic red headed Scottish bisexual 18 year old identical triplets that just love older sadistic Masters and want to become sister wives.      What’s a unicorn?



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: The Platinum Unicorn that shits Golden Eggs.... (6/6/2011 2:49:47 AM)

Lions and Tigers and Bears! I'm going to shoot myself in the head with the biggest rubber band I can humanly find right now, perhaps it will knock me out for a few weeks.








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