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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 3:16:16 PM

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The truth is that it would have been so much more if i was laughed at

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 4:20:06 PM

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The truth is that it would have been so much more if i was laughed at

This is what makes public humiliation a pretty high maintenance fetish (a lot of work, preparation for the femdom) compared to other kinds of humiliation. I think a lot of femdoms understand the shame and humiliation and embarrassment these fetishists want to experience. But in reality, any good service/sales person is going to temper their reactions and react to the situation with tolerance and even encouragement.

That's not what a humiliation fetishist wants. He wants women to laugh at him and even be shocked.

In college I 'set up' a situation where I took a a guy to a lingerie store for his shopping spree and I had a few girlfriends in on the game, but he didn't know them. They were acting like innocent shoppers. I made sure they overheard the shopping process and they proceeded to add to his total humiliation by staring, whispering, giggling, eventually asking questions and making commentary. He was absolutely mortified. But it was all a set up - it was a mindfuck. It served its purpose.

As a femdom, this can be arranged. For the sub though, he can't very well ask a woman to set up a mind fuck. To want women to react with shock, amusement, or disgust, you are asking a bit too much in a situation where the women aren't in on it. If it makes you feel better though, I bet some of the ladies had a laugh at your expense once you left and they could call up their girlfriends and say, "You won't believe this customer I just had."

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 4:21:14 PM

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I am pretty conservative on the subject, Roch. My philosophy on this one is that My right to kink ends where the other person's right to their personal comfort level begin. While I'll agree with you that it's your employees job to assist a customer in the store with their purchases and such, I've honestly got no desire to go in there and make Myself the worst part of their day. I'm not willing to deliberately make someone uncomfortable for the sake of My kink. Whether you're paying them or not, I don't have the right to come into your store and go out of My way to upset them.

This comes from service orientanted person: it is there job. I worked at Burger King for 4 years, I once had to dig through trash because someones kid threw the parents wallet away because the parent wouldn't by them a shake >.> I did it, washed my hands and made burgers for the customers for the rest of the day, cause its my job.

Whats more there are PLENTY of customer service people who hate dealing with gays lesbians etc, but I feel no sympothy for the waiter or waitress to serve a customer because they are gay or whatever because its the job they CHOSE to do.

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 7:54:19 PM

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If you want to be humiliated buying lingerie, then ask your mom what color women's panties will look best on you. That's going to garner you all the humiliation and mortification you could ever dream of. Don't be a coward and pick someone else's mother, sister or daughter instead.

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 8:06:54 PM

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In a shoe shop the sales girls though it was fantastic. I was taken into the back for greater privacy and had a pair of shoes chosen for me. One of the sales girls told me she was really fascinated in the concept of crossdressing and was so enthusiastic. In a lingerie department a woman helped chose my underwear and at a makeup counter was given advice on makeup. It surprised me how tolerant people were and it felt like they took as much pleasure in it as I did.

I'm glad you enjoyed yourself.

I told you that the ladies would be tolerant and professional. That's their job. Even though you wanted them to openly laugh at you, it would have been unprofessional for them to do so. Laughing at customers is not a good trait for a retail employee.

They probably did had a good laugh at your expense after you left. So you can revel in that knowledge.

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 8:10:13 PM

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Yanno, they might NOT have. Sorry to be the bubble burster, but with the RuPaul reality show and all, crossdressing is not the bizarre thing it might have been.

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 8:16:22 PM

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Yanno, they might NOT have. Sorry to be the bubble burster, but with the RuPaul reality show and all, crossdressing is not the bizarre thing it might have been.

Lady Hib,
Why are you raining on his parade? He's in it for the humiliation.

I'm certain that the ladies in the store laughed hysterically at him. In fact, they're probably still laughing. He should feel completely humiliated.

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RE: public humiliation? - 6/27/2011 8:16:56 PM

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This comes from service orientanted person: it is there job. I worked at Burger King for 4 years, I once had to dig through trash because someones kid threw the parents wallet away because the parent wouldn't by them a shake >.> I did it, washed my hands and made burgers for the customers for the rest of the day, cause its my job.

Whats more there are PLENTY of customer service people who hate dealing with gays lesbians etc, but I feel no sympothy for the waiter or waitress to serve a customer because they are gay or whatever because its the job they CHOSE to do.

I'm kind of surprised at your first paragraph. It completely screams health code violation. The customers had every right to go through the manager, explain the situation, and look for their property themselves. It's not like your restroom waste was going into a separate dumpster. I'd have cooked burgers the rest of the day Myself, rather than have some employee who had been sorting through trash continuing to cook other people's food.

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