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ORIGINAL: analyticalmaster
Very few if any owned submissives want to hear directly for males they do not know personally.  For the rare one who's Master might let them talk to you, assuming they even wanted to, you would write him and ask permission politely. 

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Lets see, first of all your 19, sorry but this means you dont have a clue as yet

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While technically you are an adult, most serious people in the life understand that you really are not in a place in your own head yet to give true consent

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Very few if any owned submissives want to hear directly for males they do not know personally.

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For the rare one who's Master might let them talk to you, assuming they even wanted to, you would write him and ask permission politely.  The only acceptable way to talk to another's submissive is either on a forum list, where conversation is remote and about a topic, or at a social event with the sub's Master present and with his permission.

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

<snip>OK, just a few points to cover what's been said up to analyticalmaster's post.....

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather=
2. There's no point/no profit. Excuser moi? No profit? What about friendly conversation? Interesting exchanges of ideas? Does a sub cease to be a human being just because he/she is owned?

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ORIGINAL: analyticalmaster

Lets see, first of all your 19, sorry but this means you dont have a clue as yet, then you are a switch.

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

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Very few if any owned submissives want to hear directly for males they do not know personally.

I have yet to encounter any such. No that's not true, I do know a few who don't want to speak with men period, and some are owned and some not, but they are all lesbians. the straight and bi subs i have encountered or spoken with don't express that point of view to me. they could be withholding that information, but I don't think so as they would have no reason to.

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MrH, there is something of a cultural difference on the age matter on this side of the pond.  One place that I will give credit on one of the prior responses is that, in certain places in this country, a kinky person of age nineteen may have their options limited regarding what munches/events they can attend.  A number of groups here are still for those twenty-one and up.  Many of the TNG groups are eighteen and up, but they aren't in all locations.  I'd say that 75% of the munch groups that I'm still on their mailing list after moving around over the years are still twenty-one and up.

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Talking to everyone maximises your chance of getting that crucial introduction that'll change your dating landscape.

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ORIGINAL: MrHCurious

Ah, I see. I've sspent most of my time on British-centric boards, that didn't occur to me. I still think he's a complete idiot for such an off-hand dismissal.

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

It takes a little while to acclimate to the rampant stupidity on CM forums, but once you have, you'll find them an endless source of hearty belly laughs.

Just avoid taking anything seriously, most especially the Politics & Religion forums, which are the last bastion of the tinfoil hat brigade, and where extremists of all stripes clump together for warmth and self-validation. When it comes to “Dominants”, generally the more experience the pompous profess to, the more self-aggrandising their names and titles, then the less actual knowledge they've accrued, and I've a sneaky suspicion that many of the most "Domly" have never seen a woman naked, much less touched one.

There are a tiny number of genuinely knowledgeable people, Dom and sub – I could count them using only my fingers, and their quiet learnedness is self-evident – there’s lots to be learned, from both sides of the divide. There’s also a medium-sized cohort of folk who are simply very pleasant human beings, and again they’ll make themselves known by their generally kind words and patient, understanding natures.

The rest are as complete a dictionary definition of “the clueless unwashed” or (in deference to our colonial cousins) “sub-normal asshats” as you could hope to encounter, but their statements are often hugely amusing, as I’ve said, but only once you've stopped trying to bash understanding into their thick skulls with a 5Lb lump-hammer, and instead merely stood back and enjoyed. Think of it as the best train crash you've ever witnessed, ruined anew for your personal delectation, each and every morning.

I don't have much time to read CM anymore, on account of having a life, but whenever I do it never fails to raise at least 3 minor chuckles (call them centi-chuckles, as a scale) and 1 genuine guffaw. Just be clear with yourself though; you can't fix stupid. Oh, and never try to correct a clique once it’s started “piling-on” – it’s like trying to stop a shiver of sharks from digesting a dead dolphin.

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ORIGINAL: MrHCurious

I like you, you seem smart.

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

"Mildly diverting", however, I will admit to.

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ORIGINAL: MrHCurious

And I remember having to interact regularly with one particularly odious dominant-type with a commensurately ridiculous title (if I remember properly, he tried to get people to refer to him as 'Viscount'. VISCOUNT)

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ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious

And sweet and cuddly,

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ORIGINAL: RapierFugue

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ORIGINAL: bhamliving

Hello!

First off, I am relitivly new to the D/s relationship dynamic.  I do not claim to be a master, but since my enterance into the kinky world, I have come in contact, both directly and indirectly, with those who classify themselves as masters. For that reason, I have a question

Spelling “etiquette” correctly might be a good starting point.

Secondly, why would you be wanting to contact someone who already has a Master? Assuming you're not trying to rub another man’s rhubarb, I’d suggest just being polite and respectful and contacting the Master first, if indicated so to do by the sub/slave’s profile.

“Master” is a largely self-imposed term. Anyone claiming it comes with a series of hard and fast “rules” that apply to all "Masters" (or indeed, anyone else) is probably an idiot.