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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

OK! But that would require us to be in physical proximity . . . .

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

While everything for me starts in the mind, of course, I LOVE being physically overpowered, held down, feeling the weight of someone on me, even struggling. That is why I like consensual force play, which I know many people here don't believe in.

If I am being mentally overpowered, as in he is saying things that alone can make me turn into a puddle, that is even better.

When I say the person can overpower me, I am not necessarily talking about brute strength; just his ability to take me over.

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ORIGINAL: OttersSwim

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
In a nutshell: it's not her actual wrestling me to the ground that matters, it's seeing her desire to do so.

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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

Now here's a question for the femsubs here. Who would rather have between your sheets: Mr Poet, with his slim build but his passionate eyes and mouth, or Mr Muscles, who could throw you around?

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

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men who claim to be doms, and men who are doms.

i don't think, for the purposes of our discussion, there's a real difference. i mean what you consider a real dom and what i consider a real dom will be different, and both those will be different again from what lilly does. as far as i'm concerned anybody who says they are a fucking dom/domme is. that doesn't make them a good dom/domme, but it makes them one. a shitty dominant is just as much a dominant as a good one. its a matter of fucking degrees. an intelligent dom will rely on far more than just physically dominating some cunt, a stupid one won't. if he's got no fucking brains, then he's got no choice, does he?

and in my experience most doms don't have the fucking brains to find their way out of bed without a fucking map and written directions. in my time as a painslut-for-hire, i probably dealt with more individual male doms than most girls on here, so i'm fucking well going to stand by my conclusions.


hannah lynn

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

Wow what an insulting little thread this is turning into!

OK well skipping all the BS on who's a fuckwit, here's my 2 cents on the OP...

The man got into my head.  Slowly, gradually, wonderfully entered my skeptical mind, and, in fact, would NOT physically overpower me for some time.

That said, I do love the physical-ness. It's part of our mutual sexual enjoyment.  It's no more "role play" for us than him fucking me is.  I mean, if in the heat of passion the man wants to grab me by the hair, smack me across the face, and push me to the floor before getting himself off with my body, how is that any different than any other means by which a person achieves sexual satisfaction and orgasm?  May as well say sex itself is role play, yes?

For us, and I suspect for others as well, physical interaction is one way among many of expressing what we share within our dynamic together.  Whether it's kissing, hugging, fucking, beating, massaging, spanking, choking, stroking, or being so close you can feel each others energy without actually touching - - it's all various ways of interacting.  And I'm greedy - I like all of it.

We don't do the 'bratty vs. discipline" thing.  We just get really passionate and whatever happens, happens.  I tend to grab and claw and tear and bite and he slams me back - not because he doesn't want me to express myself naturally like that, but to save his skin from further wreckage  .  We're both very aggressive when things escalate to that level, so he needs to be able to "man-handle" me.  Sometimes, being dominant does mean the ability to physically dominate another.  The Mister mentally, emotionally and physically dominates me, which I am grateful for.

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ORIGINAL: Aynne88

Yes this mainly is how we operate too Neuva. Sometime though I get so revved up that even though I don't want to nor care to, I forget my head for a minute and have been known to give his face a wicked slap on the heat of passion. It is in no way me trying to provoke or be bratty its just fucking hot in the moment and usually he overlooks because I know he enjoys my impulsive act of raw power. I don't push my luck often though...obviously

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I also vehemently disagree that just because someone tags themselves with the Dom label they are one, even if they are a bad one as you stated. Calling yourself so doesn't make it so. There are far to many HNG's that are so far from being a Dom it's laughable.

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I get where you are coming from and jesus I hate to use the "age" argument, but when I was in my 20's and even 30's I had the uber femnist chip on my shoulder in regards to men and found it did not serve me well.

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so combine that with being a lesbian

Thank you all for not replying to Hanners right away, I get the keyboard for a while!!

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I also vehemently disagree that just because someone tags themselves with the Dom label they are one, even if they are a bad one as you stated. Calling yourself so doesn't make it so.

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the best you can do is define the sort of dom you want, its not that the others aren't doms, their just not the dom for you.

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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

While everything for me starts in the mind, of course, I LOVE being physically overpowered, held down, feeling the weight of someone on me, even struggling. That is why I like consensual force play, which I know many people here don't believe in.

If I am being mentally overpowered, as in he is saying things that alone can make me turn into a puddle, that is even better.

When I say the person can overpower me, I am not necessarily talking about brute strength; just his ability to take me over.

THIS

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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

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the best you can do is define the sort of dom you want, its not that the others aren't doms, their just not the dom for you.

Just because somebody doesn't match my idea of what makes a "real" dominant doesn't mean they aren't a dominant.

Does that make sense?

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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

aynne baby, i agree with pretty much all of what you said. you've met lots of wonderful doms, but how many of the fucking assholes have you passed on or ignored? the ignored pile is a shit load bigger isn't it? so your experience isn't really all that different, you just avoided having to play with the assholes, believe you me, i wish i could have as well.

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I also vehemently disagree that just because someone tags themselves with the Dom label they are one, even if they are a bad one as you stated. Calling yourself so doesn't make it so. There are far to many HNG's that are so far from being a Dom it's laughable.

the reason i take any self proclaimed dom (or domme or slave or sub, or whatever) at their word is because there is no way to define what is and what isn't a dom (or whatever else). the best you can do is define the sort of dom you want, its not that the others aren't doms, their just not the dom for you.

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I get where you are coming from and jesus I hate to use the "age" argument, but when I was in my 20's and even 30's I had the uber femnist chip on my shoulder in regards to men and found it did not serve me well.

i really want to address this, because a lot of people have the wrong impression, but i don't want to hijack this thread, so i'll start a new one.

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so combine that with being a lesbian

psssst, i'm not a lesbian. heather is, but i'm bisexual. but i'll deal with that in the other thread as well.

hannah lynnand