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Friends - 5/14/2006 1:42:05 PM   
Mistrix


Posts: 186
Joined: 2/14/2006
Status: offline 		In my area there is aren't any women that I can sit with and have a coffee and rant and rave about BDSM.   I find it kind of lonely at times, wishing that there were other Domina's close by that we can hang out, go to movies or just walks and exchange ideas.  Online is great but it's not the same as being face to face. 
Am I alone in this?
Do most of you have "friends" that you can talk to about anything????  Or is it like some secret all the time.  That's how I feel.  THe only time I can really share is online.  And well, that is not always boring but I would like to meet more women face to face.  Even just to hang out and go to shops, talk, and share about our experiences.  Can anyone relate to this?
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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 1:54:02 PM   
Level


Posts: 25145
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Status: offline 		Are there no groups in your area? No munches?

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 1:57:12 PM   
Mistrix


Posts: 186
Joined: 2/14/2006
Status: offline 		Nope

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 1:58:57 PM   
bandit25


Posts: 3029
Joined: 6/18/2005
Status: offline 		You're not alone.  Although we do have groups in my area, I haven't found anyone I've connected with.

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 2:01:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure where the North Bay is at, but is the population there substantial enough to consider starting a group? I also noticed on your profile that you're willing to move, that's always an option.

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 2:12:12 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


Posts: 3054
Joined: 10/1/2005
Status: offline 		Well if nothing else make a Domme friend in the forums...exchange e-mails then maybe go to phone ..at least then you could call and have a real live voice and ear to talk to...be well...Tempting

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 2:25:25 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TemptingNviceSub

Well if nothing else make a Domme friend in the forums...exchange e-mails then maybe go to phone ..at least then you could call and have a real live voice and ear to talk to...be well...Tempting


That's a very good idea, tempting.

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 3:22:08 PM   
HoosierScorpio


Posts: 164
Status: offline 		Mistrix why not create munch for people to come to meet like minded individuals. I live in Indiana and the first munch was held in a Bar as a Meet N Greet and this was before the internet.  Why not create the groups yourself. If you are looking to be secrete in what you do then all you got to say it is an Adult Munch Group. When I went to my first munch  in 2001 there was only one munch group then with in six years we have so many groups now that you can go broke driving around attending them all every week. If you hold it they will come and this site would be a good place to advertise it also you can ask people who already host groups how to go about create one. Good luck

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 3:24:38 PM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mistrix

Do most of you have "friends" that you can talk to about anything????  Or is it like some secret all the time.  That's how I feel.  THe only time I can really share is online.  And well, that is not always boring but I would like to meet more women face to face.  Even just to hang out and go to shops, talk, and share about our experiences.  Can anyone relate to this?


I know how you feel.  I felt like I was on an island for awhile.  Coming across this forum helped.  I have "vanilla" friends who know of my submission but they do not understand it, so they can't relate.  They are always asking me WHY I do what he tells me, and "Why don't you just tell him you're tired and can't do it?"  They mean well, they just don't understand the need.  They try to be supportive, but it's not like I can share ideas, theories and experiences with them.

I have made some friends online, who I talk to on the phone.  One lives across the country and came to visit last month, which was fun.  Only recently I have considered going to munches.

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 3:31:37 PM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Level

I'm not sure where the North Bay is at, but is the population there substantial enough to consider starting a group? I also noticed on your profile that you're willing to move, that's always an option.


I know where North Bay... mmmmmmm I would Move... FAST!

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 3:36:40 PM   
Mistrix


Posts: 186
Joined: 2/14/2006
Status: offline 		wicked ideas.
I have though about starting up something.
Do you know any good resources on starting up a play party or a munch?

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 4:54:51 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


Posts: 19224
Joined: 10/25/2005
Status: offline 		A person does not become my friend unless I can be fully who I am- I wouldn't feel like I would be a real friend to them otherwise.

And yes, I've got them.


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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 4:57:23 PM   
mixielicous


Posts: 1283
Joined: 4/6/2006
From: Boston area, Massachusetts
Status: offline 		i dont have any friends in RT in the 'scene' but we are working on forming aquaintences thru CM and have a few couples locally lined up to meet

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 5:01:18 PM   
PlayfulOne


Posts: 1047
Status: offline 		I don't know LA, I have very dear friends who know nothing of this part of my life.  We became friends at different times for different reasons.  I'm not tyring to say your wrong, I'm just saying i have never thought of it that way.

And I  stil haven't adjusted to your comments coming from the purple bunny.

Peace and light

K

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 8:04:53 PM   
Sinergy


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Joined: 4/26/2004
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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

You're not alone.  Although we do have groups in my area, I haven't found anyone I've connected with.


Hello A/all,

I have seldom met people I connected with at munches and play parties and the like.

Perhaps if I did not see BDSM and D/s as something which is a part of my life, as opposed to being the reason I was alive, I might have more in common with people I met at those functions.

It may just be me, though.  While BDSM and D/s are fun to talk about, eventually I want to talk about the difference between correlated and uncorrelated radio carbon dating or the possibility of and issues affecting life existing on planets orbiting brown dwarfs.

That probably is me, and I am probably wrong.

Sinergy

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 8:45:43 PM   
Evanesce


Posts: 2325
Joined: 9/14/2005
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quote:

Do you know any good resources on starting up a play party or a munch?


Starting a munch or other social group is easy.  I've done it, and the group now has some 70-80 members (we even have t-shirts).  All you have to do is decide when and where to have it, make sure the venue knows you're going to be there, make the announcement in whatever discussion lists to which you belong and make sure folks know how to recognize you when they show up.  Then just go at the appointed time (best to be about 10 minutes early if you're the hostess) and wait for folks to show up.
 
Play parties take a little more planning, if you're not hosting them in your own home. 

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 10:17:55 PM   
MistressLove999


Posts: 201
Joined: 7/7/2005
From: Daytona Beach, Florida
Status: offline 		I don't have any Domme friends either in RT, but I have a male Dom friend, and his sub, she and I have made a friendship, we have a blast going out to eat or shopping at  the local toy store or anything.
It is a good experience to be able to be free with who and what I am. She accepts me being a Domme & I her for being a sub, & NO neither of us are bi.
We do chat on the phone and on line we meet at  the local munch etc. So maybe if not another Domme or even a Dom try a sub just a thought.

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 10:21:06 PM   
juliaoceania


Posts: 21383
Joined: 4/19/2006
From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		I feel very lucky that my best friend is also a submissive politically minded antiwar peacenic gal... just like me! I hope you find your soul sister someday, it sure helps the rough patches for me!

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RE: Friends - 5/14/2006 11:34:38 PM   
shivvy


Posts: 746
Joined: 3/25/2006
From: Ireland, living in Kent, England.
Status: offline 		i know how you feel. me and my little girl still live with my mum and dad, and i loads of vanilla friends, some of whom know about me and disapprove, coz they're concerned about me and for my safety and stuff, and other "friends" who use it to try and manipulate me, coz my oldies would flip if they eva found out.
 
i have a vanilla bf at the minute (basically, coz it's just easier all round if i'm vanilla, and coz although i'm submissive, i'm still human, and i get lonely on my own and need luv), who is really lovely. we only been going out 5 weeks, as of yesterday, and although i think i really luv him already, i still crave to be controlled, and i'm kinda working on him
 
This is the first site like this i joined, and to be honest, since me and my Master broke up, and i lost contact with everybody i had made friends with, i haven't really had anybody to talk to either, about how i feel, which is why i think this site is so grand. i have made some really good friends on here, and i have enjoyed talking to them, and i have enjoyed being allowed to express stuff on these forums, and getting feed back, and listening to wot other people have got to say, and listen to their advice and stuff.
 
So really, i just wanna say thank you to everybody for talking to me, and to each other, and for letting me be a part of it.

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RE: Friends - 5/15/2006 3:57:35 AM   
sephisurrender3d


Posts: 37
Joined: 3/21/2006
Status: offline 		Lady Mistrix,
You are by no means alone in the loneliness catagory..Master and i live in SW Pennsylvania and have limited contact with others of the lifestyle.. Usually due to the meet and greets being to far or on weekends when having Masters son keeps us from doing much..I also am not from PA so i have no friends here what so ever and as others have said having a friend who doesnt understand is hard..Ive tried to make friends with parents of my daughters scout troop and feel very inadequate because most work or i just cant figure out the places they are talking about because i dont know my way around all that well...
 
As for making friends here its a wonderful idea , i have met a few and gotten close... As in the OP id like to have some actual away from Home friend to friend time to rant, chat,and enjoy adult conversation , just relax away from the demands of being mommy/wife/slave....
 
sephi
 
(please excuse the spelling or not making sence its early and kidlettes need scolding)


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