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ORIGINAL: poise

As others have said, it has nothing to do with vanilla vs D/s, but with integrity.
Each relationship is built and grows with trust. I would not only lose respect for
myself if I were to go behind His back to selfishly get my needs met, but I would
soon lose respect for any man that had no compunction in stepping in.
And it's really hard to trust someone you can't respect.