LaTigresse
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RapierFugue, it isn't that the pope of rope needs to be the op. Someone with a sincere question wanting an honest answer is enough. Most people on the site will try to be helpful. Even you. maybe.
The issue then is how to build a welcoming atmosphere for someone starting a thread, if that person is nervous, or unsure, ie isn't a troll or a pompous ass.
Sometimes it is hard because a well meaning person will post something like "I think all dominants who like to humiliate their submissives suck and are abusive".... how are we supposed to respond to that without making the person feel somewhat ganged up on, and at the same time make sure others reading understand that they may not understand a kink, but it doesn't make that kink wrong
Sometimes for me, it's just a fine line that I see. We have so many different personalities that post here. Completely different senses of humour, completely different backgrounds, upbringings, concepts of good versus bad manners, cultural differences.
I see people getting upset over some things that just totally baffle me......and other times I cannot believe more people are not upset over something.
So......when some threads are created that tend to be 'hot topics' all of those differences become glaringly obvious. I mean really.......people creating entire discussions about one word and the perceptions, positive, negative or neutral about that ONE WORD and how it was used in a thread. That's the kind of stuff that makes me sit back in bafflement.
And the fact that people get upset over the point of view of a person they will likely never ever even meet....to the point of moderation. Then twist, dance, turn the thread into a free for all that has very little bearing, quite obviously, on the intial OP.
It is some really great people watching but damn. And that is just my point of view based upon MY personal filters.
All too often I think we all totally ignore that other people have entirely different filters. Just because they are different does not make them right or wrong, just different. That inability to acknowledge tends to lead to some really nasty and childish behaviour.
When it is between people that seem to be able to hold their own......meh, whatever. But sometimes I think we all forget that there really are human beings behind those words. And sometimes, some of the harshest and most difficult to swallow words are the armour of those that are at the core, the most hurt by the repurcussion of their own words.
I try to avoid getting personal but I often fail. When I recognize that I've crossed my OWN line, I do get annoyed with myself. I kind of like to be personally responsible and not make me, the responsibility of a moderator.
< Message edited by LaTigresse -- 6/19/2011 9:31:17 AM >
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!
Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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