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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:10:11 AM

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Maybe to make sure you aren't a 300 lb man?

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:25:06 AM

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Maybe to make sure you aren't a 300 lb man?

Well, if they're local and the goal is to meet face to face...it would become obvious very quickly that she's not a 300lb man.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:25:34 AM

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maybe so he can jerk off to moving pictures of a woman he doesnt have to pay a subscription for???
just sayin

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:27:00 AM

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There are SO many fakes on collarme that I won't even both emailing more than a time or two with someone I haven't talked to on the phone.

I think you should call me Michael, I want proof;)
btw nice to see you posting again.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:45:45 AM

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There are SO many fakes on collarme that I won't even both emailing more than a time or two with someone I haven't talked to on the phone.

BUT sometimes they are not fakes and just scared to death...

Right?

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 11:55:38 AM

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LP was right - it's the tits.

Seriously, don't look for a more complex explanation. The fact that it's a BDSM site doesn't change the fact that men are thinking about fucking you.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 12:07:30 PM

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There are SO many fakes on collarme that I won't even both emailing more than a time or two with someone I haven't talked to on the phone.

BUT sometimes they are not fakes and just scared to death...

Right?

Have I told you lately just how freakin sexy you look in that dress?

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 12:13:05 PM

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There are SO many fakes on collarme that I won't even both emailing more than a time or two with someone I haven't talked to on the phone.

BUT sometimes they are not fakes and just scared to death...

Right?

Have I told you lately just how freakin sexy you look in that dress?

Thanks!

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 12:19:13 PM

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And then once they get the tit shot, the more adventurous of those will ask you to show pussy so that you can "prove" you're female.

Ha, I keep my clothes on, don't get on cam and nor do I make any of my cats go on cam the female dog however, she's a bitch, she might like to show off but I think her teeth would scare some guys

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 2:02:41 PM

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LOL......that would be a hoot, get asked to show your pussy, and hold up a cat

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 2:13:58 PM

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OK I have another newbie question which may be stupid as well, but I really want to know.

A man wrote to me and I replied to him. Then I noticed that it wasn't showing that I had responded to him beside his message. I checked "Sent" mail and my response wasn't there either.

So I wrote him another identical response, but the same thing happened. I sent a different person's mail a response, and that showed up fine.

Does that mean he blocked me after he wrote to me so I couldn't respond? If yes, then why do men do this? I'm sure there's some obvious reason but I can't figure out what it might be.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 3:44:24 PM

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Are you all saying that these Doms never had any intention of meeting a real sub? They only want to look at her on cam? Not to actually hold her and play with her and touch her in real life?

I'd never considered that some Doms don't really want actual physical interaction. It seems counter-intuitive somehow.

It's 'cause they aren't really doms but hng's.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 3:44:58 PM

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LOL......that would be a hoot, get asked to show your pussy, and hold up a cat

I have a friend, that when someone demanded topless pictures of herself....she cut the top halfs off all her pictures and sent them to him. I loved it.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 3:49:49 PM

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OK I have another newbie question which may be stupid as well, but I really want to know.

A man wrote to me and I replied to him. Then I noticed that it wasn't showing that I had responded to him beside his message. I checked "Sent" mail and my response wasn't there either.

So I wrote him another identical response, but the same thing happened. I sent a different person's mail a response, and that showed up fine.

Does that mean he blocked me after he wrote to me so I couldn't respond? If yes, then why do men do this? I'm sure there's some obvious reason but I can't figure out what it might be.

I don't know why it wouldn't show up, that must have something to do with the technical aspect of this site.

But if he blocked you, so what? I wouldn't waste time wondering about the motivations of anyone on this site. I wouldn't say this is the best venue to meet someone as a face to face partner, but if you are looking here, I would highly recommend giving your time and attention only to those who deserve it. If anyone wants to play a game or make certain demands and you have only gotten to the point of a few message exchanges, they are not worth your time. Someone who is worth knowing will endeavour to get to know you first. Keep that in mind. It isn't worth your personal energy to bother with any of these other types.

That's my suggestion. :)

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/19/2011 3:49:58 PM

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I know that being new here, you are going to come across alot of things
that may boggle your mind, as far as human behavior goes. Because the
internet allows many to remain anonymous, there are many people who aren't
going to be the wonderful men that they tell you they are.

I suggest you do yourself a favor and only focus on the behaviors you find that are positive.
If you are getting so caught up in why this one did that, or why so and so
may have blocked you or not, you are taking time away from those that are
worthy of your attention.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/20/2011 2:49:29 AM

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Mailing with one, could be a good starting point, but if you dare to ask of a picca, they are gone like the wind :)

You get what you give, is what I'm saying and if it isn't a fair deal, well, move on. I am not at the least interested.

Obviously, when I turned of the couples profile I got overwhelmed with mails, I think I't turn it back on again *smiling*

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/20/2011 4:11:29 AM

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seriously Gypsy, there are 'subs' out there who aren't subs, aren't female, aren't anything like their personal descriptions, aren't available and just want to wank.

ETA - but the tooth fairy IS real!

FTFY...and also answered the OP's question simultaneously.
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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/20/2011 6:05:12 AM

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in the past i got cajoeled into caming for that reason and within minutes theyre trying to Dom you into removing youre clothes and when you refuse youre then accused of not being a real sub.

its a downward spirral of mistrust that goes from bad to worse.

if they need you to prove youreself this early on its a red flag and you pass. doesnt matter if they call you a fake, doesnt matter at all. you know youre not and thats all that matters.

people get forced into the feeling that they need to prove who they are, what they are and everything else in between.

a phone call is all thats needed to settle that argument but why bother. distrustful people are all kinds of unnecessary hastle.

.... and also they want some free porn

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/20/2011 6:46:38 AM

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in the past i got cajoeled into caming for that reason and within minutes theyre trying to Dom you into removing youre clothes and when you refuse youre then accused of not being a real sub.

its a downward spirral of mistrust that goes from bad to worse.

if they need you to prove youreself this early on its a red flag and you pass. doesnt matter if they call you a fake, doesnt matter at all. you know youre not and thats all that matters.

people get forced into the feeling that they need to prove who they are, what they are and everything else in between.

a phone call is all thats needed to settle that argument but why bother. distrustful people are all kinds of unnecessary hastle.

.... and also they want some free porn

Or a sub could look at it as a heckuva litmus test for any potential dominant partners.:-)

Now I should note that I don't have a cam, have never asked anyone to cam (I prefer to actually meet FtF), and really find the whole thing kinda tawdry, but I can understand why folks ask and see at least one reason it's not a ridiculous request.

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RE: Why constant requests for webcam? - 6/20/2011 6:47:51 AM

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