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Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 2:39:42 AM   
Charnegui


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Status: offline 		Like to see (hear) your opinion about this. It just crossed my mind reading this article.





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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 2:41:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		For me in a relationship 5 yrs minus and 10 yrs plus my age is acceptable.

When my Man likes to have me done by a 20yr old, I'd rather don't know, but then, I can't always see


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 3:34:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Physical years is not really all the question. I have known quite a few that are young in years but have 'an old head on young shoulders' conversely, i have met some much older people that really should know better (grin).

I would say that your own 'gut' feeling will tell you if something is right or not. Simply putting a figure on what you find acceptable (legal age limits as a base figure) will be disatisfying and may mean you miss out on someone wonderful ;-)

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 4:26:48 AM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 4:31:21 AM   
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Simply putting a figure on what you find acceptable (legal age limits as a base figure) will be disatisfying and may mean you miss out on someone wonderful ;-)

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Whilst in theory I agree, in reality, I don't. Recently a 20 year old guy expressed his interest and I had so no desire in a guy who is 13 years younger than me So I might have missed out someone wonderful but I can live with it

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 4:54:56 AM   
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Status: offline 		If it's for a relationship - long term - I want a man closer to my age, the kind that has gotten past the "we'd make beautiful babies together" stage because... we won't. For fun, hey, if they are legal... it's all fabu. I rather like the mid 20's for fun. They have energy, they are fun, they don't tire easily, they're strong and have good upper body strength. :) and nice to look at.

It's the Bull Durham syndrome with me. But hey! I get to be Susan Sarandon. YAY!

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 4:59:14 AM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:02:43 AM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:07:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm 57 and if I were just into play partners, almost any fem/sub 18 to 60 would do.

But I'm not into play partners.... Committed relationship comes first and since (for me) that encompasses most things vanilla as well as the D/s, I'd much prefer someone over 40. Anyone younger would have to deliver her half of some (impossibly?) impressive mutual chemistry.

I mean, having some sweet young thing to tie, flog and fuck etc and generally boss about sounds super but really, what tha hell am I gonna do with her when I just want a friend/partner/confidante etc to relax with? We could maybe go clubbing 'til dawn...? I don't think soooooo.... lol

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:15:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		i don't really mind age differences as long as the people are together for real reasons. i'm mostly attracted to older men but because i also want to have kids, i limit the age range for actual relationships. i'm not super interested in guys my age or younger because they usually have different motivations.
not every 20-something is interested in clubbing till dawn. =p


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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:21:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		There's something to be said for the Creepiness Factor:

Divide your age by two and add nine. South of that is creepy; north is fair game.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:23:39 AM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:33:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sorry, the mathematical formula doesn't work for me (example: I'm 44. If I divided in half and added nine, that would set my threshhold at 31.). While I know that a lot of this creepiness thing has to do with personal preference, for me creepiness denotes something else entirely, in that as long as everyone is a consenting adult making each other happy, it's all good (key phrase: consenting adult). Not consenting adults? Then yeah, it's bad. And most likely creepy, too.



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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:36:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		The thing is(at least for younger people) Most women my age(a little older and younger) are still quite immature and drive me nuts.
That is why I personally prefer older women who are a little more stable know what they want and have enough common sense to ignore petty little drama crap.

And they are better in bed *wink*

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 5:48:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on the relationship and the needs of everyone involved of course.  While personally I will play with a sub 21 or older, I would highly doubt I could ever bond with her.  BDSM is fun and yes a young adult is more flexible and stronger in body than a mature fem sub would be.  But the older sub has experience going for her, she will be able to understand the cultural references that are a part of who I am, we share a common past at least in general.  While a great many young people are smart, wisdom takes time to acquire and  I need people in my life who are more wise than smart.  I depend on my girls for a lot, just as they depend on me.  They need to understand who I am, just as I need to understand who they are.  I am in my mid 50's now, outside of beating a 25 year old's ass, what could we possibly have in common.  

For a life partnership, for mature adults, I would say a 15 to 20 year window is reasonable, remembering it is only a number and there are exceptions to most every rule.



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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 6:18:08 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm with many of the above posters, much of it depends on the type of relationship.    I would be comfortable with spanking play or similar things regardless of age, beyond that there's the creepy factor for women young enough to be my daughter.

For relationships, it's more an issue of life stage than age to me.  Are they at a point in their life where they have kids and we both understand all that goes with it?  Are they at the point where they are wanting to have kids?  etc, etc.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 6:37:19 AM   
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Sorry, the mathematical formula doesn't work for me (example: I'm 44. If I divided in half and added nine, that would set my threshhold at 31.). While I know that a lot of this creepiness thing has to do with personal preference, for me creepiness denotes something else entirely, in that as long as everyone is a consenting adult making each other happy, it's all good (key phrase: consenting adult). Not consenting adults? Then yeah, it's bad. And most likely creepy, too.



As you might guess from its title, the Factor isn't a personal guide, but rather a gauge to what society finds tolerable.

When I was 40, I had a very passionate, loving relationship with a 24 year old. On the other hand, it eventually ended in a lot of mutual pain.

I'd have no problem today dating someone in her early 30s....but odds are, she'll see an old guy hitting on a young chick, no matter what my physical shape and charm. Younger than that...I'm just not interested, as from my current perspective, they just aren't yet mature adults (no offense to the 20-somethings...you'll understand in 30 years). When I'm "looking," I look for within five years older and ten years younger. But the last "serious" relationship I was in, and the current one, involve women a year or two within my own age. Just how it worked out...but it works well.

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 6:41:44 AM   
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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:03:49 AM   
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They are not robbing the cradle, I am robbing the grave.



That image alone will probably keep me from ever having a relationship with a younger man. Lol

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RE: Agedifferences, what is acceptable, what is not? - 6/21/2011 7:05:01 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture
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They are not robbing the cradle, I am robbing the grave.



That image alone will probably keep me from ever having a relationship with a younger man. Lol


yikes... uh...

wow.


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