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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 8:51:33 AM   
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Don't be fucking obtuse. Relationships are more than kink.

You're absolutely correct that relationships are more than about just kink.  At the same time, there are a number of people on the forums who aren't here looking for a relationship. 


I may be incorrect, but my gut tells me that the majority of the profiles on the other side are not seeking relationships.  The lion's share are probably horny guys who are just looking for kinky sex, and/or greedy women (and men pretending to be women) looking for money.

So while I agree with Sunny's premise that relationships are more than kink, I think that there are MANY on this site who aren't seeking a relationship.  For those people, Sunny would be a bad fit, and her premise would be untrue.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 9:01:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Don't be fucking obtuse. Relationships are more than kink.


Errrrrr, ain't that why they are called relationships and not kink.
I hate to be all Master of The Obvious here, but really it seems kinda "Doop."


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 9:06:33 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I may be incorrect, but my gut tells me that the majority of the profiles on the other side are not seeking relationships.  The lion's share are probably horny guys who are just looking for kinky sex, and/or greedy women (and men pretending to be women) looking for money.

So while I agree with Sunny's premise that relationships are more than kink, I think that there are MANY on this site who aren't seeking a relationship.  For those people, Sunny would be a bad fit, and her premise would be untrue.

You probably are right about the 'other side'.  That's why I was talking about folks from the forums.  I couldn't even tell you how many non forum participants even actually read profiles, though from My mail, it doesn't seem to be a very large number.  Anybody looking to attract from the other side doesn't even need a filled out profile, so that would make the whole question unnecessary.

My first several months on the site, I had a profile that read, "I'll fill this out when I have the time".  It honestly didn't matter.  The good mail that I got still came from people local to Me or from the forums and the crap came from everywhere else.


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 9:20:08 AM   
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Don't be fucking obtuse. Relationships are more than kink.

You're absolutely correct that relationships are more than about just kink.  At the same time, there are a number of people on the forums who aren't here looking for a relationship.  Some of us, Myself included, are on these forums for the discussion of BDSM as it exists in the real world and the authority dynamics that we are already participating in. 



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Besides kink, what do you have to offer a potential partner?


Fair enough. However, the question was about relationships. And even in the less in-depth relationships you're talking about, how many of them realistically have NO actual relationship? Not many. I'd venture to say almost none. Even if we are talking about a simple fun evening, gs/ymmv, people at least talk and negotiate. The ability to do that is something you can offer even a non-partner... My own transportation, an uninhabited cottage for rendezvous, tied tubes or a vasectomy for those interested in sex, high pain tolerance, skill with a X, Y, or Z toy, a bottle of wine. There are still things one can offer.

Getting caught up in the details instead of the spirit of the thread, just being deliberately argumentative.... I suppose those are things one could offer as well.....

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 9:43:05 AM   
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I also am honest and have common sense, which are practically super powers these days. 


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 9:53:23 AM   
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My profile reads like a Do Not Disturb sign, in respectful manner of course.
Were I looking for a relationship here, I feel I could offer a myriad of
wonderful qualities that would benefit a partnership. I am patient and trustworthy,
elegantly simple yet adventuresome, with a very joyful spirit. And I can dance!

However, as Des mentioned, some of these very qualities that I like best
about myself might be overlooked, or worse, seen by a prospect as a flaw.
That would stifle any compatibility.


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 11:12:39 AM   
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As far as Roch, I've seen pics of his ass and that's just luscious.


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 1:05:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Don't be fucking obtuse. Relationships are more than kink.


Don't be so fucking opinionated. Relationships are what they are and they come in all flavors. You aren't the one who gets to decide for everyone. Too fucking bad for you.


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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:13:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Don't be fucking obtuse. Relationships are more than kink.


Some people might be unable to have relationships and are really just looking for kink, rather pity the poor souls, especially if they are male and they don't have much to offer but kink, they're doomed for eternal frustration, and it often shows in their postings.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:30:11 PM   
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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:35:47 PM   
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Even a friendship is a relationship.


Yes, but if somebody is looking for "kink only" there isn't much left, unless of course somebody will consider the most shallow human interaction a relationship, I guess they would also claim that escorts have "relationships" with their clients....

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:47:04 PM   
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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:47:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I was thinking beyond the professional route.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:52:02 PM   
LadyConstanze


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I was thinking beyond the professional route.


If it's just "kink" and nothing else, their chances of getting it beyond the professional route are quite slim, I'd be surprised if there are many women around for whom "just kink" is enough to indulge a guy, especially since there are so many guys to pick from.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 2:52:57 PM   
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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 4:07:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		I call bullshit. Even a PROFESSIONAL relationship is still a fucking relationship. Even there, some fuckwad doesn't get to just walk in, drop his fucking drawers and hand over a fucking list.

And Imus if you are gonna argue with me at least read the rest of the fucking thread and see that I already answered your inane fucking one liner with a response to Lady Pact. It's not like it's 20 fucking pages long.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 4:16:19 PM   
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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 4:24:01 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

I call bullshit. Even a PROFESSIONAL relationship is still a fucking relationship. Even there, some fuckwad doesn't get to just walk in, drop his fucking drawers and hand over a fucking list.

And Imus if you are gonna argue with me at least read the rest of the fucking thread and see that I already answered your inane fucking one liner with a response to Lady Pact. It's not like it's 20 fucking pages long.


OMG Sunny is channeling Hannah!

Those of you who were trying to be funny succeeded admirably :)

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 4:25:28 PM   
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I offer an eclectic woman for a great partnership on all levels.

The trick to to find someone looking for that multfaceted type of relationship and to have them offer the same back to me.

One thing is for sure, I know I am currently single because I will not tolerate anything less.

I am not into casual, so the prospects who are seeking casual far outweigh those men seeking full on relationships.


This, plus a tendency to let other people's words make my points for me.

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RE: What Do You Offer... - 6/23/2011 4:52:27 PM   
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Status: offline 		I asked myself this question a while back, and I honestly didn't know what I had to offer anyone. Until I figure it out, I guess I'll just remain unavailable and not looking. 

I like the concept of the thread, enjoyed the OP's humor and think she asked a great question though.  Maybe I'll just emulate the answers I like until I feel them true for myself

WinD

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