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VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 4:58:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I honestly didn't know what I had to offer anyone. There's a massive warmth to you. And a kindness, and a sense of humour, and a great big bag of intelligence. And I seem to remember you saying you're handy with power tools. (And that's just what I've picked up from flat words - I'm betting there's more to the 3D you.) I'd call them good things to offer. [:)]

LadyPact -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 4:59:55 PM)
I don't want Imus taking the heat on this one, so I'll explain My own position. The word "relationship" doesn't even appear in the OP. The word that gets used is "partner". That can be anything from a dynamic to a one time meet and beat. The latter of which, I've done My fair share of in My day and those aren't over yet. I'll be at an event this weekend and I can darn near promise that I'll meet somebody there for the first time, engage in S/m, and never see them again. I've had a few play partners over the years that the only place I ever saw them was the club or at events. They were acquaintances that I played with and there wasn't anything else besides that. Others were friends. Diffterent folks were subs who saw Me as their Dominant. The forums are very dynamic focused. That's why there are so many folks who were looking at one time and stayed because they found what they want and are just here for the conversation.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 5:23:23 PM)
Lady P, So with people that you meet, beat and...say goodbye to (I couldn't think of a synonym for leave that ended in 'eet', damnit! [8D]), is the only thing you look for in them just kink? Because I've done my share of that kind of thing, and I absolutely required a nice smile or a way with a joke or something above and beyond kink. A relationship that lasts for thirty minutes of jolly good whacking (where whacking can be replaced with any gerund of your choice) is still a relationship - it's just a very clearly delineated one.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 5:23:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I honestly didn't know what I had to offer anyone. There's a massive warmth to you. And a kindness, and a sense of humour, and a great big bag of intelligence. And I seem to remember you saying you're handy with power tools. (And that's just what I've picked up from flat words - I'm betting there's more to the 3D you.) I'd call them good things to offer. [:)] aww, thanks [:)] But, to clear up a misconception. I'm not handy with power tools - I just own them, and really really LIKE them. Power tools are sexy!

VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 5:27:55 PM)
You're welcome. And I'd say that an...enthusiasm, let's say, for power tools still counts! [:D]

LookieNoNookie -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/23/2011 6:00:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt After reading the thread about what people don't like to see in CM profiles and my own experiences seeing endless piles of drek like this: 40-something 'sub' guy: 'I'm a worthless male here only for your pleasure, Miz-tress. I need a strictly hetero domme who isn't interested in having me do bi stuff with guys or anything else I don't feel like doing (which I think is reasonable) and who will permanently lock me in her basement to use as her personal fuck toy and nothing else (which I also think is reasonable.) I'm into dressing like a little girl where you put me in a hot bath and play with my private parts, llamas, kiddie pools, large rubber balls, buckets of eels, skimpy outfits, and being dressed in a chef costume (think Southpark!) while you cornhole me with a rolling pin. That would be so awesome! Here is a picture of my penis for you to enjoy.' 25 year old 'dom guy': 'Well hello there, I'm Master RectumWreckerThroatGagger. You can call me RWTG for short! I don't know who you are, but I own your mouth, your cunt, and especially your asshole and will do whatever I damn well please with them because it looks super in porn (and I'm really a nice guy, just read my profile, it says so right there.)' 18 year old 'domme': 'im Godess Narsisists teh wurld owz me evryting kneal be4 Me u wurmz by me shoz from amazon send mony to My paypal acount if u cant follow My simple intrukshinz 2 prove u wurship Me ur not wurthy of a anser' [sic for spelling/punctuation/grammar/syntax] 39-year old 'sub girl': 'I want a Daddy to provide for all my needs (including financial...ummm, call it my 'college fund' to keep it true to the dynamic, 'k?) so I don't have to act like a grown-up, or take responsibility for anything/anyone at all including the kids I had with someone else. Won't it be fun letting you dress my ever-fattening ass in the new clothes you just bought me, Daddy?' All this got me thinking about about my own profile and what it conveyed. I will soon be making some revisions based on these meditations. So let's go a little deeper and get to the nitty-gritty. Besides kink, what do you have to offer a potential partner? A 73 Pinto station wagon (8 track), a wad of 2 dollar bills and a full vestige of a 2 bedroom apartment on the least attractive side of town. (And mixed plates and saucers).

sunshinemiss -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 2:23:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Lady P, So with people that you meet, beat and...say goodbye to (I couldn't think of a synonym for leave that ended in 'eet', damnit! [8D]), Delete. Sunny Shakespeare

VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 2:26:31 AM)
Meet, beat and delete. I like it. Especially since they're all spelt differently. There's something pleasing about that. Much appreciated, Ms Shakespeare! [:D]

sunshinemiss -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 2:32:17 AM)
Forsooth! The pleasure, it is all mine, mam'selle.... Btw, I added a finger snap before the "delete" ... It does have a nice ring to it! smooch

MrHCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 2:55:00 PM)
quote: Besides kink, what do you have to offer a potential partner? Bad jokes, awful puns and the knowledge she'll always be second in my heart to the Maple Leafs. [I know, I know, it's a tempting prospect already, but I figure if I'm that down on myself VC will come in and big me up, and I still don't believe she's actually capable of being that nice without her fingers melting.]

mummyman321 -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 3:32:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: VaguelyCurious Meet, beat and delete. I like it. Especially since they're all spelt differently. There's something pleasing about that. Much appreciated, Ms Shakespeare! [:D] Meet, Beat, Treat, and Repeat! [8D]

sunshinemiss -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 4:16:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MrHCurious quote: Besides kink, what do you have to offer a potential partner? Bad jokes, awful puns and the knowledge she'll always be second in my heart to the Maple Leafs. [I know, I know, it's a tempting prospect already, but I figure if I'm that down on myself VC will come in and big me up, and I still don't believe she's actually capable of being that nice without her fingers melting.] I don't know, man... that sounds pretty dang good... and you're cute. Come visit sunny in the land of the morning calm... mmm hmmmm...

VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 4:55:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss I don't know, man... that sounds pretty dang good... and you're cute. Come visit sunny in the land of the morning calm... mmm hmmmm... See, you say that because you think he's kidding about the Leafs. [8D] (He's pretty cool really. Normally I'd never give in to such blatant fishing, but it's been that kind of a night.) --- I realised that I didn't actually answer the question myself. For meet/beat/delete interactions I offer easy rapport, good hugs and relaxed open-ness. For slightly more serious/planned interactions I offer good platonic days out. The best exhibitions and market stalls and Vietnamese cafes and fountains and crazy underground costume shops, I know where they are. (I'm serious about the crazy underground costume shop. It's magical.) For my People with a capital P? I'll drop whatever I'm doing for them, and I'm pretty sure that most of the time when I do so I'm actually useful.

erieangel -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 4:58:35 PM)
I've been working on my profile everyday for the past week, and I think I've got it almost to where it needs to be. I talked about myself, my work, some of my favorite things in life and the fact that I'm going to be grandmother in the fall. Yeah!! Then I talked about what I can offer in a relationship or partner. In fact, for lack of a better word, I had used the word "partner" in quotes. I'm a little disappointed in that part of my profile, though, because it turned out to be only a few sentences. Help!!

popularDemand -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 5:15:52 PM)
nothing pD

sunshinemiss -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/24/2011 11:27:48 PM)
VC - I know about Canadians and their hockey. Rather like Americans and football. Hockey is at least interesting. (sacrilege, I know. Sue me.) Besides, the hockey players - some of them speak French. Oo la la.

tammystarm -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/25/2011 1:01:09 AM)
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VaguelyCurious -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/25/2011 1:45:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss VC - I know about Canadians and their hockey. Rather like Americans and football. Hockey is at least interesting. (sacrilege, I know. Sue me.) Besides, the hockey players - some of them speak French. Oo la la. But he's not even Canadian - he just...really likes the NHL. I mean, don't get me wrong, hockey's a good sport - I didn't miss a game when I lived near a rink. But the hockey league of a country you've (he's) never been to? He's an odd little sod, that boy. I have decided that the main non-kink thing that MrHCurious has to offer, though, is good neck and shoulder skritches. Yup. That is where his value lies. [:D][:D][:D]

Musicmystery -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/25/2011 7:28:39 AM)
quote: Besides kink, what do you have to offer a potential partner? This is the key question, isn't it. We all know about the kink. We need to know about the person. So that's what I always advise people. Tell us about who you are. Share a vision of you.

leadership527 -> RE: What Do You Offer... (6/25/2011 8:21:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss Isnt' that what I just said? Relationships are more than kink. You have the quote right there.... confused why are you disagreeing with me when we agree? MY relationships are about more than kink. You and I are on the same wave length... and we share that with a non-trivial segment of the rest of humanity. BUT.... I know of others which are not. I do not attempt to paint my sensibilities on the rest of humanity -- especially when I know of actual, real life examples to the contrary.

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