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Lockit -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 8:56:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arieno Locket, have you always been able to see the obvious, read between the lines, or is it you are more in touch with common sense? #1. I would hope so especially if it were a curled and rattling snake. #2. Sometimes, but I am missing this one. #3. More than who, what, where? It depends. I need more coffee. [:D]

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 9:02:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AbletonLive77 I'm no idiot, and I pretty much think I'm getting cut off. Curious about other opinions. You say that you're not an idiot, yet every message that you've posted has proved otherwise. You are DEFINITELY an idiot. Firstly, she is a woman who has never met you. Safety is probably a concern for her. That is a very reasonable thing. If it were your daughter, would you want her giving out her address to some stranger that she met on the internet (but hasn't met in real life)? Of course you wouldn't. Similarly, would you want her to tell that same guy where she works? Once again, the obvious answer is "of course not". There are too many creepy stalkers out there for her to take the risk of sharing her address (work or home) with someone that she's never met. The fact that you don't understand that you are engaging in creepy stalker behavior speaks volumes about you. Stop stalking the woman and act like an adult. If you want to have a relationship with her, then make arrangements to travel and meet her in real life. But other than that, don't expect to get any info from her that could be used by a crazed madman to come and kill her. Even a 3rd grader should be able to understand that simple safety precaution. It amazes me that you don't comprehend just how creepy your behavior is. If someone that I met on-line was trying to figure out where I work, I'd cut off communication with them immediately. There is some information that you just don't need to know (and aren't entitled to know) until the other person feels comfortable sharing it with you. And she obviously doesn't feel comfortable sharing the info. Frankly, if she did share info on her whereabouts, then I would think that she is the idiot in this scenario instead of you. But right now, it's obvious that you are the idiot. Now please calm down and start acting like an adult.

windchymes -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 9:04:27 AM)
When there are too many reasons and excuses for unavailability, then it screams "married" to me. I'd be pretty darn suspicious, too, and start backing off. If she really wants you, she'll start making herself available. If it really is a "her".

Rochsub2009 -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 9:31:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AbletonLive77 Anyway, we are planning to meet in 2 months. She is going to move down here. Her parents have passed, her brothers are all military, so she has no real ties where she is. I guess she figures she can move close to me, then if it doesn't work out, she always has her friend to go back to, which is fine. Okay, I hadn't gotten to this part when I wrote my last message. This is even dumber than the first part. What sane person makes arrangements to pack up and move in with someone that they've never met? Moreover, what sane person agrees to let that other insane person come and move in with them? Frankly, you both sound like you're insane. You deserve one another. Good luck with the drama and insanity that is sure to ensue. [8\|]

juliaoceania -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 9:37:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AbletonLive77 One other thing. This country club job is something she just got during the nights. She works as a secretary in a nursing home 10 hours a day, 5 days a week. Then half a day Saturday. Then she waitresses during the night. She says it's a country club and she's getting paid 15 dollars an hour plus tips. I've also never heard of that. Most waitresses I've known make minimum wage and basically make all their money on tips. That's why tips are so important. 15 bucks and hour is almost a living wage. Not quite, but close. And a lot more than most waitresses I know. That's another reason I wanted to know where she worked. Wanted to look it up and find out what kind of place it was. When I worked in catering I made about 13 dollars an hour, plus side tips (which depending on the gig, I could make lots of these).

needlesandpins -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 12:01:30 PM)
fr i was speaking to the guy i see now for 2 months i think before we arranged to meet, which took another couple of months. neither of us exchanged addresses and neither of us asked where the other lives. we live, as the crow flies, nearly 150 miles apart. the first couple of times we met we used hotels until i started staying at his. even when he first came to my town we used a hotel. i'd been seeing him for over a year before he came to stay at my house and i don't think he ever asked me for my address. while he knew what my job was, he never asked me where i actually worked. not only that but why the hell would you think it ok for her to hand you all her friend's details? it may just be that for her own reasons she just wants things to stay as they are. stop putting presure on her to do things she obviously doesn't want to do, for whatever reasons they are. if what she is willing to give you isn't enough then break it off and find someone who will willingly give you what you want. needles

juliaoceania -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 12:55:12 PM)
I talked to my last dom for about 3 or 4 months before we finally met. We had invested a good deal of time in each other before we ever met, but we did not exchange personal info until we made plans to meet, meaning a day and a time set up. He gave me all of his personal info before I met him, and I gave him mine, when we set up a meeting face to face. Normally I would not do that, but he lived over 250 miles away from me and had to drive several hours to meet me, including spending the night at a hotel, etc, so that we could have time to really get to know each other. Under those circumstances I felt it appropriate... someone that lives under 100 miles away, we can meet for coffee or not at all, and I am not sharing anything with that person other than my first name

sexyred1 -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 1:41:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AbletonLive77 You guys are right. Think I am just getting a little frustrated is all. Normally not like this. Just feel as though I've been put thru the ringer a bit. We've talked for a few months and have had to put up with a couple odd things. Anyway, we are planning to meet in 2 months. She is going to move down here. Her parents have passed, her brothers are all military, so she has no real ties where she is. I guess she figures she can move close to me, then if it doesn't work out, she always has her friend to go back to, which is fine. One reason I was feeling a little muddled is she says things like she trusts me with her mind and body (even though we've never met) then I ask her something like her address and get a run around. Just seems a little contradictory. What's more important, mind and body or address or place of work?I'm going to give her the benefit of the doubt. 2 months. I can wait. I am going to apologize to her for getting her in trouble, lay back and play things cool. I was wrong, and I can admit that. Letting a situation get the best of me. Haven't been having the best month so far. Thanks everyone for the info and opinions. Main thing about last night that ticked me off though, was her boss. I very well know they confiscate things, but what about him reading and responding to personal messages on her phone? I could never do that to someone else. Especially if they were standing right there, like he said she was. So he responds back to me a few times with her there watching? Now I remember why I'm self employed. Have a good one everyone. Thanks again. First off, good for you that you are self employed; not everyone is and therefore must adhere to employer rules, whether you like it or not. Next, the line I bolded? What is more important, mind and body or address or place of work? Wow, dude....address and place of work are concrete pieces of information in the real world. Mind and body are online and therefore as ephemeral as air. If you think what someone says to you online about giving mind and body without having met in person is true, then you are buying into her fantasy as well. Which is fine and cool, but don't compare fantasy with reality of life, jobs, and addresses.

ResidentSadist -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 3:33:38 PM)
~fr "Dear John" Either she is married, her roommate is her lover or she is very careful because she thinks you might be a stalker. It's been months? So do you guys have phone sex or what is she getting out of it? For that matter, what do you get out of it? It doesn't sound like she isn't gonna' expose herself to contact with you if it's been months and she hasn't yet. whatever the case... good luck

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 5:06:06 PM)
shhhh...be verwie quiet. I'm hunting wabbits. [8D]

CelticPrince -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 5:34:21 PM)
quote: Hey everyone, Just wondering if anyone's heard of this. Talking to this girl online for awhile, but she won't give me her home address because she lives with a friend and her name isn't on the lease. I wanted to send her something (gift, letter) but she said I can't do that because it spells out specifically on the lease that anyone receiving mail there must have their name on the lease. I've never heard of that. Wondering if anyone thought that was B.S. or if there is such a lease that designates anyone receiving mail at the place must have their name registered. Like I said, sounds like total crap to me, not sure. One other thing, she refuses to give me her place of work. She says if I called there I'd get her in trouble. We've been talking for a couple months. Phone/I.M. She knows I would never intentionally get her in trouble by now. And even if I did call there (which I never would) big deal. People get calls at work all the time. Emergency, family, etc. I'm no idiot, and I pretty much think I'm getting cut off. Curious about other opinions. Thanks everyone. Able, Lots of ,good stuff above but my view is; 1 There is a good reason in her eyes not to give out info. she may be underage. she is married or living with a SO. She may not have sufficient trust at this point and on line is a new thing to her. She is simply more comfortable with the way things are. CP

blueflowers2 -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 6:45:53 PM)
If she valued receiving anything from you, she could have it sent "in care of.......[the leaseee]" and it would "legally" be delivered to her. I am like you......... "if there is a will there is a way". Good Luck.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 7:16:01 PM)
Wascally wabbits.

Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 7:41:18 PM)
Personally if I was her and knew you'd been talking about me behind my back an sharing information bout me an the types of jobs I had, we'd be done so fast it'd make your head spin. I don't dig that kind of stuff at all.

OsideGirl -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 8:00:40 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 It amazes me that you don't comprehend just how creepy your behavior is. Ah, man. I think I love you. As a sub woman, I'd be going okay.....he's getting weird.....nope....not tellin......

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 8:09:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Toppingfrmbottom Personally if I was her and knew you'd been talking about me behind my back an sharing information bout me an the types of jobs I had, we'd be done so fast it'd make your head spin. I don't dig that kind of stuff at all. Not to mention, call me so often my BOSS has to intervene. My fucking boss has to dom you? No.

OsideGirl -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 8:14:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt Not to mention, call me so often my BOSS has to intervene. My fucking boss has to dom you? No. Yup. I'd be amazingly embarrassed.

ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 8:18:19 PM)
Not just embarrassed. As a new sub...confused...disoriented...wondering who's the dom here? This is so not how you build trust.

tazzygirl -> RE: Online Crap (6/24/2011 11:03:05 PM)
What bet did you lose?

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