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Phoenixpower -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/7/2011 5:05:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LinnaeaBorealis
In my world, my daughter always came first. There were times when I thought that I could have what I wanted, but when it conflicted with raising her properly, guess what got tossed out??? Not her, that's for sure. In my world, when you give birth & choose to raise the child(ren), that's your number one priority. You say that your going to school is necessary for your soul. That you're determined to get off disability & make your own way. Guess what? That's not always possible. Sometimes our bodies won't allow that. I'm going through that realization & acceptance right now myself. I've finally broken down & applied for food stamps & medicaid for the first time in about 35 years. Because for right now, every time I try to work for money, my disease gets exacerbated. So I can maybe work a whole shift & then I'm down for the count for the next week.
I'm learning to pace myself & to accept what I've been offered in this life. I refuse to allow it to depress me. I can go there just fine anytime I choose to & half the time when I don't choose it. So I pace myself. I make sure that I get enough rest each day & don't overdo the physical activities. I surround myself with positive people. And I'm learning to ask for help, as humiliating as that is for me.
So you can beat your head against that brick wall over & over & cry about your head bleeding or you can work with what you got to work with. And make sure those kids don't suffer!!!!
Well said...
in that respect it also shocked me at the friend which I mentioned in the past who believed we would need 3 jobs over here to survive....when in reality it was just her "need" to overspoil her son....
IMO what should be realised is that quite frankly if you don't give a shit about the signs your body gives...then don't ever bother to whine if your body heads towards a stroke or a heart attack one day...might sound rough, but quite frankly there are only so many symptoms a body can show that it has to be taken serious, until it can go the wrong way.
So in regards to that friend she can work around the clock as much as she wants and spoil her son rotten...however, if she believes it is beneficial to follow her sons dad in an early grave due to that stupidity (stupidity due to it not being NECESSARY in her situation, I don't blame folks WHO HAVE TO!!!) then quite frankly it won't be helpful for her and her son either!!!
During my final year uni I had times where I was not able to visit a friend who had recovered from a stroke...I simply haven't had the time to do so (sounds extreme but was a matter of fact, as visiting her with long travel journey meant wasting my time which I had to spend on studying, placement work or paid work) so quite frankly, sometimes it is important to prioritise....even more when kids are involved.
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