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Lockit -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:34:45 PM)

After hearing how wonderful the relationship was for so long, how much love there was and all the wishing of well currently... I have a difficult time thinking that a woman and two kids would be left to find a way to leave without some assistance from the man of the house. You see, I look at it this way. Tammy moved in and must have gotten rid of everything she had... first mistake... but made... so when it is mutual to break up, she is supposed to go with so little. After she gave up so much to be with him? He loved her and now all of a sudden... he can't see fit to help in a situation or two he agreed to?

No... something isn't right here. If he allows that to take place, he isn't meaning her well and wishes to punish her for leaving most likely. Or he never loved her, accepted her giving everything up and now is of no help because she can't be all he wants her to be. A real man... a real decent human being and a good dominant would do something to assist in my opinion.

Tammy, look in the front of the phone book. Look for hud housing that isn't the type that takes a long while to get into, but for on site hud assistance in housing. They may have a list, but get on that list. I got into it in a matter of two hours, from homelessness to an apt all with a simple doctors note saying I would benefit from the help based on medical issues.

There are also places that will give you furniture. Look through the front of the phone book, most likely blue pages and see what is in your area. Call anyone that might have answers and tell them your situation. I found senior agencies very informative. Most helping agencies have resource books and can help you network.

Also, you can get into hud housing much faster from a shelter if you are homeless. I know it doesn't sound okay to go to a shelter, but it is the fastest way to network and pull your life together.

This is a prime example of why you don't move in with someone without a back up plan in case things don't work out.



CalifChick -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:38:17 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tammystarm

there are alot of options if i do graduate, that i have the upper hand on almost any candidate looking for the job... having managed and worked in a medical spa..... that i am a massage therapist, advanced aromatherapist etc etc etc (blahh blahhh).... I know one girl who works two days a week all day long (mind you), does only microdermabrasions... and banks almost 150,000 a year.


With your penchant for drama, inability to stick with a goal, and fibro (which I believe you pretty much told us rules out massage therapy so why even mention it anymore???), I have to doubt your claim that you would have the upper hand on any job.

Also, you might want to doublecheck your math. $150,000/year working 2 days per week is $2885/day. Working an 8-hour day and being booked for every appointment, that's $360 per hour. The closest city to you reporting an average price for treatment is Atlanta, which is $125 per treatment when not done by a surgeon. The east coast and areas nearby are the cheapest places in the US to have this done. One treatment takes 30-60 minutes. In an 8 hour day full booked, that is 8 to 16 clients at $125 per client = $1,000 to $2,000 gross income per day. There is no way anyone banks, let alone grosses, $2885 per day when the income is between $1,000-$2,000 per day max.

If the person is an independent consultant and not an employee, they're going to be paying for rent, supplies, insurance, self-employment taxes, uniforms, etc. If they are an employee, I seriously doubt they are going to be paid over $100 an hour, when the client is only paying $125 for an hour.

RealisticCali



tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:42:43 PM)

omg, dont go to bed they come back!

The kids do get ss benefits from their father, and EVEN when i owned our home and was paying the house payment and insurence, i still did not qualify. Only one thing in my bills will be excepted at the dhs office.

i think enough of that is said.... i have great friends at school, they will help me, God love them.

Not lying or joking about hannah (my daughter) and her 90 hours community service because of the exact time i said she was out. They actually didnt want to take the one medical excuss one doctor gave, since they have dealings with him, and say he would write them all the time. (i stopped taking my daughter to him)....

Anywho, ill be fine the kids will be fine ,and i thank everyone for their suggestions very much.



angelikaJ -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:47:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

After hearing how wonderful the relationship was for so long, how much love there was and all the wishing of well currently... I have a difficult time thinking that a woman and two kids would be left to find a way to leave without some assistance from the man of the house. You see, I look at it this way. Tammy moved in and must have gotten rid of everything she had... first mistake... but made... so when it is mutual to break up, she is supposed to go with so little. After she gave up so much to be with him? He loved her and now all of a sudden... he can't see fit to help in a situation or two he agreed to?

No... something isn't right here. If he allows that to take place, he isn't meaning her well and wishes to punish her for leaving most likely. Or he never loved her, accepted her giving everything up and now is of no help because she can't be all he wants her to be. A real man... a real decent human being and a good dominant would do something to assist in my opinion.

Tammy, look in the front of the phone book. Look for hud housing that isn't the type that takes a long while to get into, but for on site hud assistance in housing. They may have a list, but get on that list. I got into it in a matter of two hours, from homelessness to an apt all with a simple doctors note saying I would benefit from the help based on medical issues.

There are also places that will give you furniture. Look through the front of the phone book, most likely blue pages and see what is in your area. Call anyone that might have answers and tell them your situation. I found senior agencies very informative. Most helping agencies have resource books and can help you network.

Also, you can get into hud housing much faster from a shelter if you are homeless. I know it doesn't sound okay to go to a shelter, but it is the fastest way to network and pull your life together.

This is a prime example of why you don't move in with someone without a back up plan in case things don't work out.



Tammy had a house fire and lost everything prior to her moving in with A. . But I think we are supposed to think he is being grandly benevolent by letting her stay 2 weeks until she gets her check.

But Lockit is right, you will have much better luck finding affordable housing if you move into a shelter first... if you are moving pets, many no kill shelters will take them in and foster them until you are established.



CalifChick -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:50:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

Tammy had a house fire and lost everything prior to her moving in with A.


If I recall the history, the house fire was quite some time before moving in with Art.




tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:51:39 PM)

Nope cali i know exactly what she brings in, two days a week all day long..... 150,000 per year... now im not saying i would get that lucky, but yeah and i do have a heads up on most trying out for the position...........see about three pages ago if you even want to go there



Lockit -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:52:57 PM)

I agree with Cali... If going to school with fibro and life responsibilities is so difficult now, working is going to be harder and with fibro and stress, plus whatever else was mentioned... good luck holding a job even part time. I've been wanting to say that throughout this thread, but my posts were already long enough.

Tammy, I have worked with many hundreds of people that were chronically ill or disabled and it's time to face some facts. At least in this moment in time, you aren't going to be able to handle working if you can't handle what you already have going on.

I had to resign and face whatever I faced and had no clue what was wrong with me. Some of the best times with my kids was when we roughed it and started with nothing but a few bags per person. We didn't cry... we looked at it as an adventure. We explored together how to save a dime, make a dime, get by on a dime and you would be amazed how the kids joined in! Like I said before, it is attitude. Do you really want to teach your children this victim mode? Really?

We moved with $186. once... boy did I have to learn to talk and barter! We moved with promises of payments on the deposits and one month of rent. Who cared about utilities, we had shelter. We camped out! It won't be easy... but few things worth doing are easy.

As you can see, even people that don't agree and don't like what is happening here are still being supportive, although calling you out on some things. We have all jumped in and done what we thought best. Now it is time for you to take the harder road... which typically works out to the be the easiest road. The easy roads... tend to be the hardest to travel in the long run. Let us see you helping yourself and I bet you will get even better support and attention, than what you are getting now. It's time to show your children that life isn't always easy... but how a strong mom, they can trust to get them through... acts.



zephyroftheNorth -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 3:57:37 PM)

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Also, with the amount of schooling that you've had,your postings are riddled with not just spelling errors,but horrific grammar. It just doesn't make sense.


Oh please, the two don't necessarily go together. I work for a bunch of doctors who have the most atrocious grammar I've ever heard/seen. Somehow they managed to make it all the way through medical school without acquiring even the most basic of English skills.



Lockit -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:03:13 PM)

Thank you Angelika, I didn't know that. So I need to take back a bit of the harsh take on it all... but still think, two got into this and two should take on what needs to happen to change it.

Tammy, I am sorry for not knowing about the fire and being a bit harsh on that aspect of the situation.



tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:15:09 PM)

and yeah, i said this earlier.... I have to have my "A game" on at school, in the public, at home, so when im here , i really dont care to do a quick spell check, i type as fast as i think , and i rarely reread to check for these errors.....



LinnaeaBorealis -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:17:11 PM)

Oh my...this is bringing back memories of raising my daughter on a wing & a prayer. One year, I had zero dollars for Christmas gifts so I had this flash of brilliance. When the nurse I worked with told me that she was getting her daughter a new stereo, I asked her what she was doing with her old record player. She gave it to me so I wrapped it up & put it under the tree. I begged a few more used things & did the same. Then I went into my closet & found some things of mine that C loved to play with & wrapped them also. We went to Chubby & Tubby in Seattle & got a tree for 99 cents & made decorations for it. Then I told her that we were having "The Christmas of the Previously Loved Gifts." Christmas Eve when she opened her presents, the looks on her face to see all these wonderful things were priceless. It's still my favorite Christmas in a lifetime of wonderful Christmases.

My mother would send me a gift certificate for Safeway because she believed that way I'd buy food & no presents for C. HA!! At Christmastime they would also sell dolls & toys. So I would skimp on the meal to buy her a real present. One time we went to Good Will & C. found a doll she just fell in love with. That was the ugliest doll in the entire Universe, but she loved that doll!! One day she came home from school upset. She had worn her favorite dress to school & when one little girl complimented her on the dress & asked where she'd gotten it, C. told the truth: K-Mart. That little girl & all her little friends teased C. unmercifully about that. I asked her if that made her not want to wear the dress & she said, "NO!!! I love this dress!! If anyone else asks where I got it, I just won't tell them!!!"

I was so blessed with that child, I still marvel at how well she handled growing up poor. And when she was in her 20's, one day she asked me, "Mom? Were we poor when I was growing up?" She really hadn't noticed because I never told her how some days I didn't eat but gave her the food we had. I never told her how hard it was to pay rent & utilities to make sure we had a home. I never told her any of that because it's not a child's worry, it should only be a problem for the adults.



AlwaysLisa -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:36:11 PM)

No one has mentioned this, and I just discovered it....but Craigslist has a "free" section.    We picked up a truckload of rosebushes and iris bulbs from someone re-landscaping.   It's great...and I see furniture and beds all the time on the list.



tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:37:12 PM)

thanks i am looking at golsn, thrift stores, godwill etc...ill add that too.



CalifChick -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 4:49:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: tammystarm

Nope cali i know exactly what she brings in, two days a week all day long..... 150,000 per year...



Bullshit. She is not making over $350 per hour doing microdermabrasions without a medical license (an MD), UNLESS she is also giving happy endings. Not in Tennessee. Not in Atlanta, where it is slightly more likely. Slightly.




tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:18:43 PM)

Okay cali you go and get medical prcodures.... you are on a scheduled of microderms....she is selling not only high end products but JI makeup as well..... i know what she makes..... and i printed some rather large checks to our aestheticians, so yes she makes that much working only two days a week.



imperatrixx -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:31:03 PM)

Tammy I think if you're going back to school with the hopes of making $150k a year in two days you're going to be sorely disappointed.

From what you just posted, it sounds like the majority of her income is from sales. I'm somewhat familiar with sales careers - you have to be energetic, focused, always perky and friendly...if you're having trouble cleaning the house after school, I doubt you're going to be a top salesperson. And that's what she sounds like - a top salesperson, not someone pulling in an average salary.

Honestly I think you'd be more likely to have a secure, well paid future if you continued your nursing career instead of beauty school. Nursing is far more recession proof than microdermabrasions, and it's a field that is very youth and beauty oriented so it's not something you're likely to have a secure 30 year career doing.

I do wish you luck in whatever you choose to do, I just hope you're not looking for an "easy money" job because you will be disappointed.



tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:35:45 PM)

funny im the top sales person at school ,even beating out the cosmetology students. Sales comes natural when you love the product.
Yet i have serious pain, and the house being a mess is an issue. How does that relate from you to me?
No, im not looking at making anywhere close to that, i was just stating a fact. With all the school training i have had, i will not have a problem getting back into the medical aesthetics field, and doing well. The problem would be, me being able to keep it up. I am not letting myself get caught up in it however, i will learn to say no to myself before adding extra clients/hours etc.



imperatrixx -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:36:50 PM)

Well I wish you good luck then. When does your schooling finish up?



tammystarm -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:40:10 PM)

oct will take boards around dec (that is the average right now).
so 2 1/2 months left, time flies by...
if i am really lucky i can be in somewhere before the christmas rush hits, and get mega bonus to kick off my career.
I started working at the med spa, in oct. one yr and by christmas it was a mad house, i hired in a manager, and stayed absolutely slammed till late january. NOT looking to be that busy...... but money before christmas sounds like a gift from heaven.



imperatrixx -> RE: Fibro, school, house of 6 (7/11/2011 6:43:10 PM)

Very cool.



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