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erieangel -> RE: financial domination (6/30/2011 7:14:01 PM)
i would never be a financial sub, i work hard for my money, put up with a lot of crap too from immature young men. but maybe not for long, i might be facing a lay off because budget cuts in PA's budget...thanks Corbett

Back2theFuture -> RE: financial domination (6/30/2011 7:17:14 PM)
LOL I love how everyone is just talking like this actually happens. Come I guarantee that not one single person has ever had that happen on this site or any other. Its and Urban legend, the CM equivalent of alligators in the sewers. I bet I can ever tell you exactly how it happens every time. They send you an email offering to give you their money or wanting you to blackmail them. You waste all this time setting everything up then....Nothing. Every. Single. Time. Its a urban myth the financial slave doesn't exist and all the financial dommes are just scammers. Its just a funny thing to laugh about.

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: financial domination (6/30/2011 11:22:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture LOL I love how everyone is just talking like this actually happens. Come I guarantee that not one single person has ever had that happen on this site or any other. Its and Urban legend, the CM equivalent of alligators in the sewers. I bet I can ever tell you exactly how it happens every time. They send you an email offering to give you their money or wanting you to blackmail them. You waste all this time setting everything up then....Nothing. Every. Single. Time. Its a urban myth the financial slave doesn't exist and all the financial dommes are just scammers. Its just a funny thing to laugh about. Uhhh... no. You're wrong. Not only does it happen, but it's often the slave in the dynamic that desires it.

XenoMaster -> RE: financial domination (7/1/2011 5:38:36 PM)
Yeah, I don't get allure of it (giving or receiving) but it is there. I've met subs who turn their finances over to their doms and one who was shocked when the relationship ended that the dom had saved so much for them by controlling their spending. A lot of it is irresponsible people just wanting people to sign over their houses and bank accounts but i have seen it work. It usually works (in my limited experience) only when: the dom and sub are romantically involved and living together. -or- the financial domination is limited to reasonable tributes the sub can pay without serious lifestyle impact -or- the sub is spineless and desperate (though working in this case means only that the relationship continues)

txurinal -> RE: financial domination (7/2/2011 8:48:41 AM)
XenoMaster, when owned i gave 1/2 of each paycheck to my owners and the other 1/2 went into my checking account for personal expenses. Now since i was living in THEIR home, i had very few expenses. When released from servitude, i was amazed as my MASTERS had taken my "tribute" and invested it and so left in a very good financial position. Now, i have heard horror stories from those who were ruined by those who took control of their finances so one has to be aware of the risks involved. Especially if one is signing over bank accounts, houses, and credit cards to another individual. i often see ads posted by "straight" guys who want cash slaves and want gay submissives to send them money in exchange for verbal abuse. Things like this are really beyond my comprehension but again, some people's kicks are sending cash to strangers and i am not one to judge what flips their switch

GoddessVona -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 9:55:53 AM)
It does happen and it's not every sub's kink. You find that out as you learn more about them. My experience with FD has only been in real-time so far, where they would just send me money out of the blue then e-mail me saying how they received the biggest rush in doing so. Another example is taking me shopping and getting the best hard on as I take money out of his wallet to pay for it. It's very interesting, actually. But it comes down to really knowing your sub's interests and building that relationship.

LadyConstanze -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 10:08:03 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Tristan For me, taking money in a relationship is bad karma. I do my best to follow my passions regardless of the consequences. Money interferes with this. I especially never take money from family and friends even when my work might save them hundreds to thousands of dollars. I see nothing but bad karma when money is exchanged in a relationship. Depends a bit, don't you think? I'm friends with a couple of people who I also have a business relationship with, I would feel bad to not pay them for their work, and on the other hand, they feel the same. This way you avoid that people think they have been taken advantage of!

milfyclass -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 11:58:57 AM)
Never quite understood it either. Then again, pro dommes are basically doing the same thing. On the extreme end, just beyond my comprehension that some are into blackmail and extortion etcetera. Identity theft must be rife. Crims would love that, such an easy opportunity. Don't think I'd do it, especially not for strings attached. Doubt there are any out there. If they are, they're probably Robin Hoods obtaining the money fraudulently and wanting to share it around. Hmm but if it's your own ethically obtained income/earnings and you want to send me $10,000 every month, no questions asked, sure g'head! [:D] Try me. Right! Don't think there would be any out there! Not even $1,000 a month! I think it's a bit sad and insane that people would do it, especially if they can't really afford it. Plus the Doms that actively seek it or demand it are just laughing all the way to the bank with free cash. A bit ill gotten in my book. If it really is their kink and somehow turns them on, then gosh, can't understand why.

LadyConstanze -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 12:13:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: milfyclass Don't think I'd do it, especially not for strings attached. Doubt there are any out there. If they are, they're probably Robin Hoods obtaining the money fraudulently and wanting to share it around. Hmm but if it's your own ethically obtained income/earnings and you want to send me $10,000 every month, no questions asked, sure g'head! [:D] Try me. Right! Don't think there would be any out there! Not even $1,000 a month! I think it's a bit sad and insane that people would do it, especially if they can't really afford it. Plus the Doms that actively seek it or demand it are just laughing all the way to the bank with free cash. A bit ill gotten in my book. If it really is their kink and somehow turns them on, then gosh, can't understand why. I guess there are just not many takers, the whole myth of you demand it and get it makes me laugh, as LaTigresse and I stated (and possibly most females here) guys approach you with the fetish, you tell them it's not your thing, they pester you that they WANT to make your life better and pay for something, they won't, their fetish is to talk about it and trying to get you to talk about it. Now in case anybody's kink is to send money to anybody and they're not depriving their family, yeah, I would take it, I could get into that kink, heck, I would even send them pics of my dogs snacking on steaks...

LaTigresse -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 12:39:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Now in case anybody's kink is to send money to anybody and they're not depriving their family, yeah, I would take it, I could get into that kink, heck, I would even send them pics of my dogs snacking on steaks... I just took a survey.......Nala, Sandy and Sophie are more than happy to be steak Dommes!

LadyConstanze -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 12:53:52 PM)
Kia said she'd like hers medium, Alfie will have his raw, the cats don't care... Endless possibilities for subs... (Mind you, they're cheap, they'll even go for braising steaks...)

LadyPact -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 1:02:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture LOL I love how everyone is just talking like this actually happens. Come I guarantee that not one single person has ever had that happen on this site or any other. Its and Urban legend, the CM equivalent of alligators in the sewers. I bet I can ever tell you exactly how it happens every time. They send you an email offering to give you their money or wanting you to blackmail them. You waste all this time setting everything up then....Nothing. Every. Single. Time. Its a urban myth the financial slave doesn't exist and all the financial dommes are just scammers. Its just a funny thing to laugh about. I can promise you that you are incorrect. To the OP. When people start threads like this one, there are generally one of two motives. The first being that they actually want to understand the kink. The second is that they don't really understand and just basically want an opportunity to put their nose up at those who do happen to enjoy it. Financial Domination isn't My cup of tea. Then again, I know that I have kinks that don't jive with other people. There's a thread on the board right now about branding that folks didn't like either, but I happen to think it's great. Some people don't care for high protocol, but I enjoy it quite a bit. It's cool to not understand why one thing or another gives somebody a thrill that doesn't thrill you. Still, no matter who you are, there's probably something you enjoy that somebody else out there thinks is silly. People in glass houses and all of that.

CountrySong -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 1:17:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven And some laugh at my jokes. Dark - that is actually the hysterical laughter from the emotional and mental pain they are in from having to listen to those jokes. [8\|] I get it all the time from subs when I use puns for PUNishment.

CountrySong -> RE: financial domination (7/4/2011 1:48:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Back2theFuture LOL I love how everyone is just talking like this actually happens. Come I guarantee that not one single person has ever had that happen on this site or any other. Its and Urban legend, the CM equivalent of alligators in the sewers. I bet I can ever tell you exactly how it happens every time. They send you an email offering to give you their money or wanting you to blackmail them. You waste all this time setting everything up then....Nothing. Every. Single. Time. Its a urban myth the financial slave doesn't exist and all the financial dommes are just scammers. Its just a funny thing to laugh about. Actually it happens a lot more than most people would care to admit. I know a few Dommes that have financial subs that they key hold for. One in the USA makes enough that she recently bought a house on a few acres on the ocean here on the west coast. She rarely meets her subs personally but a few do "vacation" at her place to take care of things and do fix-up. Another one has a horse ranch and the same deal though most of her subs are actually paying very good money to "buy/rent a horse and stall" so that she stays legal and legit. I also know a few foriegn Dommes who do it but that is not total financial domination as the guys make good money and can afford to pay for the Dommes to live very nice lifestyles in South America, The FSU countries, and The Philippines since it cost less than $2000 a month to live very well in those countries. I think in the USA it happens most in the MDom/Fsub relationships because traditionally that has been part of the curture. It was not to long ago that women where still considered property and a lot of women still like that. They become a sub and imediately turn over control of their finances and assets. I did a lot of financial counseling in the past and there is another aspect of financial domination - a lot of people actually have emotional problems with money in that they view it as evil or dirty or they feel guilty for having it, either because they feel they do not deserve it or they see other suffer because of lack of money and feel guilty. Giving it away makes them feel better about themselves. Plus, a lot of people really suck at money management and know they are going to blow everything they make so giving it to someone they care for make them feel better about their lack of control. In a way, I'm a financial Dom because my subs will be working for me but they will also be set up with full benefits, a retirement program, and investments that will eventually give them financial freedom. If they do not want that then I will do it anyway through a trust. I control their money and how it is spent so that make me a financial Dom - IMHO.

hangemhigh1953 -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 12:31:34 AM)
I wouldn't trust a financial domme. It seems there's too much room for vanilla people to find out about the fetish and exploit it to scam people out of their money, I would think most people would want a domme who is into it for the lifestyle and not motivated by material things.

CeriseNin -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 2:40:18 AM)
Wrong. It happens. Funny though, I've never had a sub offer me money, but a man offered to take care of me for six months, so that he could turn me straight. He claimed to be a psychiatrist. Obviously a load of BS, but it was funny all the same. He became unglued when I said no and I'm happy the way I am.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 3:09:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: iSpuds Haha. Either way, I just have no interest in accepting money. Call it pride, but I hardly like receiving birthday money (especially from my parents). Or maybe call it non-interest, because a monetary display of affection does not appeal to me. I have absolutely nothing against the fetish, and even pointed him in the direction of a trustworthy Financial Domme I knew of. I just personally would let that extra money sit around since I don't buy much. A bit wasteful of his efforts, isn't it? I like to be earnest. A woman who doesn't like money, well that made my day in terms of funniest thing I have read all week.

HisPet21 -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 10:01:28 AM)
I never knew this financial domination was an ACTUAL fetish. I always thought it consisted of a bunch of lazy women taking advantage of sub men. But apparently that's not always the case. Yay! I learned something new today! :) And each to his own, I always say. Anyway, I'm not into financial domination. My SO still has a say in how I spend my money, but not because we particularly enjoy "financial domination" so much as he is better at managing money than I am, so if he recommends or tells me to save or spend a certain way, I listen (usually...). But even if I am not into a financial domination type scenario, I like taking my SO out to dinner and on dates. The only problem is he likes taking me out, so spending money on him is a rare treat...and now I have confused myself...shrug

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 10:12:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HisPet21 I never knew this financial domination was an ACTUAL fetish. As I define "finanical domination", which again, is: quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA I view "financial domination", in one of two ways: 1) The Owner completely controls the ownee's funds -- thus, rendering the ownee financially dependent upon the Owner. 2) The ownee has no funds, and thus, is financially dependent upon the Owner. I don't view it as a "fetish", per se... but rather, as a potential element of some 24/7, TPE, M/s dynamics. quote: I always thought it consisted of a bunch of lazy women taking advantage of sub men. Personally, I don't view what you've addressed above as "finanical domination" -- but rather, a "tribute". YMMV (shrugs)

kalikshama -> RE: financial domination (7/9/2011 10:28:43 AM)
quote: A woman who doesn't like money, well that made my day in terms of funniest thing I have read all week. See Women: Realistic or Gold Diggers? http://www.collarchat.com/m_3759159/tm.htm

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