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RE: It's just so silly - 6/30/2011 9:05:59 PM   
Muttling


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Therein lies the rub. I can only speak for myself.....



I find your response quite sad.   


You start by saying it is a rub, then you say you can only speak for yourself but restate how you can't get someone who isn't like you.

You also respond to my comment in which I said that my view is unusual even in the BDSM community.

What don't you get about this????   I'm cool with you being what you are, it's NOT a "rub" for me.   Furthermore, I embrace the fact that I was born this way and not everyone is like me.  

Go live your life and have your relationships your way with my blessings.

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RE: It's just so silly - 6/30/2011 10:58:08 PM   
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Do any of you ever look at the language you use, the behaviors you engage in, the interraction between you and your partner and think, "Am I nuts? This is all just so silly." Calling someone "Master" or being a "pet," objectifying another person, expecting them to obey commands, when set up in the context of "real life" with kids, board meetings, elections, does it ever strike you as a ridiculous way to spend your life? Last night Master had to correct the way I was arranging the kitchen three times and each time I had to kneel at his feet while he explained. In the middle I almost grinned once, thinking, I am grown woman, this is MY kitchen after all, how silly is this? Yet, I'd never want it any other way. Anyone else ever have brief flashes where you just shake your head at your own absurdity?


The thing I find amusing is that it took a grown woman with what I assume to be, a high level of intelligence, 3 tries to arrange a kitchen? How hard can it be? ;) I suppose everyone views their commitment to the concepts associated with this lifestyle at different levels. Some view it merely as a sort of  role playing game may consider some aspects rather silly and that is fine for them. Others may view this lifestyle in a hard core perspective and find nothing frivolous  about the language used or the activities engaged in. I think everyone needs to remember to be respectful of the other's perspectives and keep judgmental remarks to themselves. (this is in no way directed at the OP, but merely an observation)


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RE: It's just so silly - 6/30/2011 11:09:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Muttling

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Therein lies the rub. I can only speak for myself.....



I find your response quite sad.   


You start by saying it is a rub, then you say you can only speak for yourself but restate how you can't get someone who isn't like you.

You also respond to my comment in which I said that my view is unusual even in the BDSM community.

What don't you get about this????   I'm cool with you being what you are, it's NOT a "rub" for me.   Furthermore, I embrace the fact that I was born this way and not everyone is like me.  

Go live your life and have your relationships your way with my blessings.


therein lies the rub is a figure of speech.... You go on to say about how most relationships work just by reading a few responses I guess. My point was and still is. You don't have a fucking clue how anyone elses relationship works.

BTW I never implied that my dynamic would work for anyone else but me. Live and let live is how I operate.

Oh I get what your saying, I just don't agree with it. Why you came at me with so much vemon is beyond me when I was simpley explaining how much different my dynamic is than yours.

Go figure BadOne


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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 4:11:02 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Muttling

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Therein lies the rub. I can only speak for myself.....



I find your response quite sad.   


You start by saying it is a rub, then you say you can only speak for yourself but restate how you can't get someone who isn't like you.

You also respond to my comment in which I said that my view is unusual even in the BDSM community.

What don't you get about this????   I'm cool with you being what you are, it's NOT a "rub" for me.   Furthermore, I embrace the fact that I was born this way and not everyone is like me.  

Go live your life and have your relationships your way with my blessings.



I don't understand what you are getting so worked up about. No one is attacking you, or your way of doing things.

The reality is that, unless someone else is very much like us, we usually do not 'get' a lot of things about others and their relationships. Hell, I am going to say I don't 'get' what most people see in their S.O.. That doesn't make them bad people in bad relationships, just means their are not people I would be in a relationship with. The truth is, the greater population is looking at me the same damned way. It does not hurt my feelings. It only means............they are not for ME, and visa versa.

There are a LOT of us that do not create huge walls between our personal lives and.......life. Just because you do, does not make you right or wrong, just not.....us. For myself, I don't run about waving a kink flag, threatening people with a riding crop (okay I have done that...) or what have you. Many people don't even realize I am poly and mostly into women. Not because I make an effort to hide it, but because it just doesn't come up in most daily conversations. People make assumptions they are comfortable with and I leave it at that. But I am still dominant because it is my personality. It's not a role for the bedroom. Other people keep their fun in the bedroom and are happy with that. Others less kink and more power exchange, but don't advertise it. Others are loud and proud about their non main stream differences. We all do what works for US and we do it because in a way, we cannot 'get' doing it anyone else's way.

You will keep on doing what you do and many of us won't 'get' it. And we will keep on doing what we do, you and others won't 'get' it. But isn't that normal? We don't have to 'get' each other. Just accept.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 5:03:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Therein lies the rub. I can only speak for myself.....


You gotta love a man who is a sailor that paraphrases Shakespeare. 


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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 5:13:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Therein lies the rub. I can only speak for myself.....


You gotta love a man who is a sailor that paraphrases Shakespeare. 




Let's hope he's not suicidal

Devoutly to be wished. To die, to sleep!
To sleep, perchance to dream. Ay, there's the rub...

Been a while since I've read or watched Hamlet, so I might have mangled it up a bit.

My fave was always his conversation with Ophelia, she did seem to be a bit dull in the lay in your lap scene, of course he meant "country matters..."

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 6:57:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ha, ha, ha! You'd think it would be easy but there is a 10in height difference, meaning anything I do is automatically geared toward being short, and we also view food completely differently. What I think is important He puts on the back shelf. What I want up-front He puts above my head. Trust me, it takes some time. Even after all that the other night it's still not finished. ;) Well worth the effort though, Master is a wonderful cook and as soon as things are straightened out to His liking He will play in the kitchen more.
In response to some of the other comments, in no way was I using the word "silly" to cast my life, or anyone else's, in a bad light. Goodness, I couldn't live any other way, of course I see the inherent beauty, the deep spiritual connection that make this lifestyle so rewarding. However, I also see that in my parenting and it doesn't mean I don't feel ridiculous singing and dancing because my son used the toilet. My submission comes as naturally as breathing, I absolutely need an outlet for it. Thankfully, I have found something and someone that makes me incredibly happy, but when I walk outside I am a mother, a friend, a daughter, a student; I am confident, independent, organized, passionately out-spoken on occaision, the contrast between that and being an obedient, silent, pet is pretty extreme. Both are always present, no matter what the situation in the back of my mind I always keep Master's interests at heart, however, coming home and kneeling at someone's feet after a day in "the real world" I can't help but giggle inwardly sometimes.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 7:55:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Asherscorp1

Do any of you ever look at the language you use, the behaviors you engage in, the interraction between you and your partner and think, "Am I nuts? This is all just so silly." Calling someone "Master" or being a "pet," objectifying another person, expecting them to obey commands, when set up in the context of "real life" with kids, board meetings, elections, does it ever strike you as a ridiculous way to spend your life? Last night Master had to correct the way I was arranging the kitchen three times and each time I had to kneel at his feet while he explained. In the middle I almost grinned once, thinking, I am grown woman, this is MY kitchen after all, how silly is this? Yet, I'd never want it any other way. Anyone else ever have brief flashes where you just shake your head at your own absurdity?


We aren't protocol people at all. We find it incredibly silly, for us.
I call him by his first name. The thought of calling him master or sir makes us both laugh.
We bust each others balls at every opportunity too..
I don't kneel at his feet either.
But I do follow his orders.
The tpe dynamic is always there between us.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 8:40:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		It would feel very silly for me to refer to my partner as "master" all of the time, which is why I would not want that sort of relationship. Some people would find calling their mate "daddy" to be silly, I suppose it is all what feels right to us, and what doesn't....




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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 10:09:05 AM   
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Anyone else ever have brief flashes where you just shake your head at your own absurdity?
Constantly.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 2:42:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think she was talking about BDSM specificially, Bob... not you know when you're brushing your teeth and such...  I could be wrong.  It happens.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 5:00:15 PM   
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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 5:06:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ouch.  I had actually meant that seriously.  As in... I don't think you do this stuff 24/7 (wearing chaps and such)... Sorry for the misunderstanding.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 5:15:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, but I don't take bdsm seriously. It's playtime. I'm supposed to be silly when I play.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 7:05:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		Goodness no! This stuff is deadly serious!

I'm sorry, but when a pretty girl is laying over your lap with her skirt turned up and her bum turning pink, it's just hard not to smile. And the temptation to drip some ice water into her butt crack to make her jump is just too hard to resist.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/1/2011 7:33:12 PM   
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Goodness no! This stuff is deadly serious!


lol

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I'm sorry, but when a pretty girl is laying over your lap with her skirt turned up and her bum turning pink, it's just hard not to smile.


And giggle and snicker and go for one more swat to make sure she's whimpering a bit.

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 And the temptation to drip some ice water into her butt crack to make her jump is just too hard to resist.


Some temptations were just made not made to be resisted.

Though ice would be better.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/2/2011 1:31:11 AM   
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Ouch.  I had actually meant that seriously.  As in... I don't think you do this stuff 24/7 (wearing chaps and such)... Sorry for the misunderstanding.
Don't sweat it Sunny, I wasn't serious.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/2/2011 2:00:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Srs bsns indeed.

Sometimes I have to laugh about how ridiculous it all is. At the ludicrous positions I find myself in, in the name of obedience, or even at the minor things like asking permission for XYZ or choosing things I know would please the domly one. And then I end up laughing at myself because I know I wouldn't have it any other way.

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RE: It's just so silly - 7/2/2011 2:18:26 PM   
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wearing chaps and such)
You know Sunny, that's a scary thought.....me in chaps......




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RE: It's just so silly - 7/2/2011 2:25:39 PM   
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Status: offline 		This! I understood in the abstract that some men become aroused by submitting. But before I actually experienced it, before I was 18, I would have thought it nuts to think that lovely, good men would become aroused by submitting to Me, and how arousing it is. But when it did . . . boom, zip, whoosh, fireworks!

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Do any of you ever look at the language you use, the behaviors you engage in, the interraction between you and your partner and think, "Am I nuts?
The orgasms tend to obscure such thoughts.  lol


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