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time to introduce - 5/16/2006 9:50:34 AM

ladyseekinglord

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I found collarme about 6 months ago in my quest to learn more about D/s after having been first introducede to the lifestyle around that time. I realized I have always had submissive tendencies/desires, since a young child, but just didn't have a name for it.

I just recently started reading the message boards, and wish I had done so sooner. It would have saved me a lot of frustration. Being naive in this lifestyle, I have fallen for some of the lines from the fakes and @$$holes out there, but thankfully, I'm a quick study. Dating on the vanilla side most of my life, I had learned most of the red flags that exist in that world. In this lifestyle though, it seems there are a whole new set of games, manipulations and untruths. I guess I should have realized that that would be the case.

Several times, I doubted that this lifestyle was really for me. I have made the mistake of being untrue to myself in order to "prove" my submissiveness to those that were not worthy. It seems many just want a body, the person inside does not matter.

I think I am more grounded and on the right track now, though. I got angry enough with some of these experiences that I vowed I'm going to be who I am from now on instead of putting on a mask to please another. I'm realizing its all about compatibility and have been lucky enough to find a Dom with whom I can really be myself. We have just been talking so far and will meet next week. Even if things don't work out, the experience thus far has been very helpful.

And then there are the message boards. The posts I have read so far have really been enlightening. The more I read, the more I realize that this lifestyle is what I crave. I realize I don't have to be a doormat, that I can (and should) be discriminating, and that it is not only normal, but reasonable, to expect to find a Dom who's desires encompass more than giving orders and having sex. It has given me hope that it is possible to find One to whom I could truly submit, One who wishes to completely know my heart, my mind, and my body, and I his.

Thats probably enough rambling for now.

lady

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RE: time to introduce - 5/16/2006 12:12:03 PM

MasterMoody

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thats is nice to know and i want you to find what you are looking for

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RE: time to introduce - 5/16/2006 9:48:57 PM

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It seems many just want a body, the person inside does not matter.

Have you tried Gor? Try learning about it on the Gorean chats and discussion Rooms. It is my belief that us Goreans have a different aproach regarding tutoring slaves. But, I can only speak for myself. Never the less, Gorean Masters shall seek to develope the conditions of the kajirae (gorean slavegirls)

Wish you better luck anyway. you shall have it.

As for you profile, I could "try you" but experience tells me that rellocation from Washington to Europe is something you shall probably not consider. Sex is not what I seek in here. I have that in vanilla if I want to...

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RE: time to introduce - 5/16/2006 10:15:30 PM

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Welcome to Cm. Be sure to get involved with the forums, everybodys view here is always interesting.

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 4:32:24 AM

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hello and good luck in your search.

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 5:21:20 AM

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Greetings, I'm sorry you went thru all your less than positive experiences But ( nom butt intended ) you seem to have been the better for it and you are the kind of submissive a True Dom can appreciate... Best to you.....

I'm Frank but try not to be rude :)

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 6:03:35 AM

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Greetings to you and welcome. Yes, the 'other side' sometimes can become frustrating, just keep a level head over there.

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 9:39:34 AM

xxmstrchasxx

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Hello Lady,

Welcome to the Forum.

quote:

We have just been talking so far and will meet next week.

I would suggest you have a safe call if you don't already know that.

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 5:01:58 PM

ladyseekinglord

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Thanks to all of you for your welcomes and advice. They are appreciated.

lady

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RE: time to introduce - 5/17/2006 5:06:22 PM

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I do not know much about Gor. I have had a couple books suggested to me on the subject, and do plan on reading them. However, I am more submissive than slave, so I am guessing my attraction to Gor will be mostly of a curious nature.

For the right connection and Man, I would move just about anywhere. However, that distance does make meeting and getting to know each other very difficult. :)

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RE: time to introduce - 5/18/2006 7:05:18 PM

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Yes, for getting to know about Gor, you need to read about Gor - John Normans books. No one can describe the scene better than the book. If you read the book, and like what you read, you will see how you can also blend in. I was in the Gorean scene for about a year, and I loved it.

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RE: time to introduce - 5/18/2006 10:25:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ladyseekinglord
However, I am more submissive than slave,

I try to explain to many, that Gorean slave, are of high submissive nature. Slave in average BDSM or SM, are much interpreted as masoquists.

In Gor, the relation betwenn a girl and his owner is much more fullfiling (in my oppinion) than in BDSM.

Read this:

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http://groups.msn.com/GoreanHIDEOUTofMasterLW/essenceofgor.msnw
The Difference Between a Dom and a Master

In the BDSM venue there are Doms and Dommes, which refer to a male and female ‘Top’, in relation to a ‘bottom’ or ‘sub’. The difference between a Dom and a Master is profound and absolute. A Dom only appears to be in control of a situation, in reality he is not.
(...)
There is a vast difference here in the level of power which a Master wields, versus a Dom, and so there is a commensurate level of responsibility that a Master has, which a Dom does not.

True, you may need to read the books, but most girls trust a Master to show them the path. No girl offers herself to a Master, without proper training. No true Master, accepts a girl not duely trained. There is a higher standard of trust and communication here. And higher expectations. Thats why so many girls rellocate international and intercontinental...

Before deciding to read the books (I or other Masters can send them to you already prepared for printing in a word file) you can read lots of info that resume a lot.

A huge difference in Gor vs BDSM, is that most honorable Masters (whitout honour, none recognize them as Master) will assist your training and guide you. Rules are common, so it is easy.

Here are some links that may help you, before reading the books:

http://www.dreamstrike.com/gorintro.html
http://domsubfriends.com/cgi-local/wwwdir/db.cgi?db=res&uid=default&category=GOREAN+LIFESTYLE&view_records=View+Records
http://www.gor.net/encyclopedia.html
http://argentum.fshosting.com/Argentum5.html
http://www.gor-world.org/Masters.Study.html

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ORIGINAL: ladyseekinglord
For the right connection and Man, I would move just about anywhere. However, that distance does make meeting and getting to know each other very difficult.

Shakespear said something like: "The dificulties enhance the desire"...

Dont worrie, I am not advertising, lol

Feel free, to contact me for any guidance. I wont charge you... "Qui docet, discit" ;)

I wish you well

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