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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 11:08:16 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Any sharing that I've done has included safer sex practices.  It really isn't any different than a single person taking on a new sexual partner.  We have the same precautions in place that anyone else does.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 11:31:05 AM   
tazzygirl


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ORIGINAL: SashaSteel

So I'm curious, to those Masters/Doms that like to share their sub or slave with other people, (sexually) Do you worry about STD's? Oral, Genetal or Anal? Just curious since one in every five people have a STD.

Sincerely,
Sasha


He doesn't share and neither do I. So no worries on that front.


Same here.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 11:53:26 AM   
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Gary had a transplant several years ago.  He can't take the chance of catching anything as his immune system is suppressed to save his transplanted organ.  We stay monogamous to protect his health and life. 

This is bullshit for several major reasons. Please educate yourself. Or, if you know it's bullshit and are just using that as the excuse, fair enough but we don't want your BS :)

Who are the "we" of which you speak?

I worked on a transplant unit for many years and was married to a transplant recipient. The anti-rejection drugs they must take to prevent their bodies from rejecting a foreign organ make them much more vulnerable to infections of all types. And once infected, the average transplant patient does not have the immune system to fight the illness without compromising the status of the transplant.


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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 1:42:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

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ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

This is bullshit for several major reasons. Please educate yourself. Or, if you know it's bullshit and are just using that as the excuse, fair enough but we don't want your BS :)

Who are the "we" of which you speak?

I worked on a transplant unit for many years and was married to a transplant recipient. The anti-rejection drugs they must take to prevent their bodies from rejecting a foreign organ make them much more vulnerable to infections of all types. And once infected, the average transplant patient does not have the immune system to fight the illness without compromising the status of the transplant.




Pretty much so, I thought it was common knowledge that transplant patients are being extremely vulnerable to any infections.

And why would anybody need an excuse to be monogamous? Some people are, some aren't, it's just how you're wired, no excuse needed.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 2:03:18 PM   
tazzygirl


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ORIGINAL: wittynamehere

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ORIGINAL: peppermint
Gary had a transplant several years ago.  He can't take the chance of catching anything as his immune system is suppressed to save his transplanted organ.  We stay monogamous to protect his health and life. 

This is bullshit for several major reasons. Please educate yourself. Or, if you know it's bullshit and are just using that as the excuse, fair enough but we don't want your BS :)




I have worked on transplant units. Please point out to me the parts of peppermint's post that are bullshit or that she needs to educate herself on.

Or were you talking to the mirror at that point.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 2:17:34 PM   
OwnedFemaleFlesh


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Status: offline 		I would imagine that people take the same precautions regardless of whether they are seeing a new person or seeing a new person within their relationship, I know I do.

There seems to be some implicit suggestion that sharing your submissive is somehow inherently more dangerous (STD-wise) than dating as a single, but the risk is exactly the same.

Sex is sex, precautions are precautions. I fail to see how this applies more to people in open relationships than it does to anyone else.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 3:47:41 PM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: OwnedFemaleFlesh

I would imagine that people take the same precautions regardless of whether they are seeing a new person or seeing a new person within their relationship, I know I do.

There seems to be some implicit suggestion that sharing your submissive is somehow inherently more dangerous (STD-wise) than dating as a single, but the risk is exactly the same.

Sex is sex, precautions are precautions. I fail to see how this applies more to people in open relationships than it does to anyone else.

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You'd hope so, but apparently people forgot all about STDs, I'd say more partners automatically increases the risk a bit, but if people act responsibly and take precautions, I'd say the risk is not that much higher, but just simple logic says that it is higher, more partners, more risk, though I think people who practice responsible poly or sharing are not more at risk (most likely less) than a person who's promiscuous

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 4:24:51 PM   
SashaSteel


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Status: offline 		It's nice to see a group of responsible people that understand what steps/cost need to be taken to screen for STD's. A lot of my question stems from reading profiles and actual chats with some dom memebers here, a lot seem to be masoginist type doms that say the want to "whore their slut out" and I get the impression that they don't screen any of these people... and when proposing me with this type of activity, never gave me any impression that they even thought about stds.

I have had many people wanting to meet up after a 15 min. chat from this site and want to go and "play." In fact this seems to be quite popular on this site, for Im asked quite frequently if I am just looking for play partners or a ltr. The word being "partners" and then they go off and start sharing some sexual fantasy. It's very wierd.

Does anyone else come across these kind of people here.. message or otherwise? What do you say to them?

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 5:22:43 PM   
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I have had many people wanting to meet up after a 15 min. chat from this site and want to go and "play." In fact this seems to be quite popular on this site, for Im asked quite frequently if I am just looking for play partners or a ltr. The word being "partners" and then they go off and start sharing some sexual fantasy. It's very wierd. Does anyone else come across these kind of people here.. message or otherwise?

Yes.

quote:

What do you say to them?

No.






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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 5:53:14 PM   
Awareness


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Status: offline 		  It should be obvious that Doms who specifically mention they want to whore their sub out aren't looking for a partner, they're looking for a toy to play with.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 6:35:45 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: Awareness

It should be obvious that Doms who specifically mention they want to whore their sub out aren't looking for a partner, they're looking for a toy to play with.

I must have missed the part about whoring people out.  I thought the thread was about sharing someone sexually.  I would think that would cover threesomes, voyeurism, coerced bi, cucks, poly, and more that I'm sure is just escaping Me at the moment. 

If it wasn't hot to watch people having sex, there wouldn't be a billion dollar porn industry.


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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/1/2011 8:12:36 PM   
SashaSteel


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Status: offline 		A lot of the guys would use the word "whoring" which I think they actually meant sharing ... because it wasnt that they were going to collect money on it. It was their way of using a degrading word so I would be humilitated and put in my place .. and made to feel like I am under their total control.

Sorry about the word misuse .... it's kind of the way I've been processing it, because so many of the men have been using this kind of language towards me (in messages and chats ) (and probably many many many many many many many others.)

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 1:39:11 AM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Got it.  See, I tend to take things rather literally.  You asked about sharing *your* sub or slave, so I interpreted that as somebody who actually belongs to Me, rather than some random person from chat or emails.

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Beach Ball Sized Lady Nuts. ~ TWD

Happily dating a new submissive. It's official. I've named him engie.

Please do not send me email here. Unless I know you, I will delete the email unread

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 5:51:01 AM   
kalikshama


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ORIGINAL: SashaSteel

Sorry about the word misuse .... it's kind of the way I've been processing it, because so many of the men have been using this kind of language towards me (in messages and chats ) (and probably many many many many many many many others.)


Your posts here give me the impressions of an intelligent and articulate woman. If you want to attract less HNGish men, I suggest you add vanilla stuff to your profile and pictures. It won't stop all the HNGs, but you might be able to up the quality of responses. There's currently nothing to indicate that you are interested in anything but sex. (Not that there's anything wrong with it, but your various questions indicate a sense of bemusement.)

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 9:41:47 AM   
strangedesire


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Condoms do not 100% protect someone from a std. Also you can catch aids and herpes, g.w. from oral. Many people don't know this.


Flavored condoms. Plastic wrap. Gloves.

After that, it's just a question of whether or not you're willing to take the risks.


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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 11:15:43 AM   
analyticalmaster


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Status: offline 		I do not share my subs out in a sexual intercourse context, I may let someone I trust play with them in a BDSM context.  I do not share in the sexual arena for good reasons, first one of the requests my girl asked of me when I collared her was that I do not share her out.  Second I think that it hurts the head space of a tpe slave to be shared, it is important that she knows exactly who she belongs too, period.  While in a technical sense, I could force the issue if I really wanted to share, I would only do that if I thought there was something important for my sub to gain from the experience, not just I am the Master and you will do what I tell you to.  But I approach this from a lifestyle viewpoint not a play one.  I certainly dont buy into the concept that you cant truly own a slave unless you have the power to give her away.  With ownership comes responsibility.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 11:37:37 AM   
LadyConstanze


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ORIGINAL: SashaSteel



Does anyone else come across these kind of people here.. message or otherwise? What do you say to them?


I usually get guys asking me to rent them out, it's just not something I am interested in, legalities aside, if they ask me to do that for them, it reeks a bit of "Oh do line up male partners for me but I still don't want to feel like I am willingly indulging in homosexual acts", I understand that for some the degradation might play a strong role but it doesn't do much for me. I usually do the block and delete thing.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 1:26:26 PM   
Errastas


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Status: offline 		I must admit, I will not share; I'm possessive and I generally only practice sub/dom in permenant relationships. However I do know people who will use sharing their sub in public as a punishment for the sub and similar. Comfort level and trust.

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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 9:27:46 PM   
Aynne88


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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl


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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: SashaSteel

So I'm curious, to those Masters/Doms that like to share their sub or slave with other people, (sexually) Do you worry about STD's? Oral, Genetal or Anal? Just curious since one in every five people have a STD.

Sincerely,
Sasha


He doesn't share and neither do I. So no worries on that front.


Same here.


Ditto. He loves me. No "sharing." If he wanted to? See ya.


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RE: Sharing your sub or slave. - 7/2/2011 11:27:24 PM   
tazzygirl


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ORIGINAL: strangedesire

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ORIGINAL: SashaSteel

Condoms do not 100% protect someone from a std. Also you can catch aids and herpes, g.w. from oral. Many people don't know this.


Flavored condoms. Plastic wrap. Gloves.

After that, it's just a question of whether or not you're willing to take the risks.




Im not willing, neither is he.

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Telling me to take Midol wont help your butthurt.
RIP, my demon-child 5-16-11
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Dont judge me because I sin differently than you.
If you want it sugar coated, dont ask me what i think! It would violate TOS.

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