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LadyHugs -> RE: Fisting gets such a bad rap... (5/16/2006 2:05:19 PM)
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Dear tade, Ladies and Gentlemen;
I think "fisting" gets a bad reputation is due to men's visions of putting their fist into their sexual cavities and or anal cavities and; not all men are patient and get an attitude if women do not want it and make it a hard limit. Some women are advised by their doctors that they are not canidates for normal childbearing and that could be some reasons and, I wish Dominant men would stand up and be gentlemen about it.
Additionally, in this area it is not as bad but, in other parts of the area I live in male hygiene is repulsive. Men don't wash their hands, trim their nails and file them smooth, let alone washing their arms up to their armpits. And, I mean scrub clean not a quicky hand wash.
Women are prone to so many infections without fisting or inserting toys, that it is a ceaseless battle to keep infection free. So, the gloves worn are only to the wrist at best. I prefer using veterinarian palpating gloves because they are used for cows and horses, as well as reach up mid upper arm.
In addition to that, men do not keep women well lubricated. The sensation of a man's fist in the woman's cavities is similar to a man's passing a kidney stone. Lube, Lube and more Lube. The same goes for anal fisting.
I will warn, that you do not want to fist anal and then go to vaginal, unless you strip everything off and clean up as to begin again. New gloves and new everything. And, if you douch and do enemas first it is a good procedure and cut down the risk of infections and debris in the glove and lube.
Although anal fisting is very popular in the Gay community, they have validated the fact that, fisting requires the one being fist to guide the one fisting. Fisting once a month, is not going to allow the person fisted to relax, their muscles stretch and accept more of the hand inside. It takes approximately three months of constant play to fully go inside a anal cavity. Not all vaginal and or anal canals are the same, some take different directions and sometimes a different hand/arm is required to go to the natural bend.
That said, I think that women have the hardest time with warming up to fisting, is due to the image and how women were brought up as little girls. Sex was a dirty word. And, women know how painful it is to give birth and need to get pain killers at times. Men's fists are much more solid and edged than a baby's skull. It hurts thinking about it.
But, I think poor hygiene and men's impatience hurt the reputation most of all.
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs
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