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LadyConstanze -> RE: "That don't impress me much...." (7/2/2011 5:08:16 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SnowRanger
Looking up 'Subjunctive'... Wait... OXFORD comma? As opposed to the regular kind?
Hello A/all,
I have had women ask me about my car, where I live, and, how I earn a living. (See, I'm trying to throw those commas in there.) I have been dismissed out of hand for giving the "wrong" answer more than once. Most recently was this past Winter; but, she was a ski instructor. (Do I need to elaborate on ski instructors?)
Conversly, I have been involved with women who didn't give a care at all about my car, home, or, occupation. (See, more commas!) Obviously, there are discerning individuals out there who are able to look past the "wrong" answers.
I am not, at first glance, impressive at all. It usually requires a third, or fifth, or fiftieth glance for anyone really see me. I have tried to live by Moltke's, "Be more than you appear to be."
Respectfully,
Mike
SnowRanger
But aren't the wrong answers sometimes great for you?
A rather successful friend of mine told me that all he is interested in is that the girl he's dating works, as he doesn't want to be a meal ticket, I think his exact words were "As long as we click, I don't care what she does as long as it makes her happy, but she has to work as I don't want anybody who's with me to support her". I've always been fiercely independent, sometimes too much and it possibly has cost me a lot, but I wouldn't change a thing. The classic example was an ex who's work required him to travel the globe, at the same time my work required the same, same business different jobs, he said I should be with him, he could foot my income, I couldn't do it because I would have lost my independence, it didn't work out due to the separation. I'm not sure if it would have worked out if I could have swallowed my pride, he worked in an industry where if you're hot, you are hot property and you rake it in, I possibly never ever in my whole life will earn what he earned in 5 years, heck, not even in 1 year. We split, we're still friends, both with people now we care for but we're friends, with a lot of respect for each other, life just took a different turn. I don't regret it, we had some good times and we respect each other and our relationships (he was amazing when mine was going through a rocky patch) - maybe things would be different if I could have swallowed my pride and independence, personally I doubt it because I wouldn't have been the person he fell for, I would have become paid entourage.
Don't get me wrong, money is nice, I enjoy having it and I really like the fact that I do not have to worry about mortgage payments, but I am always aware it could change, should things change dramatically, I'd be prepared to change tracks, have a job I'd like less, if needs must, needs must. But I would be doing my part, I wouldn't expect my partner to pay for my share of the mortgage.
As for the cars and what not, a car always was and will be a means to get me from A to B, liked the Honda Civic R Type, changed to the Toyota Yaris without thinking too much of it, now having a freaking Volvo because I don't drive all that much but it has enough room in the back for the doggies, bloody thing looks like a hearse, I keep joking that I want a coffin there and lay there, just for the fun of sitting up at the traffic lights and waving at people looking...
I'm not dissing financial security and stability, it is nice, but it's not all there is. I could be happy in a smaller house, with a smaller car and with less disposable income but the right person with me, and I could be very unhappy in a big mansion with all the cars and money. I'm happy about the disposable income because I have pets who cause big vet bills (arthritis in Dobies is freaking expensive, yet the girl does so well with the right treatment, worth every penny), cats who regularly have an abscess due to fighting, a rat with a respiratory problem (yeah, I do collect strays and problem cases), I don't mock money, but if money is the sole reason for a relationship, I think it's doomed.
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