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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 4:29:06 AM

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Yup, the lower the voice, the more I pay attention.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 6:29:17 AM

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On a slightly different tack, i play with a Dom whose voice is slow low and sometimes so soft that i can't always hear all the words that He is saying, and i feel really badly about asking Him to repeat Himself. Am not quite sure how best to handle this. Any suggestions please?

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 7:07:55 AM

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my Doms voice gets very low and even -- when i hear that i know i had better listen up..

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 7:53:43 AM

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For me, it's all about his facial expressions and tone of voice. A low tone can make me feel as if i have done something that doesn't please Sir. On the same hand there is a low tone that can just send me to another world of arousal. Yelling or raising his voice never has to come into play. In fact, if that were to happen-the respect would be gone.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 8:48:43 AM

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The most common bad poetry by submissives BY far are comprised of three main topics:

Their eyes

Their hands

Their voice

I have yet to meet a submissive who couldn't be turned on and manipulated by someone who knows how to use these things. They seem to be the keys to making submissives swoon/shiver.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 9:02:00 AM

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tell him you think you may have been slapped a bit hard because you can not hear him clearly when he talks so low?

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 10:35:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: heartfeltsub

On a slightly different tack, i play with a Dom whose voice is slow low and sometimes so soft that i can't always hear all the words that He is saying, and i feel really badly about asking Him to repeat Himself. Am not quite sure how best to handle this. Any suggestions please?

Hello heartfeltsub,

I have a hearing loss problem so I can relate very much to how you feel. I dislike asking people to repeat themselves over and over, it makes me feel as if I'm an annoyance.

I have learned to lipread and need to see someones mouth when they speak as well as hear their voice but there are times when your bottom is facing someone and not your eyes...lol

On a practical note, would it be too embarrassing to mention that you find it hard to hear him at times? If you've mentioned it, then at least if you don't react he'll have an idea why or if you have to ask him to repeat something, he'll have been forwarned, so to speak, that you DO find a difficulty sometimes.

After reading your post , I asked my Master how aware he was these days, of my lack of hearing and he said that he tries to enunciate clearly as a matter of course but that he does notice it at times and just repeats things a bit more loudly.

(Mind you , he also said that sometimes my lack of hearing seems to be a little selective..lol)

and he's right , of course....

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 1:22:28 PM

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quote:

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On a slightly different tack, i play with a Dom whose voice is slow low and sometimes so soft that i can't always hear all the words that He is saying, and i feel really badly about asking Him to repeat Himself. Am not quite sure how best to handle this. Any suggestions please?

Perhaps the most diplomatic way you can handle this would be to lay your head on his chest or shoulder when he speaks to you. Then purr... Huh? He will either like this very much or speak up.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 1:32:26 PM

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My Captain has never raised his voice to me.

But, the tone of his voice, as others have mentioned, will get a certain reaction from me. i know when he's upset, happy, sad, lonely... etc..

He does have this one "tone" he uses that gets my blood boiling tho.. A low, sexy voice he uses when teasing me. Groans....

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 1:40:48 PM

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Perhaps the most diplomatic way you can handle this would be to lay your head on his chest or shoulder when he speaks to you. Then purr... Huh? He will either like this very much or speak up.

I have hearing loss as well and it's really irritating to have to constantly ask someone to repeat themselves. The good news is that 90% of the time, no one notices and I have no problem communicating with others.

But for the others, I let people know before we play that I have hearing problems and for them not to expect me to hear them all the time. I also make sure they know they need to be facing me with me looking at them if they want to make sure I can hear them correctly.

I've learned that when I can't understand them I just don't respond at all or just calmly say "I have no idea what you're saying right now." Sometimes it takes a few taps on the shoulder or taps on your ear, but they get it eventually.

Stop feeling badly about doing the right thing already.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 1:55:14 PM

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I have to agree with many who have stated their opinion so far,I dont like to raise my voice..nor do I like to repeat myself..I have expectations that after training,my property understands my needs and wants with out reiteration or raising my voice...I have great facial expressions that speak volumes as well,and my boy would certainly understand one of my looks with out a word spoken..I do understand human error and prefer firm and controled inflection when verbally repremanding...yelling is just not something that would be part of my everyday life..unless we were in a scene that warrented such, ie interrogation/kiddnapping etc...

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/17/2006 2:54:47 PM

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My voice actually gets way lower both in tone and volume.......and I have heard I get some kind of look in my eyes. I have yet to figure out how to do it to myself in the mirror without laughing, but my kids ages 25 and 27 are still intimidated by it. As is my last female companion who avoids face to face or phone calls and will only communicate with me via email now, unless of course she is on a misson to convince me to let her come back.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/18/2006 1:53:30 PM

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I would most definately not respond, never have, to yelling. I agree that it would appear a lack of control, when what I am seeking is One in control.

My former Dom, when I did something to displease him (which wasn't often), would get this look on his face that meant business to me and use a monotone voice that was very low and hold my face so I had to look at him at the same time.

Talk about not mistaking his intentions.

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RE: Tone of voice - 5/18/2006 2:44:02 PM

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The tone of HIS voice and look in HIS eyes - no need for HIM to yell...In fact, yelling would negate HIS power.

My thoughts exactly!

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