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LafayetteLady -> RE: Slap my submissive? (7/11/2011 1:25:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Tristan
Quite possibly the reason so many arguments occur on these boards is that much information is lost in writing about complex emotional issues. Everyone who responded to this post is reading something differently into the post. To accurately describe a situation, one would have to write pages (or novels) rather than paragraphs. For that reason, there are many ways one can read any of these brief individual posts. I tend to believe it is better to ask the poster for clarification rather than automatically assuming the worst.
I will leave it to IntimateDarkness to tell us (if he wants) how well you summarized his intents by your statements above. I read things differently partly because I chose to assume that anyone who appears to sincerely be asking for advice is probably not an "immature asshole". Yes, this is my interpretation because I believe that an immature asshole is the last person that will ever ask advice let alone honestly own up to mistakes.
No one is asking anyone to cuddle anyone else. Also, being blunt is fine as long as you are on the right track. However, it is easy to get off track with the brief nature of discussion board posts. Nearly everyone who responded to this post did so from a different interpretation of the original post. You are no more likely to understand IntimateDarkness' intent or situation than anyone else.
Finally and most importantly, labeling someone an "immature asshole" does not create a good learning environment for people to come here for advice.
Actually, I didn't read anything into what the OP wrote at all. I took everything at face value. He is miffed that her parents inflict rules that make his relationship with her difficult. He is the one who said that things that don't concern them is trivial, and he is the one who said "if I call her out on it, I will end up slapping her a couple of times."
I stated that those things, exactly as he said them are indicative of being an immature asshole. He didn't come here and simply ask for advice on face slapping. He included details of why he wanted to slap her, which included him finding his sub's great grandmother's death trivial. Those were his words, not mine. I found those statements to be those of someone who is not only able to control himself, and therefore not ready to control someone else, but to be those more like a child who doesn't get his way (due to her controlling parents, and the other things going on in her life) and was not happy that she didn't defy her parents, ignore her great grandmothers funeral, skip studying and exams because he wanted to spend time with her.
Perhaps in your world, an s-type is supposed to abandon all educational and family obligations, but I obviously don't see it the same way. Interestingly enough, I'm not the only one here who found those things problematic.
This is a forum board, not a classroom. No one here has any obligation to create a "good learning environment."
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