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ChrisGreen -> RE: Question (10/14/2004 1:34:29 PM)
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Well now, if you can define what kind of dominant you are, then you might be able to define what kind of submissive you are looking for.
Then there is the singlemost important 'code' word in BDSM - RESPECT.
You have to respect the people or persons you want to relate to, and they have to have respect for you.
You don't get respect simply because you have decided to be dominant, I think you need to team up with an established dominant and go through a semester or two of tutillage - believe they call it mentoring in America.
Alternatively, and a lot of dominants go this route, is to go through the process of being trained as a submissive, in order then to learn how to be a dominant.
Another thing you should think about is that many dominants are not only dominant in scene, but also in real life, and many find their partners in real life, and then go into the scene.
It is true that there are some who are not dominant in real life, or hold down jobs that mean they have to hide their real selves; and, who are then dominant in scene only.
I think that you have mad a decision, on the spot, so to speak, whizzed around to see if someone is going to run around obeying you, and now a few days later, I hear your foot tapping on the ground and you impatiently say, "Where are the real subs?"
We are all here, "Where is the real Dom?"
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