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BeachMystress -> RE: Question (10/22/2004 1:01:15 PM)
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You sound very frustrated, and I understand why. But you're going to have to assume some of the blame here. Your profile doesn't go into detail. It doesn't say you're looking for any certain type of person. Someone responding to your ad or to a letter you've sent can't look and see that they do not fit you from the get-go. You need to spruce your profile up with a bit more about who you are and exactly what you seek.
You'd probably do better in a real time situation. You have people who are at least serious enough to show up at a location and get to know others. I did a quick web look for you and found:
Eugene Munch munch group meeting every Monday at McMenamins North Bank Restaurant at 6pm - We meet in the back room, which is back and slightly to the left as you come through the restaurant from the front door. We usually have a black balloon on a table. If not, just ask someone "is this the munch?" - This is a social rather than a play event; come and ask questions, meet local players, and generally make contact. We also have an open house every Tuesday from 8PM on (write for directions if interested), a play party on the first Saturday of each month, and a Fetish Night at Diablo's (Pearl St next to the Greyhound station) downtown on the last Sunday of every other month. All these are open events. Email Conrad at [email protected] for information
I have no clue if that is a quality group or not.. but they are a place to start looking. One thing you might want to do before going is some reading. You sound rather new (which is fine, Dominants come in all experience lvls.) Subs have limits. The don't just "do anything." You are talking about human beings, not blow up dolls. You have to not only match personality, but limits. If you have something that many feel is a "bit too far" you're going to have a lot of problems finding a sub. A slave has way fewer limits, usually relating to not performing illegal acts. Those people are rare, and have to develop trust to actually be a slave to you. Anyone who claims no limits isn't realistic, as I point out to them when I ask them to go cut off my neighbor's ear (no, I have nothing against my neighbor, it is simply making a point.)
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