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Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:02:33 AM   
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LadyC pointed me towards this programme from BBC (gotta get on Youtube now, though..)

Sir Terry Pratchett, diagnosed with alzheimers in 2008, exploring assisted death:  Here is part one

the whole programme is well worth watching.. it is difficult at times.. but as Terry says: it may not be easy but it is important.


If you had to be the person watching someone making this decision, how would you feel?

could you respect the decision?

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:22:30 AM   
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As long as they are of sound mind I think you have to respect their decision. Of course it would be incredibly hard to see someone you love deliberately ending their life but it is their choice to make.
I would like to think I would have the guts to do it if the situation arose but it's an easy thing to say when I hopefully still have many worthwhile and happy years ahead.
Small aside, it was great to see the Swiss voting by a big majority to keep the law allowing this practice

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:24:47 AM   
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i've only watched part of it so far but it always puzzled me that euthanasia is considered merciful for pets, but a crime for humans. if i don't want my dog to suffer, i don't want my loved ones to, either. it's heart-wrenching to think about, though, and i think in our minds we hold onto whatever sliver of hope there may be (or even that there may not be), and we want to keep our loved ones here in case tomorrow is THE day that a cure for what ails them is discovered.
it's a complex topic...


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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:30:19 AM   
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it IS a very complex thing, Lilly..

as I told LadyC.. while I'm ok with it in general.. I dont know HOW I would handle it if it were my MOM (who is my best friend).

I would LIKE to think I could detach enough from my selfishness..   but honestly, I cant say with any certainty that I could..

Mom knows this, which is why that decision is not mine to make.. she has designated others to determine these things.

part of me hates it.. because I KNOW I will be angry with those folks..but the more rational, objective part of me understands that she is making the decison now that will ultimately mean less trauma for both herself AND for me..

I hope that made sense///

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:32:47 AM   
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perfect sense,my dad has made his wishes known to lots of people other than me and my mum for the exact same reason

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:34:37 AM   
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thx HCM ..

if you watch the videos.. I am AWED by the families.. I WANT to be that pragmatic about it.. but I honestly dont think I could..

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:35:40 AM   
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I'd totally support it, I would want it for me and Lilly said, if we can treat our pets in a humane way, I don't understand why we can't claim the same kindness for ourselves. I would love it if somebody would pull the plug on me in case I'm only a vegetable and I can totally understand and respect Terry Pratchett's choice.

In case I should ever be in the same position, I'm on the next plane to Switzerland.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:39:21 AM   
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I agree, for ME in a similar position as Terry (or Andrew or Peter)..

I'm just not sure I could be as pragmatic as the families of those guys when it comes to Mom.

intellectually, yeah, no problem.. emotionally... not so much when it comes to Mom.. dammit, I want here HERE, I NEED her wise words..

ouch.  I hate thinking about this, but she IS getting older,... 

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:44:19 AM   
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my grandmother has Alzheimers and it's been creeping up on her the past several years. i can't stand the thought of her experiencing the drastic decline towards the end -- i think for me, the thought of that is more horrible than her dying.
but at the same time, i find myself hoping "well maybe in a few months, in a few years, maybe SOMETHING will come along and no one will even have to think about it anymore."
my grandmother would never even consider assisted death, i'm sure. the values she and my grandfather grew up with and held onto do not include it as an option. but i think if people DO think of it as an option, it should be allowed.


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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:47:01 AM   
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I guess in the case of alzheimers you have time to think about it,assuming it is diagnosed reasonably early. So you would be able to discuss it with the sufferer at length, and with your other friends and family,you would have time to decide and have time to make peace with your decision.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:48:11 AM   
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As long as they are of sound mind I think you have to respect their decision.


That's not the only factor. There's also the point that the person has to come to their own decision, without external influence (such as someone rich being "convinced" by greedy relatives to jog on so they can inherit; not as crazy or rare a situation as it seems.

However, assuming (as you rightly say) that the person is of sound mind and also that they have not been subject to undue influence then yes, I would support an individual's right to choose their own fate, as I support people's right to choose their own fate in other areas of life (abortion, democracy, BDSM, etc.).

For some conditions I could easily see where I would choose to check-out, rather than stay. And, in one sense, my own grandmother did just that; after umpteen operations and treatments for cancer, and having had a very long and productive (and happy!) life, she told my mum one day "blow this for a game of tin soldiers", and starved herself to death within a week - her body weight at that stage was so low, and her system so unable to process nutrients due to her age and condition, that even a few days without food was enough to cause her heart to fail. She made it clear she did not wish to be fed intravenously, and asserted her right to a DNR clause, and that was that.

I respected her decision at the time, as did we all, and I'd support someone else doing the same thing.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:48:27 AM   
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If you had to be the person watching someone making this decision, how would you feel?

could you respect the decision?

I cant watch the video, sorry...

I could respect that persons decision, I could not be present tho.

My mothers wishes were that we do not resuscitate, she had a living will and certainly made it known to us and expected us to respect her wishes should it come to that. She used to be a nurse and didnt want to be connected to machines kept alive in a hospital. She wanted a fast death which is what she got so no one had to make that kind of decision.

Then there is the legal thing, no one wants to wind up in jail for helping someone. I believe euthanisia is legal in Oregon, imo, doing that anywhere else (where its not legal) would be risky.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:49:27 AM   
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I am against it for this reason. I think there would be to many elderly euthanised for less than humane reasons. The first one that comes to mind is financial gain for family members if they depart this earth sooner rather than later.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:53:29 AM   
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I agree, for ME in a similar position as Terry (or Andrew or Peter)..

I'm just not sure I could be as pragmatic as the families of those guys when it comes to Mom.

intellectually, yeah, no problem.. emotionally... not so much when it comes to Mom.. dammit, I want here HERE, I NEED her wise words..



But that's a selfish reason to keep someone around, especially someone you love.

If we truly love people then we have (I think) to allow them to make their own decisions if they choose to, especially if they're suffering, and one presumes someone of sound mind wouldn't choose assisted suicide unless they were suffering.

Obviously I’d hate that decision to be forced on, say, my own mother, but if that was the condition she was living in, where all quality of life was gone, or where she was demonstrably suffering without remission or hope of cure or coping, then that would be her choice, and I’d respect it.

And yes, I would be there at the end if she wanted me to be. For all the love, care and kindness she's shown me over the years it’s absolutely the least I could do, to hold her hand and tell her I loved her, as she went.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:53:52 AM   
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Then there is the legal thing, no one wants to wind up in jail for helping someone. I believe euthanisia is legal in Oregon, imo, doing that anywhere else (where its not legal) would be risky.

That really needs to be sorted out,there was a case recently, Debbie Purdy tried to get some laws changed. I believe suicide is legal but helping someone to die is not, no one has ever been prosecuted but the chance still exists that you could be

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:56:18 AM   
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Suicide is legal, helping someone to die is not. Must the law be changed?

Debbie Purdy and Michael Wenham, both living with terminal illnesses, put their opposing views ahead of this week's Lords debate




Debbie Purdy took part in the online debate





To be or not to be? More pertinently: is it a decision for the individual or the state? While suicide is legal in Britain, helping someone to die is not. In the past seven years, 115 Britons have travelled with the help of relatives and friends to the Swiss euthanasia clinic Dignitas to end their lives. Most were suffering from terminal conditions such as cancer and motor neurone disease, but last week it was revealed a small number had chronic but non-life-threatening conditions, including rheumatoid arthritis. Yet no one has ever been prosecuted.


The House of Lords debates an amendment to the Coroners and Justice Bill this week which seeks to set out the circumstances in which it would be legal to help someone to end their lives.

Debbie Purdy supports the amendment. A multiple sclerosis sufferer, she wants clarification of the circumstances under which her husband, and others like him, would be prosecuted if he helps her to end her life. Michael Wenham, who suffers from motor neurone disease, opposes it. The Independent on Sunday asked them to debate the issue via email.

Debbie Purdy (DP) Thousands of people have told me they wish me success because they need to know their decisions will be respected, so it's about more than just the man I love. A recent BBC poll showed that 4 per cent of the public think assisting should be an offence. I read that as 96 per cent of people think there are circumstances that should not result in prosecution, so we need to be clear what these circumstances are. Don't you agree that legal clarity is a minimum requirement?

Michael Wenham (MW) I read the poll differently but agree with you that the law and the way it's enforced needs to be clearly understood. But if you mean "clarified" as another word for changed, I don't agree. Assisting or encouraging someone to take their own life should not be enshrined in law. I understand you want the exceptions to the rule spelled out in black and white, so that people like yourselves know where you stand. My view is that you can't make hard and fast rules to cover every circumstance. Life, and death, is not like that. The clarity needed is a clear explanation of the present law and its application.

DP The current law says to counsel, procure, aid or abet suicide is unlawful, but suicide itself is OK. This means pushing my wheelchair, making travel arrangements or collecting medical data is illegal; even talking about it with my husband may be.

The law should specify a patient can apply to get medical or legal confirmation that it is their own choice to end their life with medical help. Without that prior application for help, the Director of Public Prosecutions (DPP) would be free to consider a prosecution. This is what I mean by "clarity". The amendment would not make it "easier" to go to Switzerland or commit suicide; that's already legal. What it would do is establish a framework for advance confirmation that this is the patient's decision and set out the help they can expect.

MW I don't see how it would prevent pressure from being applied to someone struggling with illness. Imagine a frail old lady, in a home, who has cancer, feels she's a burden to her family and says so. "It would be easier for everyone if I ended it all," she says. "Well, we wouldn't want to put pressure on you, but if you wanted we could arrange for you to see some doctors..." No obvious pressure from interested parties, just the subtle implication of not being wanted. This amendment would protect them when they took her to Switzerland, because the documents would all be in order. The present law is a strong deterrent to any such abuse of the vulnerable.

That leaves your dilemma. I know that to say "Trust the DPP to get it right" is not good enough for you. You don't. I'm not sure there is an answer with the guarantee you want, but then I'm not sure there are any guarantees in life, anyway.

The major flaw in the amendment is that it says assisting suicide for the terminally ill is allowed if a person travels abroad. Why on earth should it be considered differently in the UK? In effect it introduces into British law an entirely new principle.

That's the point, isn't it? As well as providing you with some reassurance, it's also a step towards legalising assisted suicide.

DP Common law in this country is not to prosecute people who assist loved ones going abroad to die, so "Granny" isn't protected now. The law needs to be framed in a way that is appropriate in 21st-century Britain with the safeguards that are needed here, not Switzerland. Many campaigners, including Dignity in Dying, want the law to apply only to those who have begun the process of dying, that is, who are terminally ill. I personally would argue for a law that provided assistance to the incurable/chronically ill who suffer unbearably and have reached the end of their tether. We need open public discussion and a law that says what it means and means what it says.

MW I wouldn't want to ask Jane [his wife] or any of my family to help me kill myself because I know they'd just absolutely hate it. I've written in My Donkey Body about how hard it is for them to watch me deteriorate and become completely dependent. I know it's purgatory for them but if I chose to end it all that would be worse, and worst of all would be if I asked them to have a part in that. It says that I was no longer of value to them, that they were no longer of value to me, that the pain and suffering outweighed their love. I know they don't think I've lost my dignity even when I'm incontinent, dribbling and incoherent. I don't believe they will when I'm much worse. But some are not so "lucky" – people suffering alone. What or who have they got to live for? That seems to me to be a failure of our society.

DP You have made a choice how you live your life and how you will face death. You find dignity in fighting motor neurone disease to your last breath. But someone else may find dignity in taking control of the time and manner of their death. I don't believe anyone else has the right to pass judgement on an individual's decision, which the law does.

"Assisted suicide" suggests someone giving up. It is always heartbreaking when a person loses faith in her/himself, and family and friends are consumed with regret at not having done "something". What we are talking about is "assisted dying", when someone facing the certainty of death or pain they cannot bear chooses to take control.

MW I often hear people arguing: "They're religious and trying to impose their views on the rest of us." That ducks the issue, which is: what is best for society? Everyone has beliefs. You believe God doesn't exist; I believe He does! The fact that the majority of the population say they believe in God isn't the point. The question is: does the law work at present in its purpose, or can it be improved? Palliative care has improved immeasurably. It's not perfect or uniformly good, but that's an argument for expanding and improving it, not offering euthanasia as an economical alternative.


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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:57:19 AM   
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I am against it for this reason. I think there would be to many elderly euthanised for less than humane reasons.


If the system is properly regulated, such as in the Swiss model, then that's not a problem. IIRC, under the Swiss model, a total of 3 clinicians, each SMEs, must all agree to the person's wishes, and even then you have to be assessed as sound of mind and uninfluenced by others. If there's even a hint someone is applying pressure then the request is denied, and I believe any subsequent application is vetted even more thoroughly.

In the US, with some of the culture of legal power and money-first, people-last attitudes then yes, I agree, it might be an issue, although not impossible to administer, one would hope.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 6:59:01 AM   
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I agree, for ME in a similar position as Terry (or Andrew or Peter)..

I'm just not sure I could be as pragmatic as the families of those guys when it comes to Mom.

intellectually, yeah, no problem.. emotionally... not so much when it comes to Mom.. dammit, I want here HERE, I NEED her wise words..



But that's a selfish reason to keep someone around, especially someone you love.

If we truly love people then we have (I think) to allow them to make their own decisions if they choose to, especially if they're suffering, and one presumes someone of sound mind wouldn't choose assisted suicide unless they were suffering.

Obviously I’d hate that decision to be forced on, say, my own mother, but if that was the condition she was living in, where all quality of life was gone, or where she was demonstrably suffering without remission or hope of cure or coping, then that would be her choice, and I’d respect it.

And yes, I would be there at the end if she wanted me to be. For all the love, care and kindness she's shown me over the years it’s absolutely the least I could do, to hold her hand and tell her I loved her, as she went.



I *said* it was selfish of me.. I recognize that, and am not PROUD of it.

I also recognize that Mom has taken it out of my hands, and I am good with that, because I dont want my selfishness to deprive her of her final wishes.

I WANT to be there at her last moments.. I am self aware enough to know that I'm not sure I could be the person who would determine when her final moments ARE, if she is not mentally sound enough to make that decision herself.

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 7:01:56 AM   
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hcm.. thank you for that post...

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RE: Assisted death - 7/7/2011 7:03:31 AM   
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I agree, for ME in a similar position as Terry (or Andrew or Peter)..

I'm just not sure I could be as pragmatic as the families of those guys when it comes to Mom.

intellectually, yeah, no problem.. emotionally... not so much when it comes to Mom.. dammit, I want here HERE, I NEED her wise words..

ouch.  I hate thinking about this, but she IS getting older,... 


If I want it for me, I have to grant others the same right, of course I would be cut to bits if my other half would be found with a terminal illness and decide that instead of suffering he rather wants to check out before his life is just pain, it cut me up whenever I had to let a pet go, it cut me up when my grandpa died and I supported him in his decision that he's not going to be put on life support (he had a series of strokes and couldn't move anymore, hardly talk and was just laying there, he wanted to go and he said before he would not want to be forced to be alive) which lead to a clash with the family, but to make somebody suffer because I can't bear to be without them. That wouldn't be love!

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