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youcanchoose -> Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:39:54 PM)
Simple question: How long should a dom and a sub know each other before moving into a 24/7 situation?

GreedyTop -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:40:47 PM)
there is no specific time frame.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:42:24 PM)
Exactly three months, 12 days, 18 hours, 39 minutes and five seconds.

coookie -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:45:22 PM)
holy shit i am way past-due! Oh well... when in doubt, throw it out. OP i would answer this question with another question... when do you and your significant other think that the relationship should move to a 24/7 arrangement?

littlewonder -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:47:53 PM)
pretty much the day we met

SorceressJ -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 9:52:36 PM)
What these folks are saying. The thing to remember is that this is a relationship, as individualized as any other, and that there is not nor should there be a 'time standard'. When and how things should happen is totally up to you and the other person, and accordingly only to your feelings and instinct; it can never be for anyone else to determine these things.

LadyPact -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 10:05:18 PM)
It completely depends on the situation. How much real time/partial living in the household are we talking about here?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 11:02:18 PM)
quote: pretty much the day we met Same here, there's a certain Wow!!! factor to being swept off your feet isn't there?

LafayetteLady -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 11:05:25 PM)
If this were a totally vanilla relationship, how long would you wait before moving in together?

IrishMist -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/9/2011 11:13:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Exactly three months, 12 days, 18 hours, 39 minutes and five seconds. Hmmm. I thought it was supposed to be 10 seconds? [:o]

MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 12:47:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youcanchoose Simple question: How long should a dom and a sub know each other before moving into a 24/7 situation? There's no answer to this... for some it's years, for others it's days -- I've seen both fail and succeed. While it's certainly always best to truly know who you're shacking up with, it's less about time, and more about the people involved.

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 1:13:55 AM)
It's when you both feel it's right to do so. No one can give you a specific time, you're either meant to live together or you're not. Easy peasy.

hangemhigh1953 -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 1:40:33 AM)
I would guess it's not much different than the time frame or strength of the relationship that it would take for a vanilla couple to live together.

akinkyone -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 7:30:20 AM)
When you know...you know. Do what feels right for you... The answers you get will vary based on the experience of the person responding...and the time frames will vary greatly. Always keeping safety a priority...do what feels right for you.

leadership527 -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 8:23:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA While it's certainly always best to truly know who you're shacking up with ... or ceding authority to... In my mind it isn't about time... it's about knowing the other person well enough to justify whatever trust is being placed in them... or... alternately.... going with the blind leap of faith strategy which, as noted above, can be a rush.

Arpig -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 8:31:26 AM)
quote: Exactly three months, 12 days, 18 hours, 39 minutes and five seconds. Didn't you get the memo? It's been increased to 12 seconds, due to union grievances.

SlaveKelly4life -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/10/2011 2:34:38 PM)
It's whatever the individual Dom and sub decide. No one time frame is best. But it should be only when BOTH of you feel ready.

Acer49 -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/11/2011 3:43:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: youcanchoose Simple question: How long should a dom and a sub know each other before moving into a 24/7 situation? When you and your partner both feel ready to handle all the responsibilities and compromises that come with being in a relationship and living together

crazyml -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/11/2011 3:44:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: IrishMist quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 Exactly three months, 12 days, 18 hours, 39 minutes and five seconds. Hmmm. I thought it was supposed to be 10 seconds? [:o] Yes, I'm dubious too, I'm pretty sure that if there are 31 days in the month, it's 10.

crazyml -> RE: Time before 24/7 (7/11/2011 3:51:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Acer49 When you and your partner both feel ready to handle all the responsibilities and compromises that come with being in a relationship and living together I think this nails it. If you're lucky enough to find yourself in the position of Littlewonder, you'd likely not be asking the question. a connection is so utterly complete that you simply know that you'll manage the responsibilities, compromises, change in lifestyle etc. But if you're asking the question then my advice its to sit down with your sig other and have a good talk about,, 1) How would it work economically (who pays, do you both sign the lease...) 2) How will the roles adapt to the new circumstances 3) What compromises are you both prepared to take ... and a shit load of other things. You might also consider a trial - a two week vacation together, if it works well it will provide a bit of an indication, if it sucks then you'll know for sure.

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