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leadership527 -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 7:56:47 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: coookie I can absolutely see your point here, especially about hiding places though i am not sure that i agree that there is a greater level of commitment from people just because they live together I'm with you here. The cohabitation angle matters to me because that physical proximity matters. It changes everything but it does so in subtle ways. I would say the same of vanilla husband and wife who did not live together. I'd be the last person in the world to say "They weren't truly married" but I'd be quick to say "Their marriage does not resemble mine". But extending that into things like "commitment" makes little sense in my mind. I'm thinking more about things like toilet seats and toothpaste tubes than whether people are committed to the relationship. From a control standpoint though, just as OsideGirl said, those stupid little details matter. What I do not know about I cannot control. There's just an awful lot of life happening when nobody's looking when the two people don't live together. Again though, what I do not understand is why "24/7" has turned into what it has. My understanding was that originally it was a label used to talk about dynamics which don't stop.... eg: not Top/bottom ones. That makes a lot of sense to me since I see a sharp distinction between "I'll boss you around during sex when we want to" and "I'll boss you around always". I'd just as soon leave the other things like "cohabitation" out of it since we already have perfectly good words to describe them. "We are a married, 24/7, cohabitating, TPE couple." I'd say that gives a pretty decent picture of Carol and I -- although I could probably leave TPE out since that also is pretty much meaningless.

NuevaVida -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 10:05:02 AM)
I'm not much of a fan of labels these days. Here's my scoop. My relationship is 24/7, even though I do not live with him yet. That's because it's on going - I don't stop being his when I walk out the door. I still live by his rule, without even thinking about it. That said, NOT living together is much different than living together. Cohabiting means working around each other, waking up to each other, getting him what he needs at any time, not going somewhere I might want to go because he wants to go somewhere else, cooking what he wants for dinner, watching what he wants on TV, snuggling up together...the energy between us is different when I'm staying with him than when I'm at my apartment. And I'm certain the energy between us when we're together will be different when I'm actually living there full time, as opposed to part time. At my apartment, I decide what's planted in the patio, the way the kitchen is set up, what color the bathroom is decorated, where the cat dish goes, and so on. I don't need to consider his schedule when making plans with family and friends. And so on... So if I had to define things, our relationship is 24/7 but we do not live together 24/7.

hejira92 -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 12:02:41 PM)
I have been 24/7 with Sir for 5 years, but we don't live together... yet. I totally agree with what Lady P said about the "real" nature of relationships, no matter where the participants may be physically. But I also see the difference that living together makes. This is one of the reasons I am so nervous about the changes we will go through when He moves in here. I know whatever happens will not cause anything dramatic, like a breakup- He will never let anything build up into that. But the adjustment period scares me. I have gotten used to "controlling" my own space and time- although His preferences always come first. When I am not in direct service, I can decide my schedule, what I eat, etc. All that will change when He lives here. I know this whole thing is bigger in my mind than in reality. As He likes to say, He is a Master, not a monster. And He has already said that, when He's here, we will hang the toilet paper the way I like it. lol! So, to the OP- 24/7 is wherever you feel it. You just may feel it more acutely in the same household.

BossyShoeBitch -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 2:32:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hejira92 I have been 24/7 with Sir for 5 years, but we don't live together... yet. I totally agree with what Lady P said about the "real" nature of relationships, no matter where the participants may be physically. But I also see the difference that living together makes. This is one of the reasons I am so nervous about the changes we will go through when He moves in here. I know whatever happens will not cause anything dramatic, like a breakup- He will never let anything build up into that. But the adjustment period scares me. I have gotten used to "controlling" my own space and time- although His preferences always come first. When I am not in direct service, I can decide my schedule, what I eat, etc. All that will change when He lives here. I know this whole thing is bigger in my mind than in reality. As He likes to say, He is a Master, not a monster. And He has already said that, when He's here, we will hang the toilet paper the way I like it. lol! So, to the OP- 24/7 is wherever you feel it. You just may feel it more acutely in the same household. Wasn't it also him who talked about making a molehill out of a mountain?

BitaTruble -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 8:59:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: coookie Do you think that in order to have a 24/7 power exchange dynamic relationship that the couple has to live together? If I can't physically execute his commands then I would not call myself 24/7. It's not just mindset for us, it's also about service and my brain doesn't separate the one from the other. What other folks call their dynamic has no bearing on what we do as a couple nor should what we do as a couple have any bearing on some other relationship.

SexyBossyBBW -> RE: 24/7 in different households? (7/11/2011 10:06:03 PM)
I don't believe 24/7 requires living together. I believe it requires great communication, consistent connection, and trust. I don't have to witness an order has been executed, if I trust he is an honest human being, not yanking my chain. M

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