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louissir -> "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:23:02 PM)
Oh jeez..do we all take ourselves too seriously or what? I met a sub, had a few conversations, was thinking we might have some kind of connection, and then..no communication. We love to get into the drama of our dom/subness...like it is important or something! "I AM A DOM..LORD MASTER BLACK HAWK OF THE WHATEVER FOREST"...or...I am "intriguing slave girl" or what the fuck ever. It really doesn't matter who...life is short..if you are hardwired to be dom or sub..then DO it. I see folks getting into the 'style' of this to distract them from fulfilling themselves. This girl....who says currently unavailable? .has NEVER been available..has some goofy out of state dom..and,,,life goes on..... Don't deal in lazy communication..have manners..and communicate in an adult way! (whew..got that off my chest..(laughing)...Take care y'all)

littlewonder -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:28:32 PM)
soooo she has a dom and you're angry that she won't respond to you....hhhmmm

DarkSteven -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:29:36 PM)
She stopped communicating, so you tell us the whole story and tell us that WE need to take this less seriously? Dude, that's par for the course. People quit communicating sometimes. Hell, once after two months of phoning, I had a woman tell me she'd come out to Colorado and would stay if she liked it, and then nothing.

sirsholly -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:30:16 PM)
i am not sure where you are going with this....do you have a question or are you just venting? You state you had a few conversations and felt there might be a connection, but that statement is followed by your acknowledgment that she never has been available. i iz all confuzed[:)]

louissir -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:35:18 PM)
oh hell..just venting..with a bottle of wine in me no less..(ha!)..in the big spiritual picture..it really doesn't matter..all I will leave with ..is we are so much more than just a 'dom'..or a 'sub'. Being gracious and having manners in every area of our life might just be the main thing. That is my main issue...where are the manners? But hey..have a great life!

peppermint -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:35:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louissir This girl....who says currently unavailable? .has NEVER been available..has some goofy out of state dom..and,,,life goes on..... Don't deal in lazy communication..have manners..and communicate in an adult way! (whew..got that off my chest..(laughing)...Take care y'all) It seems to me she communicated exactly what she meant. She is unavailable to you or another other Dominant. She is on an adult web site. She didn't hide the fact that she is not available. Why is that rude? Why do you think you have the right to say her Dom is goofy? Does being out of state make someone goofy? Does that fact that he is a Dom make him goofy? It would seem that somehow your ego got hurt. For some reason you feel the need to put down this girl and her Dom. Seems that you are the one who needs to grow up and find some manners.

DarkSteven -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:37:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louissir oh hell..just venting..with a bottle of wine in me no less..(ha!)..in the big spiritual picture..it really doesn't matter..all I will leave with ..is we are so much more than just a 'dom'..or a 'sub'. Being gracious and having manners in every area of our life might just be the main thing. That is my main issue...where are the manners? But hey..have a great life! You spoke with a taken woman and think that SHE has poor manners for dropping the conversation?!?!!?!?

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:39:00 PM)
quote: Don't deal in lazy communication..have manners..and communicate in an adult way! I very strongly suggest you heed your own advice in the bolded sections of the part of your post that I quoted above. If you would do that, then perhaps I would have an idea what the point of your post might be.

louissir -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:40:22 PM)
thats my point..manners..or lack of them..and this is not just in a bdsm site..it is everyday life..we call ourselves adults..but we act..like whiny kids..me included!..ha!

HeatherMcLeather -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:42:06 PM)
quote: me included!..ha! Indeed you do.

sunshinemiss -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:44:52 PM)
We're all assholes at some point. It's currently your turn. Maybe mine next. Who knows?

louissir -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:45:26 PM)
huh?..you read a short post and you are an instant dr. Laura?..If there is a constant in CM and Alt. is 'many' subs can not communicate like an adult. Or have manners. I think it is because they are jaded by all the knuckleheads out there. Being bombarded by assholes. I ALWAYS speak in a respectful manner..so it bugs me when a line of communications drops.

bamabbwsub -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:45:41 PM)
quote: ...we are so much more than just a 'dom'..or a 'sub'. Being gracious and having manners in every area of our life might just be the main thing. That is my main issue...where are the manners? I understand your rant. However, what you may want to keep in mind is that before we are ever Doms, subs, Masters, slaves, switches, whatever...we are human first, with all of the human weaknesses and follies that follow. Unfortunately, one of those follies is that humans are sometimes/often rude. Her being unavailable -- or as DS mentioned, having someone just disappear -- is a sad reality of online meet and greet sites, be they vanilla or BDSM.

louissir -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:47:17 PM)
sigh..if she was taken i wouldn't have spoken with her..other than to say hi. It doesn't matter...

louissir -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:49:31 PM)
THANK YOU! an adult! a normal reply without trying to be right or making me wrong...I wish you the best.

peppermint -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:50:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louissir I ALWAYS speak in a respectful manner..so it bugs me when a line of communications drops. So, it is respectful to call someone you have never met goofy because the person is a Dom and lives out of state? It is respectful to call someone rude because she is not interested in playing with you when you'd hoped she would? Please Miss Manners, we need help here. Is nasty the new respectful?

sirsholly -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 9:52:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: louissir sigh..if she was taken i wouldn't have spoken with her..other than to say hi. It doesn't matter... So she isnt taken? Then is there a reason for posting the following? quote: ORIGINAL: louissir This girl....who says currently unavailable? .has NEVER been available..has some goofy out of state dom..

coookie -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 10:51:49 PM)
I'm cuntfused.

myotherself -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/10/2011 10:54:44 PM)
You post on cm and you take the risk that you'll get responses you don't want. And I pretty much guarantee that the thread will linger on loooong after you've decided it's been talked to death. That's the nature of online communication. For the life of me I can't figure out your problem here, even making allowances for your drunkenness. She's not yours. She made it clear. She got tired of you. She dropped you. If that gets your panties in a bunch, along with all those 'many' subs who are so immature in their communications with you, perhaps you're not ready for online dating yet? You would be better off going out to places where you can have face to face communication with 'real' people rather than doing your thing online.

PeonForHer -> RE: "currently unavailable"..??? (7/11/2011 2:34:56 AM)
It's good that you've kept your sense of humour about it, louissir. That's crucial, in all this business. Better luck next time . . . .

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