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Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:21:02 PM

fantasy69maker

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Reading other threads has brought me to ask.
WHY?
It would seem the pairings would be ;
master/slave
Dom/sub/
Sadist/masochist.
Top/bottom
If you cross those pairings Id like to know why,

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:22:57 PM

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well... people are multifaceted; they can be a bunch of those things at once...

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:23:16 PM

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Because we burned the rule book and because we can. What does it matter?

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:25:59 PM

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because I'm hard-wired as a masochistic slave.

Nothing else to add, really.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:26:29 PM

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I'll take one from Column A and one from Column B.

Seriously, people mesh for numerous reasons and the BDSM fit is not the sole criterion.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 12:36:02 PM

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What Steven said.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 1:15:56 PM

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Nobody told me it was an Either/or thing. and you don't include switch, which also confuses me, but i have, at some time in my life switched. i tend, in fully submissive fashion, tend to do things which please or amuse my Domme. i have rarely fit into a preformed description in any part of my life

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 1:21:52 PM

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For the OP: All of the above.

BTW: Do more research, you have loads to learn.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 1:56:24 PM

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Because my sadist just also happens to be a dominant. Oh, and she's really pretty, has a rocking hot body, is funny, sweet, smart, and I'm in love with her.

<It doesn't hurt that she really knows her way around a pussy either. Purrrrrrrrrr!>

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 2:54:54 PM

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Master is a sadist
I am not a masochist. I don't enjoy pain or it takes a lot a lot of warmup to get me close to liking it.

Why am I with him? Because I love him and he enjoys my suffering for him.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 3:15:18 PM

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Lilly actually nailed this in the first response, in My opinion.

There's something about this question that makes Me wonder if there isn't some inkling of a soft voice in the background that's asking, "but how can a non masochist want to be with that sadist, rather than a loving, gentle Dom, and now that you mention it, I'd be so much better for you". Did this question happen to come up because you are wondering why some submissives are passing you up when you feel you are much better suited to them than the men they have actually chosen?

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 3:24:30 PM

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The world isn't black and white and neither are people. So you really can't sort people into just two categories or lists.
Every individual is unique as are their motives and tastes.

Nothing wrong with being a horse of a different color.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:11:35 PM

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Hmm. I do what I do because I can. I'm a switch....a sadistic Domme and a masochistic sub. Also, I Top people sometimes and I bottom once in awhile for someone Daddy's showing how to do things. But Master/slave is too extreme for me. Yeah, it's all good. I choose to live outside the box.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:37:13 PM

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What if you happen to be a
Sub with slave tendencies, who is a sadistic masochist, that mostly bottoms but occasionally tops?

Mixes happen.
I am hispanic/french/indian. My exhusband is german/irish/polish/. Our kids... Heinz 57.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:44:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

What if you happen to be a
Sub with slave tendencies, who is a sadistic masochist, that mostly bottoms but occasionally [middles]?

i edited it a smidge to fit, but that's basically me there. =p
i think it would be kinda silly to say "but if you're a sub, you should be a with a Dom, not a Sadist" -- well what if a Dom IS a sadist? =p
oooor what if a sub is a sadist?
what if a sub is also an aspiring slave? =p
what if a Master likes to bottom on occasion and his slave functions as a service top? what if that slave also owns her own pet, and whomps on the pet, too? =p

i mean come on, OP.
seriously?

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:47:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

What if you happen to be a
Sub with slave tendencies, who is a sadistic masochist, that mostly bottoms but occasionally tops?

Then I'd say you're a complete fake and should leave the lifestyle immediately before us real Dom types get confused.

I bet you're only here trolling for pictures for the University of Sydney.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:48:49 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I bet you're only here trolling for pictures for the University of Sydney.

rats! foiled again!

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 4:56:26 PM

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People like to ask all sorts of esoteric questions and hope for a simplistic answer instead of asking whomever they would like to be involved with the right questions.

We are a society of labels; unfortunately not everyone or everything fits neatly inside them.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 7:55:16 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Lilly actually nailed this in the first response, in My opinion.

There's something about this question that makes Me wonder if there isn't some inkling of a soft voice in the background that's asking, "but how can a non masochist want to be with that sadist, rather than a loving, gentle Dom, and now that you mention it, I'd be so much better for you". Did this question happen to come up because you are wondering why some submissives are passing you up when you feel you are much better suited to them than the men they have actually chosen?

OMG. I used to get that all the time when we first got together. Master has a reputation as a hardcore sadist and while I have masochistic tendencies, I can't play on his level.

Guys in the community acted like it was a public service announcement to tell me how hard he played, forgetting that we had been friends for 3 years before we dated. Then once we became engaged some people actually made monetary bets on how long we would last.

So why are we together? Because it works.

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RE: Why are You a Submissive with a Sadist? - 7/13/2011 9:46:29 PM

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Actually I have opted into a nilla with a really wicked past.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Missokyst

What if you happen to be a
Sub with slave tendencies, who is a sadistic masochist, that mostly bottoms but occasionally tops?

Then I'd say you're a complete fake and should leave the lifestyle immediately before us real Dom types get confused.

I bet you're only here trolling for pictures for the University of Sydney.

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