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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 5/30/2006 3:53:57 PM   
FloridaISIS


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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s

Because of the Daddy Dom role I have added to my evolution I often during session will use who's daddys nastty lil fuck bitch... or other special terms ... you like Daddys cock rammed in your face don't you my cock gobbling lil cum slut .. hell I'll even use your Daddys lil fuck pig aren't slut .. and ram it a bit harder ... but when all is said and done ... I get real close to her ear and whisper deep so the air of my voice rushes past her ear and simply say ... your Daddys aren't you? ....

Now Will someone get a mop for clean up around here

Clean up on Aisle 5 please, we need the wet vac

I would love to hear, "You love it when Daddy impales you with his big, thick cock, Don't you my babygirl?" Oh yesssss, Daddy, please Daddy can I have some more?" Four hrs later, I can hear him still whispering this in my ear.

Not too keen on oral ramming, and being made to gag and choke on it, but having him put it in front of me and tease and deny me, til I wanna scream, and then hear, "You like Daddy's cock don't you My lil cum gobbler...EAT my little bitch, next we'll see about that protein injection. You'd like that wouldn't you my little slut?"
Milk it DOES a body good.
Backs away and hides her face in her hands...Did i really  just say all that?

edited:  There is a flip side to this for me

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ORIGINAL: candystripper

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ORIGINAL: Slipstreme

I personally can't stand name calling because I was at the brunt of it for my entire childhood. It is taking me a while getting used to the fact my roomate likes to be called names for me to even think about doing it to another person because they want it.


i agree with Slipstream, for the same reasons.  i think i would wish/want/need to be accomodated on this matter.
 
candystripper

I didn't deal with it in my childhood too much, but  my ex did a number on me.   I love scenes like the ones I mentioned, but if he's yelling at me and tries to get into extreme humiliation then I'd stop dead in my tracks and shut down on him.
It boils down to really knowing your sub and what their triggers are.  Physical  scars we can see, but the emotional scars you have to probe deeper to see.

< Message edited by FloridaISIS -- 5/30/2006 4:09:19 PM >

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 5/30/2006 3:58:12 PM   
SilentHunter


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Status: offline 		Being goreans (roleplay and reallife) slut is the norm, at home its girl, or slut. I rarely use her given name unless we are outside or at parents etc, if we are talking within a D/s or gorean i may use her given name that I gave her (trysori - means treasure in Welsh) which is close to both of us.
 
 The cunt, slut, whore words are mainly used during sex, or mainly when she has begged for and recieved permission to orgasm, (please don't think people that I use them on people i don't know lol, I don't. Except if they deserve it by being a wanker) so its the hightened sexual sense. Depending on how the word is used being in a sexual sense for pleasure, or being used for humiliation in the day to day use. I don't agree with calling someone a whore or cunt for day to day use, (i know slut is used, but its within us both for sexual pleasures).
 
If you read trys's blog posts, (addy supplied upon request) you would see a certain lack of swearing, growing up with the new PC thing, I  hated hearing a female swearing, mum never swore lol, the army brought both males and females together and the language was disgusting, maybe just me with the gorean thing. Sometimes she swears but only to annoy me or to earn *spanks* but thats a different thread,  ............... maybe i should start one .

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 5/31/2006 4:22:22 AM   
keme


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Status: offline 		I don't know I have never been called names by a lover but I know one that I called an officer that really ticked me off before was cum junkie... if anyone likes that feel free...lol

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/1/2006 6:58:20 AM   
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When He uses the word 'Mine'.
When He calls me by my full name without shortening it.
my .dark.
my dark queen
my whore
slut
my beloved
my love
m'lady
my angel / angel of mine
horny bitch
bloodlusting little bitch
precious cumslut/ my cum loving angel
lustbunny
imzadi (ok so I am a geek)
siren
 
Peace and Rapture
 



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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 6:33:35 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		I personally don't use these special pet names when I am angry .. I choose to be in control that way as well ... I 99% of the time will simply walk away and come talk to you when I have gained a logical approach to dealing with how you make me angry . the use of thosenames while angry .. well thats just ruins it when it's used in play now doesn't it ... Daddys lil girl gets all sorts of special names but when ngry she gets the silent treatment till I am ready to speak

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 7:10:07 PM   
Calandra


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quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS
if he's yelling at me and tries to get into extreme humiliation then I'd stop dead in my tracks and shut down on him. It boils down to really knowing your sub and what their triggers are.  Physical  scars we can see, but the emotional scars you have to probe deeper to see.


I was so confused for many years because as a FemDomme, I had male slaves begging me to verbally humiliate them and I just couldn't go beyond that "point". I'd literally shut down emotionally.
 
I finally realized that the same mental processes I'd developed to survive childhood abuse were still with me. It didn't matter who was saying those horrible things, inside my head I was reliving the horrible humiliation I lived as a child.
 
I simply do not need to ever expose myself to the heavy verbal humiliation... isn't it awesome that there are subs out there who don't want it?

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 8:24:39 PM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		as I have always said Calandra . it's not how long we walk this journey . it's how we deal with and over come the obstacles along the way .. I have talked with many who have dealt with child hood abuse . and I truely feel for them . I never personmally dealt with that ... but find disgust for those that would either verbally or physically abuse a child. you mighyt want to try facing those fears head on ... and when your all said and done girl ... look yourself in the mirror and say ... "I'M over it now" ... you'll feel tons better.

< Message edited by Tamerofwild1s -- 6/3/2006 8:25:29 PM >

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 9:09:44 PM   
FloridaISIS


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ORIGINAL: Calandra

quote:

ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS
if he's yelling at me and tries to get into extreme humiliation then I'd stop dead in my tracks and shut down on him. It boils down to really knowing your sub and what their triggers are.  Physical  scars we can see, but the emotional scars you have to probe deeper to see.


I was so confused for many years because as a FemDomme, I had male slaves begging me to verbally humiliate them and I just couldn't go beyond that "point". I'd literally shut down emotionally.
 
I finally realized that the same mental processes I'd developed to survive childhood abuse were still with me. It didn't matter who was saying those horrible things, inside my head I was reliving the horrible humiliation I lived as a child.
 
I simply do not need to ever expose myself to the heavy verbal humiliation... isn't it awesome that there are subs out there who don't want it?


Calandra, it took me a long time before I could speak down to a sub. I know how being called such names cuts right through me, and I couldn't understand how a male could derive such pleasure from being called such names, but now if it's what the sub craves I have no problem with it.

However, I still have problems when a Dom verbally humiliates me. The job my ex did on me, even 12 yrs later, is still fresh in my mind.  With counseling I thought I buried it deep, but it reared it's ugly head a few months ago during a  humiliation and oral ramming scene. The combo of verbal humilation, oral ramming/choking,  hair pulling and near panic attack from it all left me in utter hysterics. I was an unconsoleable mess for over an hour.  The feelings of guilt and shame in letting this Dom down totally unraveled me.  Twas a lesson well learned. I now have some addt'l hard limits. Personally, I know that  my past abuse no matter how far I stuff it down can be triggered a bit too easily for my liking.

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ORIGINAL: Tamerofwild1s
I personally don't use these special pet names when I am angry .. I choose to be in control that way as well ... I 99% of the time will simply walk away and come talk to you when I have gained a logical approach to dealing with how you make me angry . the use of thosenames while angry .. well thats just ruins it when it's used in play now doesn't it ... Daddys lil girl gets all sorts of special names but when ngry she gets the silent treatment till I am ready to speak


Knowing when  both parties have had enough and when to pull the plug on a scene is essential. As Dominants we always have to outweigh whether our sheer pleasure should ever come at the sub's mental well being. I think almost all would say Never. 

Tamer, losing Daddy's approval is about the most heart breaking thing this one has ever dealt with. Knowing he's so displeased or upset with his babygirl that he doesn't want to talk, or even look at me cuts me to right to the core. It's not something I ever want a repeat of.

A lil off topic, but can anyone tell me how i can use my own picture as my avatar or direct me to a thread that might explain it? 

< Message edited by FloridaISIS -- 6/3/2006 9:13:53 PM >

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 9:31:43 PM   
timeoutgurlie


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Status: offline 		He speaks another language, so for him to teach me a word, then use it on me later on...there's just something about being in that kind of moment and hearing words spoken in a foreign language that gets to me in the best way

If only learning nonsexual words were so easy...maybe that's his plan

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 9:35:16 PM   
FloridaISIS


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Status: offline 		I love when a sub or Dom teaches me all those foreign words you won't find in the dictionary. It's very erotic to use and hear them. Makes one perk right up, or is that melt right in their hands?

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 9:43:13 PM   
Sinergy


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Status: offline 		Hello A/all,

While it is fun to call names and express angry sentiments while butt-raping the one wearing the cheerleader uniform, I personally dont think anger or being emotionally out of control is particularly Dominant in nature.  As Peyton Quinn once wrote, "Either you are in control of yourself, or somebody else is."

Just me, etc.

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/3/2006 10:08:25 PM   
timeoutgurlie


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ORIGINAL: FloridaISIS

I love when a sub or Dom teaches me all those foreign words you won't find in the dictionary. It's very erotic to use and hear them. Makes one perk right up, or is that melt right in their hands?


Why choose?  Be greedy, take both

The foreign stuff is very nice, especially with someone who speaks a language fluently, and can teach you slang terms that wouldn't be included in any purchased tape or class setting.  I always get a good laugh now when his family is around and speaking their language and they ask me when I'll learn...if they only knew the lessons he gives me  lol

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/4/2006 8:35:23 AM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		ISIS .. that pretty much is the point of me walking away while angry . its double eged ... A) I gather internally how I need to approach my disappointment and B) the slave feels disappointed inside with herself but I do not let it fester too long . as it's been said .. we need to know when enough is enough

one thing I hhave learned is that we should not let fear control us .. we should learn to face the fear .... when I was a child I had a strong fear of hieghts ..... I couldn't even sit in the lowest branch on the tree without an anxiety attack ... to solve this dillema I walked the inside stairs of thestatue of liberty ... walked to the edge and held the railing .. did not let go till Iwas able to smile and yelled over the edge ..... YOU WILL NOT BEAT ME. calmly walked back down the stairs and smiled all the way home.

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/4/2006 8:40:34 AM   
FloridaISIS


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Status: offline 		Tamer,
so maybe I need to find a Dom who will gradually ease me into things. Instead of pulling my hair, run his hands through it, and then as he's treating me lovingly and talking sweet to me gently tighten his grip. As for bondage, gently hold my wrists rather than grab them so tight I scream.
We already went over the words I love to hear during humiliation. Just have to find the right man who's willing to ease me into everything, so I don't end up with another panic attack.
Awwwww the love of a Daddy
**still trying to figure out how to get my pic to post. I have the photobucket code, but it won't post.

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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/4/2006 9:22:48 AM   
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I just emailed you on your profile side about your imageprobs ... (didnt want to hijack thread)


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RE: name calling [not for everyone] - 6/4/2006 10:37:40 AM   
Tamerofwild1s


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Status: offline 		when ever your dealing with a new slave there are issues that need to be eased into ... because you have experience with one Master or Dom doesn't mean your experienced for me . I like bondage thats not restraining cause its too tight . I prefer the kinda bondage where your own body holds it tight if that makes sense .... my ropes won't bind . but they will hold you tight ... and I always ease into things .. leading you into the action always works better then just thrusting you into it .... you relaxed and more comfy . and then once the comfy is there then some harder efforts can be applied .. but something tells me we're getting off the thread . as far as your pic . it might have to do with yoursettings for the forum

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