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Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:28:51 PM

sexiestsub

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Ok well, frankly my Master isn't very good. He is hardly controlling, demanding, or dominant. He just seems like a very lazy Master. So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:31:03 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexiestsub

Ok well, frankly my Master isn't very good. He is hardly controlling, demanding, or dominant. He just seems like a very lazy Master. So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

Wow. Like no troll's tried that one before.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:32:58 PM

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Why would you be "stuck" with him? If he were a boyfriend or a husband you would be able to be single again, wouldn't you?

Didn't you know this person well enough to know whether or not he was the right Master for you before you decided to give him that place in your life? Maybe next time, you'll do a better job of it.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:37:28 PM

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You might as well trade him in for a new model. I bet he's contemplating the same for you.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:37:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sexiestsub

So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

Did you save the receipt?

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:46:29 PM

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This is someone you chose to be your master. Why did you choose him? So, assuming that you will figure out that you can vote with your feet, the big question is how are you going to choose better next time?
Do you know what you want?
Do you know what you have to offer?

What is submission to you?
What is mastery to you?

You may have a master to finds that you are too much work and has given up. Many dominant partners don't actually have to demand that their submissive partners do anything because their partners obey them.
It sounds like you are looking for a particular type of dominance and your master is another type. That is not laziness. That is incompatibility.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:54:30 PM

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Ok well, frankly my Master isn't very good. He is hardly controlling, demanding, or dominant. He just seems like a very lazy Master. So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

Ok, well frankly, your post sounds like it was written by an immature child instead of an adult.

It boggles my mind to see this type of question from a grown up.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:57:34 PM

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If you got him at Kohls, they will take it back without a receipt.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 2:59:43 PM

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quote:

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Ok well, frankly my Master isn't very good. He is hardly controlling, demanding, or dominant. He just seems like a very lazy Master. So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

Well, one would assume that if you have gotten to the point of calling him Master, you know and trust him fairly well. Perhaps that didn't happen. Like LadyPact said, you will now know better for next time. I don't know that many people take the term "Master" lightly. It might be worth considering who exactly you are bestowing with that title and the importance of it to both of you. I assume it's more than just a playful title for the bedroom or you wouldn't be asking your question.

But, if you do know and trust him fairly well and he just pissed you off and you came on here to feel justified in your leaving him, of course - leave if you want to - or, stay and talk to him. I think it's kind of a silly question, really.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 3:14:50 PM

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If he all ready doesn't have you tied to the bed, run.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 3:15:15 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BonesFromAsh

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So, my question is- Can I get a new one or am I stuck with him?

Did you save the receipt?

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 3:19:27 PM

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I agree, it was a dumb move to submit to a man as your Master unless you knew him well enough to know he truly was a Master. No, you do not have to stay with him. Technically, you should ask him to release you, but it would be illegal of him to hold you against your will (at least in most countries). Find a new Master and be smart about it this time.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 3:37:18 PM

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Technically, you should ask him to release you...

Oh give me a fucking break with this "ask him to release you" crap... anyone with two legs can head for the door at any time.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 3:51:19 PM

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anyone with two legs can head for the door at any time.

THIS.

If he tries to stop you by force, then you have a problem. This can then be solved by calling law enforcement and/or your local domestic abuse group, who will help you leave your situation safely, which you should then do without looking back.

It would also be best to take the above advice and ask yourself, what real life D/s means to you, and do not submit again until you have answered that question inside yourself, without worrying about the opinions of others. You are obligated to yourself and your own well-being to do so. Slaves are human beings too, all delusions to the contrary aside. Only when you have considered this in truth should you look for a new and better Master. If you are not yet able to answer this question, and/or if this is just a game to you, then either don't bother, or look for a play partner whose only ambition is like yours, to have fun.

EDITED to add: Masters/Dominants are people, too. If you actually give a damn about this person, instead of whining about how "lazy" your current Master is, ask what may be the underlying problem. Perhaps He is worried or stressed about something. Perhaps He isn't feeling well. Perhaps He is reconsidering His role in life, or having some other sort of personal crisis.
D/s is a caring partnership. A good slave who isn't just roleplaying should take that into her consideration.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 4:29:20 PM

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 4:32:02 PM

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get a fucking grip woman,sod all the Master and slave nonsense. Why the hell would you stay in a relationship that by your admission sucks?

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 4:33:53 PM

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Thank you to everyone who responded so far. I am very new to this lifestyle (only a couple months) and this is my first Master/slave relationship. I entered into it very quickly. Now I know that I would do it totally different. I guess a type of trial period to see if we are suited for each other would have been the best thing. Anyway one responder said that I may be "too much work" and believe me that is not the case. I am very submissive and obey everything he says (which is really nothing). And the sex is very vanilla by the way too. This is not what I had envisioned at all. I guess I will ask him to release me. I am a litte scared though.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 4:40:17 PM

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Don't be scared just finish the relationship. It's clearly not a "real" D/s thing,just end it the same way you would any other unfullfilling relationship....if you are truely scared of him then make sure someone else is there or at least knows what is going on

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 4:56:40 PM

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if your needs aren't being met, there's not a lot of reason to stay.
next time, take more time to consider what you're looking for -- did you accept a collar WITHOUT a "trial period to see if [you] are suited for each other"? at least now you've learned that that's not a good idea. ^_^
better luck next time around.

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RE: Master sucks - 7/18/2011 5:29:03 PM

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@ Dark Steven.....always a pleasure to read your witty comments...at sexist sub.....do you always jump in the waters before you know the depth or the currents?? Seems like you BOTH need to have some real discussions about what is and what is NOT working for either of you....BUT as many people have pointed out....including yourself, you're newbies,and THE same door IN leads OUT....so walk out the door,and test the waters before you surrender to them.

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