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LadyConstanze -> RE: Appropriate Punishment (7/21/2011 2:29:50 PM)
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Actually, I could totally sort of go with that, if it's a one off, as long as he doesn't bring anything home (feelings, her smell, anything infectious, etc.) and it's done and over, I wouldn't want to know - why would I? In fact I think a lot of the "confessions" are totally unfair on the partner that was cheated upon. The cheater will feel better "I told her, fessed up..." and the person who was cheated upon will be the one dealing with it, mulling it over, wondering if the other one was maybe more attractive, better in bed, more alluring, doubt herself and possibly go out and do the same and feel shit and it will kill the relationship. Sod it, if somebody cheats on their partner they should live with the damned guilt issue on your own, no need to make the partner more miserable with confessions and stuff - that is if it is a one off and it really has no meaning. You were a big boy and fucked somebody else all on your own, now deal with the guilt all on your own and don't burden me with your confession!
I recall proposing those terms, with equal rights and he was shit scared that I might take liberty and decided he rather wants a monogamous relationship.
Over a long time with feelings or even a one off without protection - I would have to ask the question "How much do you want to keep the family jewels? Look, it's a blunt knife..."
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