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ORIGINAL: trubblemaker
I have every intention of telling his girlfriend. I think she deserves to know. If he was chasing me for a year he certainly has been chasing others, and will continue to do so. But I am enjoying the mental torture I have subjected him mto and moreso what I *could* do. I have so much information, his business associates, his girlfriend, his friends. he posts very actively online in his line of business and uses the internet to promote it (as does his girlfriend), so he's just an easy target.  It's very sadistic, and when I think of him being ruined, losing his girlfriend, being embarrassed, all the shame and humiliation I could cause him - I have to be honest I get almost giddy at the thought of destroying him and teaching him a lesson about lying.

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix


Wow, people really get this caught up in the shit that happens online?

You asked what I would have done... I would have gotten a life long before I ever lost a wink of sleep over something that happened on my computer. Watching grass grow is more exciting to me than online drama. Someone on line actually lied? Go figure. I believe maybe 10% of what goes on on a computer screen in the first place, so it really barely effects me at all when I find someone lied. I *might* take the time to shrug. Maybe. If I'm really bored at the moment. I'm the queen of the block and ignore features and don't hesitate to use them.

As for ruining his life... I know you didn't ask, but you posted about it, which opens the door for unwanted comment on the topic. I have to admit, I found this entire part of your post rather disturbing.

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ORIGINAL: trubblemaker
I have every intention of telling his girlfriend. I think she deserves to know. If he was chasing me for a year he certainly has been chasing others, and will continue to do so. But I am enjoying the mental torture I have subjected him mto and moreso what I *could* do. I have so much information, his business associates, his girlfriend, his friends. he posts very actively online in his line of business and uses the internet to promote it (as does his girlfriend), so he's just an easy target.  It's very sadistic, and when I think of him being ruined, losing his girlfriend, being embarrassed, all the shame and humiliation I could cause him - I have to be honest I get almost giddy at the thought of destroying him and teaching him a lesson about lying.

I find ruining someone's life to be more a reflection on the person doing it than the victim. It speaks to your character, your integrity, your values (or lack thereof). It shows that you can't be trusted with information. It shows that you are vindictive, selfish, and uncaring. It shows that you have issues, way too much free time on your hands, and that you take things very personally.

So the guy lied to you. Big fuckin deal. People lie all the time. People use the internet to live out different lives. How did this all really effect your life? Did you lose a spouse? Did you lose your children? Did you lose your job? Did your family and friends turn their backs on you? Was your public reputation discreditted? Were you excommunicated from your church?

How exactly were you negatively impacted besides the fact that someone lied?

His lying doesn't give you the right to ruin his life. I don't condone his lying, but in this scenario, I'd take his side and stand in his defense because you are wanting to meet out cruelty that in no way compares to his level of dishonesty. And you're getting off on it. He is the lesser of the two evils. He tells lies. You torment, torture, humiliate, shame, break up relationships, cause unemployment, and destroy lives. What makes your actions any more dignified than his?

Do you believe anyone who ever tells a lie should have their lives completely ruined?
Do you believe you are the 'chosen one' that should hold liars accountable for their actions?

You phrased yourself like you were punishing your submissive for an infraction. However, your scenario has absolutely nothing to do with D/s, power exchange, consensuality, or the lifestyle. Someone misrepresented himself to you and now you want to get revenge. That's a far cry different than punishing someone's subbie for an infraction.

Quite frankly, based on your post here, I'd have nothing to do with you, nor would I allow mine to have anything to do with you. I see you as someone who can't be trusted and if we happened to piss you off or disagree with you online, you might decide to ruin our lives as well.

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I'm not looking for advice. And I certainly don't want to be lectured. I'm just curious how others would react to the same scenario.