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LadyPact -> RE: Blame the Dom (7/27/2011 7:24:31 AM)
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
I think here on the boards the male doms get blamed pretty darned often, mostly b/c 90% of the time it's the fem subs who come on here whining, and wringing their hands, and asking for advice. We only have her side, and like many such stories they are skewed to put the teller in a more favorable light. So as a group, we tend to blame the dom, since he/she is supposed to be who is accountable, anyway.
JMO, YMMV
I think you hit the target on that one.
Here on the boards, when somebody presents what boils down to a relationship problem, I think sympathies fall to the OP a great percentage of the time. Not always, as can be demonstrated by the thread that I think the OP based this thread on, but it does seem to happen quite a bit.
(The rest of this is general and not specifically towards CP.)
I couldn't say if Doms tend to blame other male Doms or offer sympathy in certain situations with the ulterior motive of thinking it will get one more person back in the dating pool. I think it's possible, but it's not especially a phenomenon that we have over on the Mistress board. There's more than enough fish in the sea when you swap the genders around. It might, however, explain why folks are so quick to side with anybody who has joined a couple when it comes to the poly board. It isn't all that often that there is an overwhelming recommendation to try to work things out. More often than not, folks jump on the "you should leave" bandwagon no matter what the original problem brought the person to the board in the first place.
I could be wrong thinking this has more to do with percentages and ratios, rather than gender, but it is something to think about.
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