Invictus754
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I guess I shouldn't have gone to sleep last night...
I find it interesting that this went from cheating, to lying about cheating to cybering ... and all were intolerable forms of behavior. What if your mate THINKS about fucking someone else, but doesn't tell you? Did he cheat? What if he fantasizes about someone else during the act and doesn't tell you? Did he cross an emotional line and should be horse-whipped for even considering that you are not the supreme end-all significant other?
So if the guy TELLS his girlfriend, "hey, I love you, but I'm gonna fuck this woman who has the hots for me" you are saying that even if she doesn't want him to do so, is it ok now anyway, because he communicated his intentions - and only LYING about fucking is cheating?
And Lucky...you bragged about your moresum relationship quote:
I am a whore. I am an active slut. I have long term relationships with three people right now, all of whom know eachother. In fact, I'm in the process of moving to live with TWO of my partners together, where I will be fucking both of them quite regularly. I also fuck other people randomly at events and on dates for pure pleasure.
Nothing justifies lying to your partner and breaking a commitment. You want to fuck who you want to fuck, go for it. But don't lie to the other person. My partners know exactly who I am, that I will fuck someone if I feel like it. We have a solid relationship.
what if suddenly one of them decides that you shouldn't fuck someone? Should he tell you, or because he knows 'exactly who you (are), that (you) will fuck someone if (you) feel like it' should he just keep quiet? And if he voices his concern...who wins...you or him? And why shouldn't the OP's guy have the same ability to fuck who he wants? What is so wrong with having a fling and then going back - is he now Beelzebub incarnate, minion of hell who only sucks her life dry because he put his dick in someone else, or is he just her boyfriend who is basically the same guy as the day before who got a little strange - which shouldn't be a life altering catastrophe laden event? (I vote for scene #2)
Every situation has so many angles, so many nuances of relationship history, personal backgrounds, and power struggles that NO advice we can give to someone asking this question is going to be sound advice and all the caveats we have to include would almost sound like an ad on TV after pitching medicine: this advice may cause diarrhea, nausea, abdominal pain, dizziness or headache (if she clips you with the rolling pin after she finds out you fucked her rival after she told you "no").
I'd like to point out that so far, no one had mentioned the fact that I brought up: What if he gets the offer, and says, 'NO'? Is he an 'almost-cheater' to be shunned forever for letting her into his bedroom without a chaperone? You guys are spitting nails on this still-yet-to-be-committed-adultery and this transgression should be treated like jaywalking - yeah, it's against the law but everyone does it and it shouldn't be the death sentence to the relationship.
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RE: I found myself in an interesting dilemma - 
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