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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 7:31:38 AM

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Biggest hurdle is my teenage daughter who lives with me and my Dom. She is adjusting to a new home, school and new man in our lives. She is 14 which seems to come with it's own huge dramas on a daily basis. Now that it's summer vacation our time will be greatly limited. These are the challenges of life along with me going back to school. We will manage though.

Shocked, I am.

Littlepita, I've been reading your posts for weeks and months, and for some reason I got the impression that you were 18/19/20 years old. When I read you had a 14 year old daughter, it was one of those WTF moments. I guess I had just never went to your profile.

I have to admit, I also think kids are the biggest hurdle, and the biggest joy.

FHky

LOL! That is funny! I assume that I should take that as a compliment that I'm young at heart, and not that I give off the impression of being immature?

Of course, in my D/s relationship I'm allowed to be five, which I find incredibly liberating.

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 7:39:22 AM

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I think I solved this problem for myself by the mere fact that I don't live in reality. I live in a much happier place with talking ducks, bunnies that hop around carelessly and big puffy marshmellows that bounce across the grass, waving at me as I get into my car to go to work every morning. That, and the medication the nurses give me every night before they strap me into bed, keeps me doing quite well.

LMAO - you are toooo funny littlesarbonn

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 7:39:28 AM

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Simple lack of time/energy to be together. Relationships are built on shared experiences and if you're too tired/distracted/busy to make that happen, the relationship as a whole just limps along.

Oh and we solve that by kicking eachother in the ass when we need to take breaks and having regular slots for time together.

If you are tired maybe sit down and read a book or get some sleep and do something the next day?

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 7:44:42 AM

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The biggest hurdle for me is having an overbearing mother. She's wonderful and I love her, but she's one of those people so afraid of being hurt that they lock themselves away from the world. After the experiences she endured with my dad I don't blame her, but still... I'm twenty, at the age of starting to form my own life, but I keep being dragged back to this odd detached Victorian-values life, because she's unwell and then she worries and becomes more unwell...

In fact, I'm living with her for the next few months to care for her >_<

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 8:08:29 AM

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TammyJo,

I always enjoy reading the posts about you and Your Fox. I am sorry that you both have had to encounter child abuse. The thought that anyone would hurt an innocent and precious child, makes my skin curl and puts me into true sadist mode.

Though this type of robbed innocence is difficult to overcome, I want to personally thank you for being thoughtful enough to share it. You are helping others who have had similiar experiences, and I admire you for your honesty.

Nina

Thank you, Nina.

I'd worry that offend folks or put them off when I'm open about this but it is part of taking care of myself to give it voice and bring it into the light. And I've learned to take care of myself first and foremost by being more the dominant me and less the trained vanilla me.

I always want to honest whenever I say something. Since the question was about the hardest hurdle this is honestly what is our/my hardest hurdle.

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 8:25:46 AM

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Going to jump on the parenthood band wagon here. Having 2 teens in the house... 1 being more mentaly older than the other (more like 30 and not 14) it really is hard. Specially being on the single side... and trying to greet and meet. They're not use to anyone being in our lives... for about 10 years it's been just us 3. And someone new coming in ..... well... it just makes things hard. For years I've had to make sure there was no possible danger... harm... they could possibly be exposed to within the home. Bad enough got to worry about that shit when they walk out the door to go to school and or play. Now that they are older and pretty much begging me to get a life... it's alittle easier... LOL... but there's still that little twinge of acceptance...so far been lucky with them not pulling the lets be bad so he won't stick around routine like I've seen other single parents go thru before. Mine know I dominate the house... not them... so that makes it easier too.. LOL...I do sometimes wonder how they will respond to somone else coming in and dominating the household. I'm sure there's going to be lots of talks.

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 11:42:11 AM

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I really don't have this problem a whole lot.
I've always been "out of the closet" with my kiddo, so that's not an issue. I'm quite glad I made that choice. I'd hate to have chosen to live 18 years with the underlying thought of "I can't wait til the kid is grown."
Maybe a little bit of a problem with finances. I'm not wealthy by any means, which means I can't have a house as big as I'd like, which in turns means less people living in the home. But in reality, I know that if we all love each other and want it to work, not having one's own bedroom isn't a deal breaker.
I sometimes find myself hurdling my location. Podunk, USA doesn't offer much in the way of lifestylists.

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 11:56:15 AM

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TIME...god I hate time issues. I deal with them because I have to everyone has to work go to school live life have familes...Sometimes I sit back and think UMMM when is it MY turn, and just when I am about to give up hope and I think it is never going to happen...the phone rings and brings a smile to My face all over again and I realize that is why there are 24 hours in a day afterall...humming johnny cash right now with a silly happy smile on My face.

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RE: Reality Hurdles - 5/19/2006 5:46:30 PM

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"Real life" and what it entails. Time, distance, kids, work, other family, money, health. You name it, it seems to be a hurdle for Me and My boy.

We both work management jobs that require long hours---he lives about 90 miles away---I have 2 teenagers in the house---there are only 24 hours in a day and 7 days a week---how My extended family fits into the lifestyle situation---My health, which seems to be dragging Me down, and My body which seems to be letting Me down at the ripe old age of 35----Money, with gas prices what they are, the traveling will be getting incresingly more difficult.

So right now, the entire "real world" seems to be our hurdle. LOL

But, in another perspective, I think the "real world" keeps us grounded and focused on making our relationship as real as it can be, given the constraints within said world. It keeps us focused on whats important to us, and the relationship we're building.

be well to A/all

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