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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Look...if You are a Domme, that is something You should project, in some manner, all the time, isn't it?

No, not in reality, not in the real world. Maybe in your fantasies they all strut around all day long in leather and corsets, but a surprising number of them are mere humans. Humans who make mistakes, get scared, need reassurance, and want to be loved. Dommes (and Doms) really do need to just be held so they can cry now and then you know.

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One of the keys to being a good Owner is to have a realistic concept of human nature.

That applies to being a worthwhile submissive as well.

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ORIGINAL: SUBMALEUK11

I'll be honest I don't and I find it hard to believe any man would, I'd be interested to hear what the men on here say..

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Look...if You are a Domme, that is something You should project, in some manner, all the time, isn't it?

No, not in reality, not in the real world. Maybe in your fantasies they all strut around all day long in leather and corsets, but a surprising number of them are mere humans. Humans who make mistakes, get scared, need reassurance, and want to be loved. Dommes (and Doms) really do need to just be held so they can cry now and then you know.

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One of the keys to being a good Owner is to have a realistic concept of human nature.

That applies to being a worthwhile submissive as well.

lolololol :)  Read the fucking post again, genius.  "You are a Domme, that is something You should project, in some manner, all the time, isn't it?"  A look, a touch, an obscure reference and a thousand other gestures can be used to remind a sub of who he is to his Domme.  Don't be so obtuse.  A Domme can remind her sub of his submission in church, in court, at a prize fight, at his mother's house........ANYWHERE.  Right? 

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Why is it up to an adult to remind another adult of their own personal responsibility?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Look...if You are a Domme, that is something You should project, in some manner, all the time, isn't it?

No, not in reality, not in the real world. Maybe in your fantasies they all strut around all day long in leather and corsets, but a surprising number of them are mere humans. Humans who make mistakes, get scared, need reassurance, and want to be loved. Dommes (and Doms) really do need to just be held so they can cry now and then you know.

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One of the keys to being a good Owner is to have a realistic concept of human nature.

That applies to being a worthwhile submissive as well.

lolololol :)  Read the fucking post again, genius.  "You are a Domme, that is something You should project, in some manner, all the time, isn't it?"  A look, a touch, an obscure reference and a thousand other gestures can be used to remind a sub of who he is to his Domme.  Don't be so obtuse.  A Domme can remind her sub of his submission in church, in court, at a prize fight, at his mother's house........ANYWHERE.  Right? 

OR........you can turn this concept around to reflect personal responsibility. A submissive can BE submissive all the time, anywhere..........right? Why is it up to an adult to remind another adult of what they signed up for? Why is it up to an adult to remind another adult of their own personal responsibility?

If you make a commitment, follow through. I am a dominant woman, I do not need a submissive person to remind me to be, or make me be, dominant. The same holds true for the reverse.

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Why is it up to an adult to remind another adult of their own personal responsibility?

Well, I can't be sure, but based on these posts, and others he's made, I'd hazard a guess that it's because he's a wanker do-me type. He needs to be reminded of his position continuously so he can stay turned on. He's not really interested in his theoretical Domme as a person, merely as an extension of his penis. She exists merely to serve his libido. That's why he requires her to be "on" all the time, she isn't allowed any down time, because she is a "Domme", not a person.

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ORIGINAL: lockedaway

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ORIGINAL: Arpig

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Why is it up to an adult to remind another adult of their own personal responsibility?

Well, I can't be sure, but based on these posts, and others he's made, I'd hazard a guess that it's because he's a wanker do-me type. He needs to be reminded of his position continuously so he can stay turned on. He's not really interested in his theoretical Domme as a person, merely as an extension of his penis. She exists merely to serve his libido. That's why he requires her to be "on" all the time, she isn't allowed any down time, because she is a "Domme", not a person.

You lying piece of shit! LOLOLOLOL Be honest, Asspig, the only place you have read my posts have been in the political section where I have called you out as being a liberal, needy, greedy, dependent SWINE.  Hey...swine...LOLOLOLOLOLOL that fits!

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Arpig remains a sharp observer of asshattery.

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I can remember times when I had experienced orgasm, and after the sex was over the Domme that I was with at the time said "I want some ice cream.  Go to the grocery store and get me some".  Even if it was 3:00AM, I would have immediately gone to get her some ice cream.  It wouldn't have mattered that I was sleepy.  It wouldn't have mattered that it was late (or "early", depending on how you look at it), and it would have mattered that I had cum.  If she wanted ice cream, I would have gone and gotten it for her.   

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

I would want to know what the op means by no longer feeling submissive.

Does he mean he doesn't want to continue to play? Well, that's sensible. Just like you don't still feel hungry right after eating.

Does he mean he no longer cares about his partner and wants him/her to be happy? That's something entirely different.

Of course you don't still feel like playing more right afterwards. That's natural. Also natural that your pain tolerance decreases without sexual desire fueling it. However telling your partner to go fuck herself because she asks you to clean up the toys is not normal if you want the relationship to continue.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009
I can remember times when I had experienced orgasm, and after the sex was over the Domme that I was with at the time said "I want some ice cream.  Go to the grocery store and get me some".  Even if it was 3:00AM, I would have immediately gone to get her some ice cream.  It wouldn't have mattered that I was sleepy.  It wouldn't have mattered that it was late (or "early", depending on how you look at it), and it would have mattered that I had cum.  If she wanted ice cream, I would have gone and gotten it for her.   

LOL.  I've given that order.  Actually, it was more like wanting a sundae. 

Every time this question does come up, I think about the times that I've been laying in bed and told clip to do something.  It never even occurs to Me that he would say, "sorry, Mistress, I just had an orgasm".  Having an orgasm doesn't change his nature.

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ORIGINAL: SUBMALEUK11

I'll be honest I don't and I find it hard to believe any man would, I'd be interested to hear what the men on here say..

I have to disagree with your assessment.  Cumming has absolutely nothing to do with my submission.

IMO, if you don't feel submissive after you cum, then perhaps you were never submissive in the first place.

To me, there is a difference between submission, and being a bottom while you're horny.  The latter is what it sounds like you do.

Submission to me means placing Her needs/wants/desires above my own.  It has nothing to do with whether I've experienced orgasm or not.  And the type of submission that I'm talking about extends outside of the bedroom.  It includes serving Her in all aspects of life.  "Bottoming" is more about letting the woman take charge during kinky sex.  It is usually exclusively a bedroom activity.  Once the sex is over, the D/s dynamic ends.

I can remember times when I had experienced orgasm, and after the sex was over the Domme that I was with at the time said "I want some ice cream.  Go to the grocery store and get me some".  Even if it was 3:00AM, I would have immediately gone to get her some ice cream.  It wouldn't have mattered that I was sleepy.  It wouldn't have mattered that it was late (or "early", depending on how you look at it), and it would have mattered that I had cum.  If she wanted ice cream, I would have gone and gotten it for her.   

It sounds like if that situation had happened to you, your response would have been "Go get it yourself, Bitch!"

I may be wrong, but it sounds like you were submitted to your dick.  You were serving your dick's needs.  The woman was just a prop in the scene.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Soooooooooo...........in essence you are not a submissive person but a bottom that gets off on dominant women.......until you get off.

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ORIGINAL: SUBMALEUK11

you wouldn't have typed that if you went aroused though, I honestly don't believe you would.

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ORIGINAL: SUBMALEUK11

you wouldn't have typed that if you went aroused though, I honestly don't believe you would.

Stop assuming that all men are like you. They are not. I am damned certain of that.