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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 8:56:26 AM   
zephyroftheNorth


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There are different types of Masters...
Some, that condone spanking once in a while.
Some that never spank.
And some, simply spank their sub/slave for no given reason. (Just because it is a 'Dom' thing to do')


You forgot one, those who spank because they happen to feel like it in the moment. Aside from this part I didn't read the rest it seems to be just another one true way posting.


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:01:47 AM   
erieangel


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Status: offline 		As much as I like being spanked, I would never want one as a form of punishment, discipline or when the spanker is angry. In fact, the last boarders on physical abuse in my book and I'd be out of there faster than he could blink.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:08:16 AM   
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Status: offline 		i spank when i'm angry all the fucking time, its like therapy. it gets my frustrations out, it relaxes me, and it puts me in a good mood. what i don't do is spank heather when i'm mad at her. buuuuuut, if i have a real shitfuck of a day at work, heather's likely gonna be bending over when i get home.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:24:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		My feelings on spanking when angry stem from a history of abuse. My ex would take every frustration out on me, slugging me for no reason whatever because he had a bad day. So anger and spankings have no place together in my life. It is one those things where what works for some doesn't work for all.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:34:46 AM   
HannahLynHeather


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Status: offline 		ok, i can relate, i see where you're coming from. see the difference is that when i come home in a shitty mood and wallop her ass, 9 times out of ten we end up with our mouths glued to each other's girly bits.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:42:47 AM   
RapierFugue


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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

your idea that switches are somehow created by insufficient spanking of a sub would be nauseating if it weren't so fucking stupid, much like it's author.


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 9:44:56 AM   
zephyroftheNorth


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Status: offline 		I hear ya, erie. There have been things that really freaked me out due to having hooked up with an abuser. My (then) owner and I worked on them because they were things he really enjoyed and I got passed them. It really takes a lot of trust to do it though.

Zeph


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 10:08:48 AM   
Epytropos


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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

i spank when i'm angry all the fucking time, its like therapy. it gets my frustrations out, it relaxes me, and it puts me in a good mood. what i don't do is spank heather when i'm mad at her. buuuuuut, if i have a real shitfuck of a day at work, heather's likely gonna be bending over when i get home.


Agreed. It's a fantastic form of catharsis. That along with (usually followed by) extremely rough sex are a great way to clear my head and improve a bad day.


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 11:07:08 AM   
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You know, Jeff, for someone who vocally renounces the labels as not applicable you seem to care about them and their implications an awful lot.

Why is that odd? Of course I care about them. I'm fascinated with other people and how they see things. I'm genuinely interested in alternate viewpoints. So of course I like to mix into these conversations.

I renounced the labels because I found them inapplicable to me. There's too many rules attached and, frankly, I think when I say "master/slave" people quite reasonably assume a certain colour that just isn't there. That doesn't mean I'm not fascinated with the topic in general. It's a "value diversity" sort of thing.

What you won't find me doing is arguing that I am a true anything... master/slave/dom/top/whatever. I'm truly Carol's husband.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 11:18:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Punishment is worse than stupid. It is archaic and totally unhealthy. Agreeing to be punished is stupid and self abusive. People dont learn by being hurt. Seriously welcome to 2011 where the world is still so messed up but let's get it together finally.

If you have what I have heard termed "funishment" whatever floats your boat.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 11:28:08 AM   
HeatherMcLeather


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Status: offline 		The problem with what you said is that you're equating being punished with pain. In our relationship, pain has nothing to do with behaviour, it happens when and if Hanners wants it to. When I'm punished, there is no pain involved, other than the self-inflicted mental kind.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 11:40:19 AM   
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When I'm punished, there is no pain involved, other than the self-inflicted mental kind.

*chuckles* Oh yeah... just that :)


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 11:44:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

quote:

ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather
When I'm punished, there is no pain involved, other than the self-inflicted mental kind.

*chuckles* Oh yeah... just that :)



yeeeeeep... that's really all it ever took for me.


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 12:03:17 PM   
myotherself


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ORIGINAL: heartcream

Punishment is worse than stupid. It is archaic and totally unhealthy. Agreeing to be punished is stupid and self abusive. People dont learn by being hurt. Seriously welcome to 2011 where the world is still so messed up but let's get it together finally.

If you have what I have heard termed "funishment" whatever floats your boat.


totally, totally disagree. That fact that it doesn't work for you is fine. Don't choose a relationship with this as a dynamic.

For those of us who DO learn through the use of physical pain, it's the perfect arrangement.

Welcome to 2011 where tolerance is sadly still not all-pervasive.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 12:13:20 PM   
heartcream


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Status: offline 		I state my opinion you state yours, who is intolerant? You like pain. I dont. I win in my book. You win in yours. I would rather be me and that is the way it ought to be. Oh and thanks for the brilliant gem of advice to not pursue a relationship where thy would want to hurt me, I'd be lost without you! Smaht cookie!

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 12:16:01 PM   
coookie


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Status: offline 		Punishment is a fact of life. If i dont go to work i am punished by not getting paid. I might be punished by being fired. Our society works on a punishment and reward system. Physical punishment can be the easiest to take when considering other options. It doesn't mean that the lesson has not been learned.

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 12:33:24 PM   
SuzeCheri


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People dont learn by being hurt. Seriously welcome to 2011
I'm going to chime in here, not based on my one experience with erotic spanking, but to make a comment on this. People have been teaching their kids with pain ever since the dawn of time. If pain doesn't teach, then how did all those people over the last five thousand or so years learn?

And what does it being 2011 have to do with anything, was there some sort of sudden revelation in 2010 that we had it wrong all this time? I don't think so.

It's only in the last generation or two that kids weren't spanked as a common part of their upbringing, and if I'm honest, when I look at my peers and compare them to our grandparents, my generation doesn't look too good. I'm not big on tradition for it's own sake, I break taboos daily, but in this case the old way may just have something going for it.

This is pathetic, I don't think I've said anything silly all day. You people are a bad influence.


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 1:04:58 PM   
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ORIGINAL: heartcream


Smaht cookie!


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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 1:16:18 PM   
zephyroftheNorth


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ORIGINAL: heartcream

I state my opinion you state yours, who is intolerant? You like pain. I dont. I win in my book. You win in yours. I would rather be me and that is the way it ought to be. Oh and thanks for the brilliant gem of advice to not pursue a relationship where thy would want to hurt me, I'd be lost without you! Smaht cookie!

 
Actually your opinion is more of a judgment, telling others that because their dynamic includes punishment they are WRONG! Who are you to say whether it's right or wrong?

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RE: Spanking - 7/30/2011 1:17:52 PM   
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Status: offline 		heartcream, your reply came chock-full of one-true-wayism in the form of "if you do this, you're stupid and wrong," which is an excessively negative judgment, and doesn't reflect a very tolerant viewpoint. someone who does something different from what you believe is stupid and wrong, by your own words, which is basically the definition of intolerance in practice. =p 

< Message edited by LillyBoPeep -- 7/30/2011 1:18:37 PM >

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