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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 9:33:12 PM   
BonesFromAsh


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ORIGINAL: Sunny27

Heya, ok, So I've read lots of girls pages and I've only so far told two of them to change a few words that they've used to help them find people to play with so far one of them has written back to me saying Thanks, Treasure!
The other one didn't even write back to me but put something else on her profile telling everyone that had an opinion of what she had written to keep it to themselves and that she wasn't interested in hearing what anyone had to say.

I will say good luck to her in finding anyone interested in playing with her now!
Now I know that their both Dommes but I have been a slave, a sub, a Domme and a playpartner myself.


If some random chick wrote and tried to give me unsolicited profile advice, I'd block/report as spam/delete the message. That being said, how's that pussy pic on your profile working for ya?

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I just want to know, it's not just me in thinking that you have to be respectful and somewhat kind to who you are playing with right?
Or am I wrong in thinking like that?
I just want to know! Thanks! Treasurexxx


This question has nothing to do with the other nonsense you wrote in your post. What does one have to do with the other?

Anyway............

Yes, if I'm interacting with a partner, there would be a degree of respect and kindness.

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 10:11:00 PM   
JWriter


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Status: offline 		Probably, you were trying to be helpful, and, probably it was stemming from your desire to belong, to give.. and, that is beautiful.

However, if people don't yet know you, what you may mean as a friendly, helpful gesture can come out sounding like censure and judgment.

Obviously, one person was not offended, and, that's wonderful for you; but, the other one was. I don't know what you said to them. I don't know how much of their offense was due to misunderstanding or having a bad day. What I wonder, though, is what steps you took to be kind to the person you had given offense to?

Did you write and apologize? Probably that would have been in order; not for the motivation, but, for the offense.

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 11:16:06 PM   
WyldHrt


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Status: offline 		First off, 'girl Dommes'? WTF?? Both redundant and condescending, well done.
Hell, I'm a sub and seriously dislike being called 'girl' by people that don't know me.
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Heya, ok, So I've read lots of girls pages and I've only so far told two of them to change a few words that they've used to help them find people to play with so far one of them has written back to me saying Thanks, Treasure!
The other one didn't even write back to me but put something else on her profile telling everyone that had an opinion of what she had written to keep it to themselves and that she wasn't interested in hearing what anyone had to say.

Ummm... you wrote to two Dominant women that you don't know and told them what to do? Seriously?? No surprise that your cmail went over like a fart in church with one of them, as it would with most people here regardless of orientation.

If you had written to me, you really would not have liked the reply, although the thread would be more colorful.
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I will say good luck to her in finding anyone interested in playing with her now!

She most likely won't need luck, she has tits and a whip. I have no idea where you got the notion that female Tops have any problem finding play partners, esp for casual play. They don't. Same goes for most female bottoms.
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Now I know that their both Dommes but I have been a slave, a sub, a Domme and a playpartner myself.
What's your point? Cluenema- just because something works for you and your interests doesn't mean that it will work for someone else. Last I checked, we are all people with individual needs and desires, not cookie cutter generic labels seeking the 'one twue way'.
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I just want to know, it's not just me in thinking that you have to be respectful and somewhat kind to who you are playing with right?
Or am I wrong in thinking like that?
I just want to know! Thanks! Treasurexxx
See above. Obviously, it is a requirement for you. That does not mean that it is a requirement for everyone. Some find humiliation and/or objectification hot, and get off on it. Who the hell are you to tell them that the kink that makes them hard or wet is wrong?

In a nutshell, you overstepped by a wide margin.




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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 11:24:54 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

First off, 'girl Dommes'? WTF?? Both redundant and condescending, well done.
Hell, I'm a sub and seriously dislike being called 'girl' by people that don't know me.
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Heya, ok, So I've read lots of girls pages and I've only so far told two of them to change a few words that they've used to help them find people to play with so far one of them has written back to me saying Thanks, Treasure!
The other one didn't even write back to me but put something else on her profile telling everyone that had an opinion of what she had written to keep it to themselves and that she wasn't interested in hearing what anyone had to say.

Ummm... you wrote to two Dominant women that you don't know and told them what to do? Seriously?? No surprise that your cmail went over like a fart in church with one of them, as it would with most people here regardless of orientation.

If you had written to me, you really would not have liked the reply, although the thread would be more colorful.
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I will say good luck to her in finding anyone interested in playing with her now!

She most likely won't need luck, she has tits and a whip. I have no idea where you got the notion that female Tops have any problem finding play partners, esp for casual play. They don't. Same goes for most female bottoms.
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Now I know that their both Dommes but I have been a slave, a sub, a Domme and a playpartner myself.
What's your point? Cluenema- just because something works for you and your interests doesn't mean that it will work for someone else. Last I checked, we are all people with individual needs and desires, not cookie cutter generic labels seeking the 'one twue way'.
quote:

I just want to know, it's not just me in thinking that you have to be respectful and somewhat kind to who you are playing with right?
Or am I wrong in thinking like that?
I just want to know! Thanks! Treasurexxx
See above. Obviously, it is a requirement for you. That does not mean that it is a requirement for everyone. Some find humiliation and/or objectification hot, and get off on it. Who the hell are you to tell them that the kink that makes them hard or wet is wrong?

In a nutshell, you overstepped by a wide margin.






OMG....that was too funny! I totally cracked up. Thanks! :D

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 11:35:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD



OMG....that was too funny! I totally cracked up. Thanks! :D


I'm still giggling over cluenema

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 11:38:27 PM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: myotherself


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD



OMG....that was too funny! I totally cracked up. Thanks! :D


I'm still giggling over cluenema


Perhaps you would enjoy handing out this coupon then. :D

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/30/2011 11:51:16 PM   
myotherself


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Perhaps you would enjoy handing out this coupon then. :D


lmao - just gotta go and get a cloth to wipe the coffee from the computer...

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/31/2011 12:26:35 AM   
DeviantlyD


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ORIGINAL: myotherself


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ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD



Perhaps you would enjoy handing out this coupon then. :D


lmao - just gotta go and get a cloth to wipe the coffee from the computer...



Hee hee! Glad you enjoyed it. :) I quite enjoyed it the first time I saw it. *grin*

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/31/2011 1:26:55 AM   
WyldHrt


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OMG....that was too funny! I totally cracked up. Thanks! :D

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I'm still giggling over cluenema

Happy to be of service, ladies.
I knew that Myo would zero in on 'cluenema', lol 


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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 7/31/2011 1:40:54 AM   
myotherself


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ORIGINAL: WyldHrt

I knew that Myo would zero in on 'cluenema', lol 



lol - am I so transparent? No need to answer that one

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 5:13:02 AM   
Sunny27


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Status: offline 		Hello Everyone!
I just want to thank Lockit, Marisol, SneakerWorship, OldHen, Dame Bruschetta( For telling me her good honest opinion, Love it, thanks!)
Thanks for the information, I'll be more careful with what I say to people in future!
Oh yes and you know a phrase like ttyl, thats what pople call cellpone talk.
I don't do that even in a text message, I do read what people have to say, if you write letters t.b.c.
I've no time for idiotic replies like that, you either write properly to me or not at all.
To the people that spoke of me using the term "girl", I'm really sorry if alot of you took me up badly on that!
When I had already written it, I then tried to go back to change the girls to say girls/women! But unfortunatly I couldn't!
Oh and look I'm 28 not 27, so read my profile correctly before you start making a wrong state ment like that!
I had someone years ago say "oh she's so american!"
I was born in Ireland, so yes I'm Irish.
I don't go running to my Master if I want to say something to someone!
The best thing about my self and my Dom's relationship is that he knows I'm not looking for his advice 24/7!!

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 8:04:24 AM   
SweetDommes


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Status: offline 		technically the "ttyl" is called 'netspeak' - not "cellpone talk"

On topic - I do hope that you paid attention to the bits about "mind your own business about random stranger's profiles because they know better what they want than you do" based on your most recent post, you seem to have missed that ...

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 8:09:04 AM   
Arieno


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Status: offline 		OP: I do not think others offering their opinions unusual for this site.
In the few months I have been on this site I have received quite a few e-mails expressing what on the surface could be construed as constructive criticism.

What I found interesting in these e-mails was they all assumed I was new to D/s, included an abundantly wordy bragging or boasting about the writer’s perception and the absolute rightness of it.

I wasn’t offended, more I was caused to think how effective the profile was at doing what I designed it to do.

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 8:33:21 AM   
LadyConstanze


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I wasn’t offended, more I was caused to think how effective the profile was at doing what I designed it to do.



I had a look at your profile, now do clue me in, what did you design it to do? Looks pretty much like the profile of a guy who gives his job, says he's looking for a relationship with a d/s component but has time to wait, and it gives your job - not a lot more about you. To be honest, if you are looking for a meaningful relationship, putting a bit more "bait" out there wouldn't harm, like hobbies and such, a bit of Tennyson at the end doesn't really say much, you could be into Victorian poetry, poetry in general... Now somebody you might get along well with might not like poetry, but you don't give her much else to talk about. So I'm a bit lost in how your profile is effective or what you designed it for - to me it seems a bit bland and not saying all that much about you, or at least not enough to strike up a conversation. Was that your intention?

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 8:37:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Sunny27

Hello Everyone!
I just want to thank Lockit, Marisol, SneakerWorship, OldHen, Dame Bruschetta( For telling me her good honest opinion, Love it, thanks!)
Thanks for the information, I'll be more careful with what I say to people in future!
Oh yes and you know a phrase like ttyl, thats what pople call cellpone talk.
I don't do that even in a text message, I do read what people have to say, if you write letters t.b.c.
I've no time for idiotic replies like that, you either write properly to me or not at all.
To the people that spoke of me using the term "girl", I'm really sorry if alot of you took me up badly on that!
When I had already written it, I then tried to go back to change the girls to say girls/women! But unfortunatly I couldn't!
Oh and look I'm 28 not 27, so read my profile correctly before you start making a wrong state ment like that!
I had someone years ago say "oh she's so american!"
I was born in Ireland, so yes I'm Irish.
I don't go running to my Master if I want to say something to someone!
The best thing about my self and my Dom's relationship is that he knows I'm not looking for his advice 24/7!!


Perhaps you'd better have a look at your profile then and change the age to read 28 instead of 27  which is actually worse for the point I was making. Which is that something you should know by now is that it's basic etiquette not to offer unasked for opinions. It's nice that you came back to the thread, but it seems that most of the responses went over your head.

< Message edited by risktaker9 -- 8/1/2011 8:39:18 AM >

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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 8:59:17 AM   
thishereboi


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ORIGINAL: Sunny27

Heya, ok, So I've read lots of girls pages and I've only so far told two of them to change a few words that they've used to help them find people to play with so far one of them has written back to me saying Thanks, Treasure!
The other one didn't even write back to me but put something else on her profile telling everyone that had an opinion of what she had written to keep it to themselves and that she wasn't interested in hearing what anyone had to say.

I will say good luck to her in finding anyone interested in playing with her now!
Now I know that their both Dommes but I have been a slave, a sub, a Domme and a playpartner myself.

I just want to know, it's not just me in thinking that you have to be respectful and somewhat kind to who you are playing with right?
Or am I wrong in thinking like that?
I just want to know! Thanks! Treasurexxx


You have to be respectful and somewhat kind if that is the kind of relationship you are in. Not everyone on cm is looking for that. As to the one who said people should keep their opinions to themselves...obviously she didn't appreciate your input. That sometimes happens when we offer unsolicited advice.


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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/1/2011 9:05:41 AM   
thishereboi


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Oh and look I'm 28 not 27, so read my profile correctly before you start making a wrong state ment like that!


I just looked and it says 27? Maybe you should fix that before jumping on anyone else.


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RE: Heya any girl Dommes or mistress help me please! - 8/7/2011 2:35:00 AM   
Sunny27


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Status: offline 		To SweetDommes "On topic - I do hope that you paid attention to the bits about
"mind your own business about random stranger's profiles because they know better what they want than you do"
based on your most recent post, you seem to have missed that ..."

yes I do that, more now I don't say anything to anyone bout their profiles!
Your very right to have said what you did to me thank you!
Oh yes and to those who told me about my age on collar me still being 27,
I guess I was a little naive thinking it would change every year by itself but the age changes every year on facebook and Myspace!

Thanks for the heads up I just changed it! Doh! I never realised!.
Anyway I think that ends this convo as entertaining as it was and all, ha!

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