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RE: how far do you go - 6/10/2006 6:39:12 PM

crouchingtigress

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I also find your font hard to read.

As to you question of how I advance BDSM acceptance, I have thought about it a lot, and I dont really see a need to advance BDSM.

BDSM does not better the world in any way that I am aware of, it does not have a political agenda, or a world vision. In fact the only common ground I have ever found that we all share is a desire for kinky sex, and is that something we need external validation for?

When we get on talk shows, even the most sincere of folk, all dressed up in the gear, end up totally looking goofy to the world. We become grotesque caricatures of ourselves and any meaningful message is lost.

Acceptance and tolerance is something I believe in and I do try my best to support that where I can.

And I did write a BDSM musical which if it ever is produced, is designed to introduce vanilla folks to our world in a safe and fun way. But beyond that I dont know if there really is a need to do anything more with it, I mean after all do we really have anything important to say?

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RE: how far do you go - 6/10/2006 6:51:22 PM

ShiftedJewel

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ORIGINAL: Proprietrix

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ORIGINAL: understud
Yet this is real life; and i have to make a lot of accommodations to protect the oversensitive values of of my neighbors and peers. So, how far do you go in maintaining a civil atmosphere. Do you ever go to the rallies shown on television? Have you ever gone to the large gatherings at Disney world and the like? What do you do to establish yourself as a responsible alternate lifestyle in you community without alienating everyone. Or do you even think that is possible in today's society. How did it make you feel when you had to or thought it best to accommodate the vanilla view of how you should act in public.

I don't do a damned thing to protect any over sensitive values of my neighbors and peers. Screw that. If I spent my entire life finding out other people's values and then taking the time and energy to protect them, when would I get the chance to protect my own values and those of my family? I don't bend to anyone's view of what or who I should be or how I should act in any particular situation. I am who I am, and I'll act how I choose to.
I've been to large events and I've marched in pride parades. It really took no guts or risk to do so.

But I am also adult enough to accept the consequences of not conforming to vanilla standards. Sometimes people don't want to be my friend. I'm not up for any community awards, and I probably won't be on the PTA board anytime. And I'm ok with that. It's a very small sacrifice (if it even is a sacrifice at all) to be who I am and live as I please.

Proprietrix... you know that I worship you from afar... right?

I agree totally with this line of thinking... we live in a small town.. you know: two traffic lights, small volunteer FD... and we the only way we could be more open is if we put a sign in the front yard... hmmm... that's a thought. Hell, we have the BDSM emblem tattooed on our arms and a decal on the back of the bike. I'm finding that very little we do would shock the neighbors anymore... lol But, we get along great with all of them... even the preacher next door.

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RE: how far do you go - 6/10/2006 8:17:33 PM

Sirandlittle1

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Im so far in the closet, im in Narnia with my bdsm.
I never blabbed about my sex life when i was vanilla, why would i start now?
And the whole power exchange dynamic explanation. I groan at my ineptitude to explain this to people outside of the lifestyle. So i dont bother. \
I have one friend. Who is not persuaded to take this path herself, but can see it clearly has positive effects on me. As she knew me before finding my Dominant, and after.
Its just not a over the photocopier conversation really is it? When do you get time at work to be able to answer the ensuing questions?
Our children have a fair idea. My eldest daughter has spoken to me about it. She thinks it sounds like a fabulous crazy idea for a friday in perhaps. My Son is squicked by it, and the youngest doesnt know anything yet.
But they all see how respectfull we are to each other. How much time and thought and energy we put into caring for each other. In other words, they see 2 people, in love, caring for each other. Not a bad value to install in the next generation.
But we dont expose the kids to Sir, or littleone names. Or postures that do it for some D/s couple. Mum doesnt sit on the floor at his knee for instance when they are around.
Amazing how non 24/7 can be sometimes. And how long you have to wait for a window of opportunity lol
I have been to many pansexual big nights. 5000 capacity venues, and had a ball. And a few BDSM nights. Both have been fun. But then i can put it all back in the box, and just leave the power dynamic out. Play, is private. In my world.
Again, each to their own.
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