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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 9:13:53 AM

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3 years later and you still haven't had any help? Tsk, tsk. Let me scold my fellow dominants:

Ahem...bad, BAD dominants.

There. I just know that will help.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 9:18:08 AM

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THANK YOU AILEEN

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 9:49:31 AM

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Alright CreativeDominant, I'll be a good Domly type and steer her in the right direction.

Teach you what? We can't answer until you ask something specific... your questions are currently unanswerable. An example would be like you were standing at the college admission desk saying you want an education but you're not telling them what classes you want to take.

I get the feeling from your over generalized questions that you are so fresh, you don't know what to ask. The best course for a fast general education is to read up on the aspects of BDSM that interest you. The dilemma of your tread is common for newcomers and the BDSM Book List got referred to so often they made it a sticky. I suggest you go over to this thread, look at the books and their reviews and order a few. -=BDSM Book List=-

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im looking for sombody teach me and long term relationship

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 10:06:29 AM

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Nope, RS, she's not new. She asked the question three years ago and just revived it to semi-clarify that she's evidently looking to try new things in play.

michelle, I don't know what to tell you. Your Friends list contains mostly people from Indiana, so it looks like you're already going out into the community and meeting people.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 10:39:17 AM

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3 years later and you still haven't had any help? Tsk, tsk. Let me scold my fellow dominants:

Ahem...bad, BAD dominants.

There. I just know that will help.

Watch your tone with me.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 12:44:24 PM

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Like every other poster before has said, you'll have to be more specific. You're slowly getting there, but have a ways to go.

You're submissive. You want help with submission. You want to try new things. Okay, that still doesn't tell us what you want.
What new things do you want to try? You could go from a maid service scene to rope suspension to full-on beatings and more.

You're making the mistake of assuming that because you're new and submissive, people will chomp at the bit to "help" you, when it sounds like all you want is for someone to come around and do things to you. Get out of this mentality ASAP.

Then again, considering it's been 3 years, this will probably fall on deaf ears. Please prove me wrong.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/2/2014 3:37:20 PM

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3 years later and you still haven't had any help? Tsk, tsk. Let me scold my fellow dominants:

Ahem...bad, BAD dominants.

There. I just know that will help.

Watch your tone with me.

You listen here, young man!

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 6:21:20 AM

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if she did ask it like 3 years ago, and if she was old enough , then it's more likely she's searching for a night , short term fun than a relationship. Also depends if she had some event in life to prevent it and only after 3 years she tries it again.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 7:15:28 AM

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if she did ask it like 3 years ago, and if she was old enough , then it's more likely she's searching for a night , short term fun than a relationship. Also depends if she had some event in life to prevent it and only after 3 years she tries it again.

In either case the advice she was given 3 years ago would still hold up.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 7:45:39 AM

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if she did ask it like 3 years ago, and if she was old enough , then it's more likely she's searching for a night , short term fun than a relationship. Also depends if she had some event in life to prevent it and only after 3 years she tries it again.

In either case the advice she was given 3 years ago would still hold up.

"She" is a male!!

From his profile: "IM 48 BI MALE SUBMISSIVE".

But... as has been said, the advice would still hold up.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 7:49:05 AM

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if she did ask it like 3 years ago, and if she was old enough , then it's more likely she's searching for a night , short term fun than a relationship. Also depends if she had some event in life to prevent it and only after 3 years she tries it again.

In either case the advice she was given 3 years ago would still hold up.

"She" is a male!!
From his profile: "IM 48 BI MALE SUBMISSIVE".

But... as has been said, the advice would still hold up.

Profile also says trans, so I wasn't sure.
I do know one non-binary individual who admits he falls under the trans* umbrella and is fine with either pronoun. Pronouns can be tricky business even without throwing a gender-neutral "they" in the mix.

Either way, OP, I apologize if my use of pronouns was incorrect.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 9:09:38 AM

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i got corrected once by a trans that instead of saying he , i should say she

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 9:16:55 AM

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But whatever, he openly states in his profile that he is a Bi Male.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 9:21:36 AM

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i got corrected once by a trans that instead of saying he , i should say she

There is so much pressure from political correctness that I just call everyone asshole now. Unless it's Gauge, he get's his own petname, doncha you homophobic shithead?

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 3:22:55 PM

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There is so much pressure from political correctness that I just call everyone asshole now. Unless it's Gauge, he get's his own petname, doncha you homophobic shithead?

I sure do ExcrementTyrant.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 8:01:06 PM

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This is dedication.
I mean...how do you even remember you posted this three years ago..?

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/3/2014 9:12:05 PM

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i got corrected once by a trans that instead of saying he , i should say she

A trans? Is that like a gay?

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/4/2014 4:42:56 AM

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i got corrected once by a trans that instead of saying he , i should say she

A trans? Is that like a gay?

No I'm pretty sure it'a a pontiac.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/4/2014 8:05:34 AM

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i got corrected once by a trans that instead of saying he , i should say she

A trans? Is that like a gay?

No I'm pretty sure it'a a pontiac.

and it goes across the country...so it is continental...like Trans-Continental.

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RE: im new to bdsm - 10/4/2014 9:07:32 AM

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WELL IM SUBMISSIVE AND I LIKE TRY LEARN NEW THINGS

Here's a new thing... try posts that are longer than one sentence. Otherwise you seem excruciatingly boring, and no help is likely to come your way.

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