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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 7:14:34 AM   
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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 9:11:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		What would i be called  His sweetheart..  Also his submissive and a few other things i will not post but mostly His sweetheart.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 9:27:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ok I agree you do have to be brave to ask questions of strangers in a world that few understand. But having said that from the many things you have listed on your profile as being an expert at I wouldn't think you are new to any of this. I would rather ask why you think you need a label at all. Is it a matter of meeting others and wishing to explain what you are "into" to them. Or are you already in a realationship with someone and you are just wondering how others would tag you if they knew about the things you do. In the one case you can pick a lot of different names to say what you are into for the public. On your profile you picked the dom title so there you go that should be your answer. If it is a matter of a personal realationship and you wondering how the two of you should address each other....well pick anything you think fits the two of you. I have pets, but I call them pets. I don't address them as slave or sub, though tart, twat, and sally sometimes get aimed at one ha. If you were really looking for advice, and really are an "expert" then here you go....don't worry so much about the labels. Do what makes you happy, and everything else will follow as it should.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 9:34:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		Assuming that you mean to eliminate slaves/subs from this question and not insult them I will give a few possible terms.

Kinky, twisted, adventurous, bottom.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:38:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro

Sometimes you have to be brave, intelligent, strongwilled with a thick skin to ask a simple question on these forums without people jumping down your throat

Nah, all you need is a keyboard, an internet connection and some basic sensitivity. I'm guessing you've got the first two - might be an idea to work on the third.

As to the question, ignoring your tone: the terms kinkster, fetishist, or bottom might be appropriate. Maybe masochist/sadomasochist if whatever you're into is strictly pain-related.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:53:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Wow well I know I'm rather abnormal but I didn't see the OP as implying that slaves and subs were weak or couldn't be powerful. I saw a reference to someone who is strong BUT is not wanting to be a slave/sub in a 24/7 relationship.

That said, I don't care a whole lot about labels. I suppose you could refer to the person as a bottom or a kinky play partner.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 3:31:46 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro

I was wondering, what would you be called if you were a powerful intellligent person who just so happend to share someone's kinks, you didn't need to belong to someone in a 24/7 D/s relationship?
You wouldn't be a slave or a submissive so what would you be?




First, you need to understand that there are no concrete labels in BDSM -- even a term like submissive can mean a lot of different things to different people. Some people would consider "submissive" to be a description of a person, while others might only consider it to be the description of behavior. So in the latter case someone who engages in some kinky fun for an hour with a partner could call himself submissive. But there isn't a standard label for the behavior you described. Call it whatever you like, if you feel a need for a label.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:28:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro

Sometimes you have to be brave, intelligent, strongwilled with a thick skin to ask a simple question on these forums without people jumping down your throat,I have said already that i don't believe subs to be stupid or weak, which part of that is causing problems?

  This is because a large number of people on these forums are nitpicking pedants with no self-worth.  Consequently they seek any justification for rudeness when exposed to a new male dominant or submissive.  Compare and contrast their responses to new women versus new men.  It's an interesting examination of the way in which a group closes ranks to repel all boarders.  What amuses me is the way the men are as bad as the women.  A clear example of thinking that kissing a woman's ass is the sure way into her panties.

Ignore them.  Take value where you find it - and you'll frequently find it in the less shrill more reasonable and level-headed posters.


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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:32:16 PM   
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It is HOW you phrase your questions......you appear to be implying that all subs are etc.....

Here is an offer for you. Before you make another post, cmail me with it the way you intend to write it. I'll rewrite so it does not carry the "flavor" you do not seem to realize your posts present.
  I've got a better idea.  How about you fuckers just harden the fuck up and interpret the spirit of what he's saying instead of suggesting he reformat his ideas for your hallowed consumption.  I'd say any half-intelligent human being knows exactly what he's trying to say without requiring.... wait... that probably explains the deluge of responses he got from fucking morons.

Never mind.  As you were.


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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:41:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Awareness

I've got a better idea.  How about you fuckers just harden the fuck up and interpret the spirit of what he's saying instead of suggesting he reformat his ideas for your hallowed consumption.  I'd say any half-intelligent human being knows exactly what he's trying to say without requiring.... wait... that probably explains the deluge of responses he got from fucking morons.

Never mind.  As you were.


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< Message edited by 0ldhen -- 8/9/2011 10:42:24 PM >

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:42:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Shit ! They dont DO ANYTHING ELSE! This is THEIR LIVES... this is IT! They are on EVERY POST every time!

Dont bother to ask any questions because the answer is, ---> these people obviously have no life whatsoever but post all day, every day, and think, breathe, obsess and post BDSM all day long.

and to asnwer the bullshit that is going to follow my post: don't kid yourselves.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/9/2011 10:44:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: JanahX

Shit ! They dont DO ANYTHING ELSE! This is THEIR LIVES... this is IT! They are on EVERY POST every time!




pot.....kettle......black......

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/10/2011 9:04:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro

I was wondering, what would you be called if you were a powerful intellligent person who just so happend to share someone's kinks, you didn't need to belong to someone in a 24/7 D/s relationship?
You wouldn't be a slave or a submissive so what would you be?


Um, I would just be me. I am a powerful, intelligent person who happens to be kinky but I don't NEED to belong to someone. I simply WANT to. I have made it on my own wonderfully and could again with no problem. I don't need to be owned, I just choose to be. You don't have to "call it" anything. It's just who/what I am........luci

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/10/2011 10:13:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro
I was wondering, what would you be called if you were a powerful intellligent person who just so happend to share someone's kinks.....


I would probably call it "a powerful, intelligent person who just happens to share someone's kink".  See, wasn't that easy? 

But in all seriousness, I've never quite understood why kinksters feel the need to find a label for everything.  If you and your partner like doing it, then continue doing it.  Does it really matter what it's called?

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/10/2011 2:36:53 PM   
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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/10/2011 4:40:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		i would still be a slave its inherrent in my make up to do and please others. 

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/10/2011 6:48:40 PM   
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Damn. Right again.
Told you so.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/11/2011 1:54:57 AM   
nephandi


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I consider myself to be a strong, intelligent woman, and yet I am submissive. Being submissive do not mean that one is weak or that one is stupid. Also being submissive do not mean that one is in or desires a 24/7 relationship. However I get the feeling that the word you are looking for is bottom, someone who are into kink and BDSM but mostly in the bedroom.

Now these definitions are contested, not all agree with them, but generally the terms I use are.

Slave: Someone who belong to someone else in a TPE relationship, there might be some terms to the relationship but generally the slave submits once and then is completely under the rule of his or her owner.

Submissive: Someone who either serves others or wish to, they might want a 24/7 relationship or not, but basically being submissive is a big part of who they are. However unlike a slave the submissive negotiates terms and a submissive is not property they however prefer a relationship where the other person is the boss.

Bottom: Someone who enjoy kinky sex, and enjoy submitting in the bedroom.

I wish you well

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/11/2011 7:21:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DrElectro

I was wondering, what would you be called if you were a powerful intellligent person who just so happend to share someone's kinks, you didn't need to belong to someone in a 24/7 D/s relationship?
You wouldn't be a slave or a submissive so what would you be?



I have a friend that has no interest in a D/s relationship. She's strictly into BDSM play sessions and kinky sex. She refers to herself as a masochistic bottom.

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RE: The powerful sub? - 8/11/2011 9:26:12 AM   
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