IrishMist -> RE: Alcohol vs Cigarettes (8/9/2011 9:48:54 AM)
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I used to smoke. Every day, 3 packs a day up until about 6 years ago. I stopped, not because of a campaign, not because I was being kicked out of places, not because I had to step outside if I wanted to smoke. I stopped because I was asked by my daughter. She asked me not because she was worried of the health risks, but because according to her, it was hypricritical of me to advise her not to smoke while I was doing so. She was right. I used to drink. Now I don't. Not because of any 'potential' health risks ( at least, not in what you would consider health risks ) but because when I drink, I get mean and go looking for reasons to start trouble. This tendency was pointed out to me more than 20 years ago. I stopped drinking at that time because the person who pointed it out to me was right. What's more, I did not drink to get a buzz, get drunk, or because I enjoyed it to that degree. I drank because it made the violence clearer, more acute. All my older children drink. That is their choice, one they made once they were adult enough to accept responsibility for their actions. Two of those older children also smoke. Once again, it's a choice they made themselves. They did not start until after they had left my house. Never would I think to try and tell them that they can't drink, smoke, eat too much, spend too much, etc etc. They are adults. The choices they make are their own. I can advise, but I would never think to step over the line that I believe should be there. The same will hold true with the youngest who will be leaving for college next year. Once she leaves, it becomes her choice and her responsibility. If a person wants to drink or wants to smoke, that is their perogative. It's not my place to tell them that they can't. It's not my place to lecture them on the dangers that may or may not be there. They are adults; and as adults, have earned the right to make their own choices/mistakes in life. A harsh stance to take, perhaps, but I have seen enough of the 'wrong' side of life to KNOW that they are more than capable of weighing the pro's and con's of each; what's more, if they wish to be treated as adults in this area, than they can do so and accept the responsibility of consequenses that come with it.
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