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Kana -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 5:58:27 AM)

I start to consider it extreme play when the power tools come out.
She sees the air hammer and just starts flipping...and we won't even discuss the drill



mnottertail -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 6:02:35 AM)

OK, honey.....tonight we are going to try the big vibrator

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HannahLynHeather -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 7:49:55 AM)

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It's remarks and attitudes like these that give BDSM a bad name.
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no. don't be so fucking dumb. what gives bdsm a bad name is that we beat the living shit out of each other. we carve pictures into people without anesthetic, we shove needles and pins and skewers through peoples most tender body parts, we nail tits and balls to tables, we beat, burn, bruise, and brand people for kicks. we're really very sick motherfuckers, and that's what gives bdsm a bad name, ok? got it?

now to the op. i guess i would define extreme play as anything that ends with the one or both of you in the fucking er without it being an accident. averything else is just fooling around.



Icarys -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 7:51:21 AM)

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now to the op. i guess i would define extreme play as anything that ends with the one or both of you in the fucking er without it being an accident. averything else is just fooling around.

lol



ThatsMissBitch -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:22:53 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Kana

I start to consider it extreme play when the power tools come out.
She sees the air hammer and just starts flipping...and we won't even discuss the drill



LOL oh good my staple gun can stay it is not a power tool but it is fun to make pictures on the butt with it.



stoni23 -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:31:16 AM)

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no. don't be so fucking dumb. what gives bdsm a bad name is that we beat the living shit out of each other. we carve pictures into people without anesthetic, we shove needles and pins and skewers through peoples most tender body parts, we nail tits and balls to tables, we beat, burn, bruise, and brand people for kicks. we're really very sick motherfuckers, and that's what gives bdsm a bad name, ok? got it?


I could care less about what other people think that are vanilla; they will never accept us. I'm talking about new people that are starting the journey, and are off put by rude behavior. If I'm someone timid and shy and just starting to look into things that have been ground into me to be socially wrong, and start asking questions on a message board only to be met with hostility I'm going to start questioning this path I'm undertaking. Me personally, you can hurl insults at me all day and I could care less, but lots of other people aren't so thick skinned as me...

For people on the outside, they could care less how rude we are, because they will never get beyond our kinkiness and what we deem acceptable fun.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:42:31 AM)

. . . even a grain of sand is dangerous in the right hands. 

A cane can be erotic . . . press it on her clit and quickly tap the shaft with a knife until the vibrations make her come.
A cane can be stimulating . . . lay the cane against the inner thigh, hold it there, pull the tip back and snap it leaving temporary stingy red marks.
A cane can be painful . . . draw the cane back for a full length stroke, keeping your wrist firm and you will leave some ouchy red welts and a burning glow that will last a day.
A cane can be brutal . . . whipping your wrist at the end of the stroke so the cane hits at lightening speed will lay flesh bare leaving painful bruises and open wounds that last for days.  
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Some of the gear you mentioned certainly isn't 'slap & tickle' but it isn't necessarily edge play unless you get extreme with it.  In my world, there are few things people practice that make them edge players in my book.  They create a physical or mental extreme that is brutal and/or fearful and/or dangerous by taking the art-form and their scene partner to the limits.    



LadyPact -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:45:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatsMissBitch
LOL well I am an insomniac and probably bored too but I really just wanted to see other peoples idea of extreme. The boards were boring the chat rooms even more boring and I like discussions.

Ah, cool.  We'll probably get to have a number of future nights to yap about stuff, one insomniac to another.  [;)]

I can't say I consider the list itself extreme.  Enjoying playing with those mentioned, Myself, I understand that there is a scale.  Needles I actually consider pretty tame, but I get great space from using them.  I get just as much of a thrill from using a 25G as I do a 16G.  To the outside observer though, the latter can be enough to scare someone silly.  For electricity, the device that you use can make all of the difference in the world.  A TENS unit just isn't as much fun to watch as a violet wand.  Fire can actually be pretty darn simple and is more about the showmanship than anything else.  These days, folks ask to be taught on that more than just about anything, even though it's little more than a parlor trick.

Cuttings are the ones that I consider more intimate.  I don't consider those casual play.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:50:38 AM)

never mind. i'll start a thread to discuss it.

<see even the psycho fuck bitch is learning. [;)]>



windchymes -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:53:27 AM)

If feathers, silk scarves and blindfolds can be at the "light" end of the bdsm spectrum, then I'd consider knives, scalpels & electricity up at the "extreme" end, yeah.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 8:59:54 AM)


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ORIGINAL: stoni23

I could care less about what other people think that are vanilla; they will never accept us. I'm talking about new people that are starting the journey, and are off put by rude behavior. If I'm someone timid and shy and just starting to look into things that have been ground into me to be socially wrong, and start asking questions on a message board only to be met with hostility I'm going to start questioning this path I'm undertaking. Me personally, you can hurl insults at me all day and I could care less, but lots of other people aren't so thick skinned as me...

For people on the outside, they could care less how rude we are, because they will never get beyond our kinkiness and what we deem acceptable fun.


Sheesh, thick skinned isn't what I would use for you, more having the blinkers on...

Vanilla people just don't care much what we do because it's not their cup of tea, and if they don't accept you, it's YOU, unless of course you force your kink on them, they simply won't know. I don't want to know how casual acquaintances or friends fuck, none of my business, so I extend the same courtesy I expect to them and don't tell them about my kinks unless they ask. No problem with acceptance.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 9:17:12 AM)

It seems like needles, cutting, etc are becoming mainstream. I certainly don't consider them extreme! But I have always enjoyed blood, my own and other people's.

I think that anything done in an unsafe manner is extreme. Ignoring fluid issues--extreme. Unsafe rigging---extreme. That sort of thing.



stoni23 -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 9:41:35 AM)

I'm talking about the community in general LadyConstanze, not individuals. Vanillas are not accepting of the lifestyle and what us lifestylers deem acceptable fun. I'm perfectly ok with that. They have their way of life, we have ours. I do not force my kink onto anybody. In fact, none of my vanilla friends/family are even aware of the stuff I do behind closed doors.



LadyConstanze -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 9:47:46 AM)

Quite a few of them are accepting, depending on how you explain it, no need to go into detail or force it on them, but if they ask, giving them a bit of info, if they want to know more you can always offer more.



stoni23 -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 10:07:06 AM)

Yes of course, there are always exceptions to the rule. I have had friends in the past (well, one friend actually) that I was able to confide in. He called me crazy, but he was accepting. In general though, most people simply don't understand.



MissImmortalPain -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 1:14:35 PM)

Extreme play = blue boy breath play, 48+ hours suspension, flogging someone with razor wire <examples and just my opinion.



agirl -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 1:22:55 PM)

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ORIGINAL: stoni23

quote:

no. don't be so fucking dumb. what gives bdsm a bad name is that we beat the living shit out of each other. we carve pictures into people without anesthetic, we shove needles and pins and skewers through peoples most tender body parts, we nail tits and balls to tables, we beat, burn, bruise, and brand people for kicks. we're really very sick motherfuckers, and that's what gives bdsm a bad name, ok? got it?


I could care less about what other people think that are vanilla; they will never accept us. I'm talking about new people that are starting the journey, and are off put by rude behavior. If I'm someone timid and shy and just starting to look into things that have been ground into me to be socially wrong, and start asking questions on a message board only to be met with hostility I'm going to start questioning this path I'm undertaking. Me personally, you can hurl insults at me all day and I could care less, but lots of other people aren't so thick skinned as me...

For people on the outside, they could care less how rude we are, because they will never get beyond our kinkiness and what we deem acceptable fun.


Argh, it's *couldn't care less*. God, I've held that in for ages........and just to exorcise my frustration completely........it's ETC..NOT ECT............

ahh, I feel better now.

agirl



SillyMan -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 1:24:07 PM)

Harsh looks and a slightly pouty flounce.

consider yourself done

sm



windchymes -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 1:32:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

It seems like needles, cutting, etc are becoming mainstream. I certainly don't consider them extreme! But I have always enjoyed blood, my own and other people's.

I think that anything done in an unsafe manner is extreme. Ignoring fluid issues--extreme. Unsafe rigging---extreme. That sort of thing.


Fair enough.....so what do we call the stuff in the middle like knives, scalpels, needles, bullwhips, fire, electricity, etc. that cause mayhem but no one is in immediate danger of dying? [;)]



agirl -> RE: Extreme Play? (8/12/2011 1:43:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: windchymes


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

It seems like needles, cutting, etc are becoming mainstream. I certainly don't consider them extreme! But I have always enjoyed blood, my own and other people's.

I think that anything done in an unsafe manner is extreme. Ignoring fluid issues--extreme. Unsafe rigging---extreme. That sort of thing.


Fair enough.....so what do we call the stuff in the middle like knives, scalpels, needles, bullwhips, fire, electricity, etc. that cause mayhem but no one is in immediate danger of dying? [;)]


We call it * stuff we do*. What's extreme to us is childsplay to others........ and vice versa.

Let's be frank...... a bullwhip can just nip your skin, fireplay can mean anything from firewool, firecotton to being on the receiving end of balls of flame. Everything you mentioned can be as tame as tame...or as frightening as fuck.

agirl





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