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LillyBoPeep -> RE: released (8/12/2011 6:18:36 AM)
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well, it kinda did "just happen;" 4 days really isn't that much time. hanging out with friends is a good idea, or doing some of your favorite things. just be really nice to yourself and take it easy. dealing with loss of any kind isn't going to be neat and clean, and it could even take twice as long as you were together to get over it. you miss the person, you miss the relationship, you miss your hopes for the future, etc etc. there's a lot involved there.
have you ever kept a journal? those can be really helpful for getting things off your chest. the thing with relying on other people to talk to is that, inevitably, they get bored of listening. they get this "aren't you over that yet?" thing going on, and if you aren't when they think you should be, they can't really relate to you anymore.
the bulk of the "Getting over it" process is a solo mission, you know?
for me, after my Person died, the first couple of months were cycling between numbness and rage. when i came out of that cloud, people didn't seem to understand that i still needed to talk. all they saw was the passage of time, and, to them, that meant something. to me, it didn't. i'd been in suspended animation the whole time.
i did meet one girl who had the same thing happen to her at just about the same time, and we became really good friends and could talk about anything. so maybe talking to someone in a similar boat will at least help you feel like what you're feeling is normal. on fetlife (if you're there) there's a group called Submissives/Slaves/Bottoms without Dominants, and a lot of people find it helpful when they're either getting out of a relationship, or working towards being ready to start a new one.
good luck and good, glittery thoughts to you!
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