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Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/15/2011 9:48:31 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline 		Hello Ladies.

Even though I have some experience with BDSM in life, I am new to the online BDSM scene. My lack of that experience got me in a bit of a dilemma or a puzzle when it comes to a profile picture. You see, I have enetered as much honest info as I could about myself through the profile page, but when it come to choosing a profile picture - I'm clueless.

I do not know what kind of picture Ladies like to see when they are going through sub's profiles. I am not asking this so much as to find out how to be liked more, I am actually curious to understand what the actual Ladies perspective on the subject is. I don't want to do everything properly and then put some picture that is regarded as inadequate, offensive or just plain wrong.

Are there any tips or guidelines that you might want to share with me and help me please you more by presenting myself properly?


Thank you in advance,

Morikvendi
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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/15/2011 10:09:19 PM   
peppermint


Posts: 5171
Joined: 10/18/2005
From: Montana
Status: offline 		The very first thread in the Ask a Mistress forum is an FAQ.  Read that and you will find many good hints to make your profile better. 



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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/15/2011 10:32:56 PM   
MissJana


Posts: 112
Joined: 6/10/2007
Status: offline 		I personally like a good face pic. What you have up is quite good. 

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/15/2011 11:22:47 PM   
seekingreality


Posts: 599
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Morikvendi

Hello Ladies.

Even though I have some experience with BDSM in life, I am new to the online BDSM scene. My lack of that experience got me in a bit of a dilemma or a puzzle when it comes to a profile picture. You see, I have enetered as much honest info as I could about myself through the profile page, but when it come to choosing a profile picture - I'm clueless.

I do not know what kind of picture Ladies like to see when they are going through sub's profiles. I am not asking this so much as to find out how to be liked more, I am actually curious to understand what the actual Ladies perspective on the subject is. I don't want to do everything properly and then put some picture that is regarded as inadequate, offensive or just plain wrong.

Are there any tips or guidelines that you might want to share with me and help me please you more by presenting myself properly?


Thank you in advance,

Morikvendi



Based on my experience with many dommes, they want pretty much the same thing they'd want on a vanilla dating site -- a clear, close picture of your face that reflects what you look like in real life. They also want to get a basic idea of your physique looks like. But most of them prefer you are fully clothed and hardly any have an interest in seeing a picture of your dick.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/15/2011 11:24:12 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline 		Thank you for your kind replies, I apologize for not noticing the topic in "Ask the Mistres" section. I am new and still finding my way around.
I will make sure to read it.
:)



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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 12:35:54 AM   
MistressDarkArt


Posts: 5178
Status: offline 		Stay with your profile picture, I think it's fine. If you want to add other shots of you out and about in your world doing g-rated things you enjoy, that would be great. Keep your clothes on. Also, kudos on your profile. I appreciate that you avoided a kinky laundry list and were clear you are only looking for a casual alliance. While many women here might want something more, you were honest and everyone knows where they stand. Good luck in your search, enjoy your time here and hope you find what you're looking for.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 4:13:40 AM   
LadyConstanze


Posts: 9722
Joined: 2/18/2005
Status: offline 		The profile seems fine, and as great as it is to have a face there, maybe you should think about if you can afford to have the picture of your face in the profile, it's different if you share it in a CMail or on the profile where even the casual browsing person can see it, of course a lot depends on your personal circumstances, how "out" you are and what kind of work you do.

While I like face shots in profiles, I often wonder if the person thought it all through and is prepared for possible problems, maybe if you just use shadows and light a bit?



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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 6:17:42 AM   
Daddysredhead


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From: Northern (yet still part of the South) Virginia
Status: offline 		I think your photo is nice and your profile is good, too. Best of luck finding your Lady.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 3:41:05 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline 		I would like to thank you all for your comments and advices, I really appreciate them!
You have made me feel welcome here.

I have spent some time reading in the "Ask the Mistress" section as I promised. I have also followed some of the very useful links posted by some members and I must say that I have learned a lot. I would like to apologize to any of the Ladies that might have received my cmails before I knew what I know now.
Also, even though some of you told me that my profile looks OK, I think I might work on it a little bit more.

If you notice any more things in my profile that might need some fine tuning (or major overhauls), don't be shy to tell me and I can promise that I will do my best to present the true me, whatever that might be.


Thank you all again,

Morikvendi

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 6:56:31 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline 		Profile updated, looking forward to comments.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 7:14:12 PM   
MistressDarkArt


Posts: 5178
Status: offline 		Very chivalrous update, Morik. If you lived in California I would definitely want to meet you :-)

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 7:36:44 PM   
NovaDomme01


Posts: 15
Joined: 12/2/2010
Status: offline 		I think the picture you chose is perfect and your profile is very well written.  It's nice to see someone take the time to actually put something in a profile that tells you about themselves.  And it definitely stands out from the norm here on CM, which is a good thing.  :-)  Great work!

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/16/2011 8:55:42 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline 		Thank you Ladies, I am glad you like my work.


For the sake of all future readers (you can thank Ferns for this), I have moved the looong "sexual submissive" definiton in the Journal section of my profile.
Now I need to add a couple of pictures and then I think I will be satisfied.


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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/17/2011 11:46:46 AM   
ElanSubdued


Posts: 1511
Status: offline 		Morikvendi,

It's not often I find myself writing the following after reading a male submissive's profile:  excellent work and a thoroughly enjoyable read.  Your personality, writing skills, and breadth of life experience wear well on you.  I wouldn't change anything.  Your picture works well too.  Bravo.

quote:

...you can thank Ferns for this...


You have most excellent taste in the company you keep.  This speaks highly for you too. :-)

Elan.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/17/2011 12:14:33 PM   
VaguelyCurious


Posts: 5264
Joined: 12/2/2009
From: United Kingdom
Status: offline 		Innit! Ferns rocks my socks, yes she does.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/17/2011 2:24:59 PM   
PeonForHer


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Joined: 9/27/2008
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quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

quote:

...you can thank Ferns for this...


You have most excellent taste in the company you keep.  This speaks highly for you too. :-)

Elan.




Seconded. OP, take good notice of Ferns. She's wise, kind, and - unusually - somehow manages actually to like men despite being a female who's got beyond the age of 30.

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/17/2011 10:19:50 PM   
Morikvendi


Posts: 10
Joined: 12/14/2010
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

Morikvendi,

It's not often I find myself writing the following after reading a male submissive's profile:  excellent work and a thoroughly enjoyable read.  Your personality, writing skills, and breadth of life experience wear well on you.  I wouldn't change anything.  Your picture works well too.  Bravo.

quote:

...you can thank Ferns for this...


You have most excellent taste in the company you keep.  This speaks highly for you too. :-)

Elan.



Thank you for your kind words, Elan.

As for the Lady Ferns, I am truly lucky and really happy that she found me worth her efforts. As PeonForHer have mentioned, her wisdom and kindness are really priceless.

I would like to thank all of you who wrote to me for your warm welcome, I see that I will be spending more time here than what I could have hoped or imagined.
:)

I am pleasantly surprised, indeed!



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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/17/2011 11:35:09 PM   
MistressRosalyn


Posts: 908
Joined: 8/16/2009
Status: offline 		Yep, very nice all around! Makes me wish you were in Arizona, and liked older buxom blonde Dommes! The picture is real and rugged enough, the profile is well-thought out and amusing...I wish you the best of luck!

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/18/2011 2:46:49 AM   
MistressRosalyn


Posts: 908
Joined: 8/16/2009
Status: offline 		No! No! Go back to the other photo you had...much more enticing! This picture has been used by at least 20 other subs. All very lovely and good, and if you really want to be a knight, join the SCA. 

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RE: Sub men profile picture puzzle - 8/18/2011 6:08:13 AM   
kalikshama


Posts: 14805
Joined: 8/8/2010
Status: offline 		I agree; go back to yesterday's picture.

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