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hardyballzee -> Understanding Ballbusting (8/17/2011 5:31:34 AM)
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It is one of the strangest fetishes out there or at least made out to be that way by those outside of it.
To those who may be unaware of this form of BDSM it is any form of torture on a man's testicles, usually done in the form of kicking, kneeing, punching and or squeezing. Sometimes it is practiced with tools and devices.
There are varying levels of ballbusting. There are those who like only a small amount of pain. A few light squeezes and their needs are met. Some require a much more severe form of punishment. If you haven't put them into the hospital and made it so they cannot have children, then they aren't happy.
Most of us who are into ballbusting fall into the category to where we don't want to be seriously or permanently injured, but yet given enough pain to know that it has happened.
While their are true state of the line freaks amoung us, most of us are decent people. We're not horrible, sadistic, going to do all sorts of immoral and evils things sort of people. We're the same kind of guys and girls you hang out with, that have normal jobs, normal activities and normal lives. We just enjoy ballbusting.
It's morality is debatable and at best left subjective, but it's overall acceptance is purely a numbers game. It is no more strange than liking taking it up the butt. If done properly and safely, it is no more dangerous either. The difference is taking it up the butt has become socially acceptable, whereas ballbusting is still underground.
In many ways ballbusting and other extreme forms of masochism are to the world today what homosexuality was to the world 30-50 years ago. There was a time when homosexuality was shunned and made out to be an abomination by about everyone. Today only extremely relgious radicals are that way. Homosexuality is accepted and you are in the minority if you are judgmental of it. Homosexuals no longer have to hide in the closet and contemplate suicide if the world finds out about their secret. If you want the future of ballbusting, study the history of the world's acceptance of homosexuality.
Ballbusting IS a fetish I state this because based on previous threads that I have read on this board and others many don't seem to understand that.
Some suggest to walk up to a woman and either say or do something derogatory to make her mad enough to kick you in the balls. That is NOT ballbusting. Those who seek ballbusting aren't wanting to upset or verbally insult someone who doesn't want to be. We want someone who is into the activity who is going to enjoy it along with us.
If your fetish is getting spanked, would you walk into a crowded room of people, scream that you've been a bad girl and demand a spanking? Would you walk up to a man in public and do all you could to try and get him to choke you if your fetish was choking? No, most likely you wouldn't. You'd want to be within the comfort of privacy getting spanked or choked, or whatever. We're the same way.
We no more want our private desires made public than you want yours. Do you want everything you do behind closed doors to be made public so that the whole world knows what you're doing? It has nothing to do with embarassment or being ashamed. It has everything to do with respect and privacy.
Ballbusting is often a SEXUAL fetish
If a random girl were to just walk up and kick me or a girl who was mad at me for some reason were to come up and kick me, it would make me angry and I wouldn't enjoy it. To many of us ballbusting is just like any other form of sex. It's not like we want kicked anywhere at anytime by anyone. We want busted in certain places with certain people.
The same goes for girls who are into ballbusting. I see people suggest to them that if they enjoy kicking men in the balls, to just go up to guys and kick them. That is sadistic, wrong and cruel. (Not to mention illegal) It is a form of assualt, abuse and borderline rape. A mean spirited woman would do that, and that is NOT ballbusting. Ballbusting, is once again like any other form of sex. It should be consensual and enjoyable for BOTH members.
Furthermore the suggestion of finding another male interested in ballbusting and then ballbusting eachother doesn't work for most into ballbusting. For homosexuals into ballbusting and for those into ballbusting who do not look at ballbusting as a sexual fetish, it is. For all others, it is NOT.
A true heterosexual male would not allow a man to suck his dick. A true heterosexual male would not have sex with another male. These activities he would like to do with a woman. Same goes for ballbusting.
Ballbusting is nothing to be ashamed of or embarassed about. It is no more different than any other fetish involving pain like spanking, choking or slapping. Unfortunately though it is still very unaccepted and judged rather harshly by many. Therefore many who seek ballbusting partners use websites like collarme.com to try and find those interested, rather than try and get those who know nothing about it into it.
Ballbusting certainly isn't for everyone. There are some no matter what is explained to them that are going to keep their "It's an abomination" attitude and views.
The men and women of the world that enjoy ballbusting however need a voice and I hope that I have provided that.
We are NOT incredibly screwed up, evil or anything else someone would say degrading people that some make us out to be. We are simply people, as are you, with the same walks of life. Only difference is, we enjoy ballbusting.
Thank you for reading. I welcome questions, further insight and argument.
UPDATE
Someone asked me in a PM, "Why do you enjoy it?"
I'll address the question by saying this.
A lot of people have a hard time conceiving that someone would enjoy such an activity. For men who are not into it, it's because they do not associate any pleasure with having it done to them. I personally do not enjoy benig choked, whipped or spanked. I would keep no less than 500 feet away from any woman that wanted to shove a strapon up my butt. However, I respect that some enjoy these activities. I ask in return the same respect for what I enjoy.
For women it's hard to conceive, because they usually associate this action as a form of malicious attack, revenge or protection. They do not see how it could possibly be enjoyable.
Let me say this to perhaps help with the confusion.
(My personal take)
When sexually arroused (horny) getting hurt there (slapped, squeezed, punched, kicked, kneed) it is a lot like a very rough massage. One where it hurts but feels good at the exact same time. If you've ever had a big bruise and felt a strange sensation of pain and pleasure as you press on it, getting kicked in the balls when I'm sexually arroused, is a lot like that for me.
I hope that answers that question.
Once again, thanks for the read.
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