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OsideGirl -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 7:25:46 AM)


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ORIGINAL: PhageSylver

Well when random dom's message me and calling me things like "sub", they get a serious bug up their ass if I politely ask them to call me by the name i was given. I mean, yeah i'm a submissive but i do like when people use my name, Master calls me by name, why can't anyone else? of course then they say I have an attitude problem and say a good "beating" would suit me well.
You're upset about a bunch of people on the internet. The best thing to do is not to give a crap what they think. There's only one person whose opinion matters.



Nineviles -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 8:05:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PhageSylver

by backbone. I mean not letting someone treat them like a doormat, that they shouldn't just bow down to every tom dick and harry who calls themselves a master or a dom. I get flack from other men who say they are doms because they "demand" I call them master or sir upon first message. By backbone i mean a female or male submissive that knows what they want, but aren't afraid to stand up for themselves when some asshole treats them like they should just bow on the sole reason of them being submissive.


How can they get in the pants of a woman if she has a backbone? Backbone no good to man looking for a fuck-puppet



Nineviles -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 8:06:37 AM)

Good advice but she may not be "all" that upset really.



coookie -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 1:58:35 PM)

Some dominants want submissives who are less assertive other dominants want submissives who are more aggressive. Collarme is like the changing rooms at Walmart. Not everything fits so ya do a quick try on and then leave it on the rack.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 2:10:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: coookie

Some dominants want submissives who are less assertive other dominants want submissives who are more aggressive. Collarme is like the changing rooms at Walmart. Not everything fits so ya do a quick try on and then leave it on the rack.


I hafta email sunny and nominate this for the quote of the day.

It's so very true.

And yeah, my Domly man would not be willing to deal with me if I wasn't strong and independent. He doesn't want to bother micromanaging; he wants someone who can deal with life and report as needed.



sunshinemiss -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/19/2011 2:27:33 PM)

Sunny
Quote of the Day
goes to
coookie

for
Collarme is like the changing rooms at Walmart.
Not everything fits so ya do a quick try on and then leave it on the rack.
[sm=laundry.gif]

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3813520/mpage_2/key_/tm.htm#3815832



poise -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/20/2011 7:32:11 AM)

I wonder if perhaps the reason you are attracting this type of man
so often in such a short time, is due to the tone of your profile.
You seem to be defensive right out of the starting gate.
I've spent a good year here, and have yet to be approached in that manner.



coookie -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/20/2011 11:27:17 AM)

[:D]

woohoo



Manawyddan -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:34:21 AM)

Why would i want to be with a woman who had no opinions of her own and nothing to say? How utterly boring.



littlewonder -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 9:48:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Manawyddan

Why would i want to be with a woman who had no opinions of her own and nothing to say? How utterly boring.


......or how utterly subservient




Epytropos -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 10:04:51 AM)

I've found that 'backbone' is not a term which has any real definition. Mostly people just use it to mean whatever is convenient at the time. Many use it to mean "I get to be a bratty little bitch and if you don't tolerate it you're threatened by my strong personality" which is absolutely not going to fly with me. Others simply use it to mean someone who has opinions of their own, which is fine if expressed respectfully.

More often than not, though, I see it used as an excuse for insolence and self-aggrandizement, so seeing someone use it to describe themselves tends to send up a little red flag for me. I don't expect a sub to give up her entire personality, but if I say don't do a certain thing or speak to a certain issue that is not a polite suggestion and the only thing showing 'backbone' about it will get you is disregarded.



hawtfluffydame -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 2:30:56 PM)

My Dom is not a "On your knees btch" Dom. I enjoy that we joke that if he had a slave he would be bored he wants someone with brains. I have a personality and I am a strong woman  in every other aspect in life. I love the fact my Dom lets me be who I am outside of the bedroom and that is a strong woman. I have met a few before him who were not like that; so I started telling Dom's right away that I am a brat. 



lally2 -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 3:40:43 PM)

lol.  i hope youre not suggesting that slaves are brainless, spineless blimps or anything [sm=paddle.gif]



coookie -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:00:50 PM)

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we joke that if he had a slave he would be bored he wants someone with brains


I think there are more than a few people who identify as slaves here who have exhibited that they actually have splendid brains and actually voice their ideas as well. It is rude to imply otherwise.



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:23:28 PM)

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I always ignore emails from anyone who sounds like he came here after buying Submissive Women's Secrets
I notice that the Lesbian Sex Secrets is valued higher than any of the others. I guess he's admitting that we get more girls. GO LEZBOS!!



HannahLynHeather -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:28:00 PM)

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"hey useless piece of whore meat, send me pics."
i always send those fuckers pics. the first pic is some random porn shot, because that's the one they see when they hover, and the rest are all pics of majorly well fucking hung guys. [:D]



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:34:31 PM)

You had me right up til this bit
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or speak to a certain issue

Sorry, but to me that screams "I'm weak. I'm afraid of your intelligence."



Epytropos -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:52:30 PM)

There aren't topics you don't care to speak on? I'm not going to specify what I'm talking about because it's a rather personal issue, but I don't think I'm alone in having things I don't care to hold discussions on with any regularity.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 5:57:31 PM)

not with her there aren't. she can discuss any fucking thing with me, that's just part and parcel of being in love.



poise -> RE: A strong, independent submissive. (8/21/2011 6:20:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: hawtfluffydame

My Dom is not a "On your knees btch" Dom. I enjoy that we joke that if he had a slave he would be bored he wants someone with brains. I have a personality and I am a strong woman  in every other aspect in life. I love the fact my Dom lets me be who I am outside of the bedroom and that is a strong woman. I have met a few before him who were not like that; so I started telling Dom's right away that I am a brat.


You just went in a complete circle here.
You spend a few paragraphs declaring how you are a strong willed woman filled
with personality and brains (gasp), yet in the end, you call yourself a brat?
Why can't you just be a strong willed woman with personality and brains?
Duh. [:-]



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