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RE: Bad Habit Breaking - 5/22/2006 5:35:06 PM

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Julia...it's not the old "do as I say, not as I do." I try to lead by example.
If I want to break a vice, habit, or addiction, of someone else, I had better be able to look myself in the mirror first and know I'm not a hipocryte.

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RE: Bad Habit Breaking - 5/22/2006 6:28:51 PM

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

There was another post in Ask Submissives forum that spurred me to ask a general question of dominants when it comes to encouraging weight loss within their subs, or wanting them to stop other bad habits. Actually there are several questions I have for you.

1) Would you (have you) demanded a sub lose weight or some other bad habit to either gain your commitment to her or to keep it?

I have. A slave I took under my wing was put on a diet of my design, and her weight dropped dramatically over the months. She was made to keep an updated journal on a daily basis, recording her progress so that it could be monitored.

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2) If you would (or have) demanded a sub lose weight, quit smoking, quit drinking, do you have the same problem yourself?

I do not drink heavily, take drugs or have a weight problem. Why should a dominant—male or female—enfeeble and contradict themselves with a vice or weakness? If they cannot master themselves, how can they be expected to master others?

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3) Would you lead by example if you expected your sub to quit a bad habit such as overeating by exercising with the sub or eating the same low cal food as the sub? Would you quit smoking if you demanded your sub quit?

Leading by example is always a good idea; as a Master or Mistress, one should exude the very air of discipline, of mastery over themselves and the material world around them. They are respectable, not only in their thoughts and actions, but in the form and expression of their very being.

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4) Do you think it is ok to demand that the sub quits the same bad habits that you have? (like smoking, overeating, drinking?) When you are not prepared to do it yourself, do you think a dominant should lead by example?

While I firmly believe that self-mastery is important, I likewise understand that not all need or should answer to their servants. Some are submissives entitled to displays of kudos and personal appreciation from their dominants, where others are slaves that are entitled to nothing—even the right of pointing out double-standards in the decrees of their owners.

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RE: Bad Habit Breaking - 5/22/2006 7:41:05 PM

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Depending on the bad habit I want to change in her I try to encourage her by supporting her and if they do not do what I request of them they get spanked. The number one bad habit I consider a no no is talking bad about them in front me. I usually warn then verbal then the second time they get spanked for they need to build their self esteem up not to tear it down. I am interest in building then tearing down the sub or slave down. What every the dominate does they got to get them to brake the habit with in the confines of the protocol is better for her so she can focus more on serving you. You must be able to set the goal that attainable and reachable for them if you do not then they will feel bad about themselves and feel like they failed you. That is not what I want to do with her for she is my property and I take care what is mine.

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RE: Bad Habit Breaking - 5/22/2006 7:59:32 PM

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Well he could demand you get a boob job to replace the natural knockers he made you lose...LOL.... I cannot complain about the doms I have been intimate with when it comes to weight... Just the coffee drinking obsession which I think was a ploy to set me up for failure...Not the real issue.

I think some doms need to feel as though they are helping us improve ourselves. It makes them feel needed and appreciated and close to us. I do not think it is always a selfish motive, but when they truly adore you they want to feel as though they had a hand in molding the captivating creature that you are.

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RE: Bad Habit Breaking - 5/22/2006 8:03:23 PM

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Spanking is a reward for me...lol

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